In fact, the existence of real relationships in a virtual world is a mystery to many who, having woken up in the morning, first of all do not go to brush their teeth, but turn on the computer. For such people, the real relationship begins to be reduced to the messages "In Contact" and on blogs, statuses and marks "I like". But are there relationships that we perceive in this way in fact, or is it another illusion of virtual space.
So, first we need to determine which relations we mean. The fact is that there are different forms of virtual relationships. They can, for example, be called: related to reality, loosely related to reality, completely unrelated to reality.
What is the difference, and which of them can be considered real?
Relationships related to reality. To this category, we refer communication with those people who are known not only in virtual, but also in the real world. For example, we have friends with whom we communicated for more than one year, but then life scattered us to different cities. In this case, communication has to be supported through social networks, Skype or ICQ. But, communicating with a person, through letters and signs, we know what real emotions he has when he reads a message. For us, such people exist not only in the form of avatars. We remember them in the real world, we know how they laugh, how upset they are, how they are having fun. That is, in other words, they are real, three-dimensional. Communicating with them, we do not need to think out anything and create an illusion, because we already have enough information. Communicating with such friends in the virtual world is more a necessity than a desire. We simply can not meet them in the real world for one reason or another, so letters, smileys and photos help us to lose each other even when we are separated by hundreds and thousands of kilometers. Such virtual relationships can be safely called real. In addition, they are not really virtual, because they originate from long-term real communication.
Relations that are loosely related to reality. This category includes cases where people get acquainted in the real world, but do not communicate for long, and, then they continue to communicate in virtual. For example, this happens when people get acquainted in trains, at concerts, on vacations, find common interests, and then change their virtual addresses and numbers. In such situations, we can already say that we have some real impression of a person, but we can not say that we know this or that person well. As a consequence, when communicating on the Internet, we rely on our memories of a person and try to model his reactions and behavior. Of course, in this case there is already some illusion. Still it is difficult to learn and understand a person for a couple of weeks, or even a couple of days. It all depends on how much the person is sincere and open in virtual communication. If he behaves the same way as in reality, then, based on his reports, one can draw almost completely correct conclusions about what kind of person he is. But it happens that in the correspondence the person closes, or, on the contrary, behaves much more liberated, rather than in life. In this case, we need to determine for ourselves how real it is and whether it is worth believing everything that this person writes.
But, of course, there are times when a person behaves absolutely the same in both the virtual and the real world. It is noticeable by what and how he writes, how he reacts to your phrases and words. Therefore, if you are friends with such a person, then the relationship, most likely, can be called real. The main thing, never try to invent an image and idealize the interlocutor. If you know each other well enough during real communication, do not forget about it and do not separate that person from the character with whom you communicate on the Internet.
Relations that are completely unrelated to reality. This category can be attributed exactly to those cases where people are not seen in life a single time, get acquainted in social networks and communicate with each other. Are such relationships real? Probably they happen, but not as often as we would like. The fact is that by getting acquainted with a person who, in fact, is just a picture for us, we unconsciously can not reconcile with it therefore, we think out to him what we think should necessarily be in the interlocutor. Often, this, of course, is not true. But, the virtual world helps us to get the illusion of friendship and even love relationships, which those who have a real lack of communication do not want to break.
Therefore, most often people who get acquainted and communicate only in virtual, completely do not correspond to the invented image. The Internet helps them to be better, more beautiful and more confident. Very rarely happens when a person does not try to appear by someone else to please the interlocutor or, on the contrary, to prove their strength and supremacy.
If we talk about virtual love, then this feeling can be called real only in isolated cases. Agree, if you seriously think about it, an adult adequate person can not love only a picture. He needs to feel a person, see his emotions, just feel loved. Unfortunately, the photos "VKontakte" can not give us these feelings. Therefore, speaking of virtual love, we simply tell about our dreams and illusions, which we can not realize in our life.