What do men want? We do not understand their logic. They say that they value kindness and complaisance in women, but they themselves loot behind obstinate bastards. They look for an unselfish woman, but fall in love with such a "party-gerl", whose love is measured by the possibility of a man to fill her life with Gucci, Maserati, Tiffany. They dream to connect their destiny with a woman who can understand and forgive, and marry a narcissistic egotist. So where is the truth, and what are men looking for in women?
"Look, watch, listen to men, but do not believe what seems obvious in their behavior. Read between the lines! "- advise psychologists. A man wants to see beside him a complaisant woman, but not weak-willed; unselfish, but knowing its value; understanding, but having his own opinion. In the male "rider" there is a list of basic needs, the fulfillment of which will allow to find that very middle ground and give the man exactly what he expects from the relationship:
Bed
In men, it always comes first. With this you can not argue and appeal to the voice of reason, not instincts. It can only be accepted and reconciled. A man is looking for pleasure. A woman for a man is always a source of pleasure: aesthetic, sensual, physical. It is their nature, just as women have a genetic requirement for a man-earner and a defender who can provide a well-fed and safe life for her and their children. To give a man a beautiful night is a pleasant duty for a woman. A satisfied man is a humble man. A true woman will make intimate relationships an anchor, a drug, an addiction, and the man will again and again return to her for another "dose". But why go back, if you can not leave?
Fidelity
The ability to give a man a quality sex should always go complete with fidelity. Otherwise, even the most high-end romantic will be a man devalued and reduced to a primitive satisfaction of the "basic instinct." The explanation for this should also be sought in the male nature. When a man gets sexual pleasure from a woman, he thinks that now he belongs only to him, and wants to be sure that no one else will receive this pleasure from her. Therefore, men often very jealously and aggressively refer to flirting their women with other "males". Attention to them, smiles, deep decollete and even expensive underwear they can subconsciously regard as elements of a love game. Men rarely understand all these subtleties of female sexuality, and even an inoffensive smile on a man's compliment can be an excuse to question the faithfulness of his woman.
Respect and recognition
Many relationships do not develop or disintegrate due to lack of respect for a man. Women can underestimate respect in relationships, mistakenly believing that it is already implied: "I live with him, therefore, I respect." Recognition of men's merits before the family, children, work, society - an unofficial female duty. You will not respect and appreciate what a man does, he can go to seek respect in another place, and not just another woman. He, for example, can give more to work or linger with friends who respect and recognize his success, whatever he is - business, hobbies, recreation, etc. Therefore, one must respect everything in it: time, resources, talents, abilities. And most importantly, do not keep silent about it. Speak sincerely, but let it be not only words, but actions. For example, if you learn to rationally treat the money he has earned, he will understand without words that you respect his work, time and health. Respect breeds respect. It's so simple that many people do not even see this as a solution to the problems of relations. And very vain!
Gratitude and admiration
Many women find it difficult to understand, but gratitude is no less important than a bed. She will not be in a relationship with a man, he will go looking for her on the side. Unfortunately, the ability to thank and admire, as a rule, is inherent in fresh relationships. Living together for years, do any job. A man builds a house, plant a tree and raise a son, but do not take it for granted. Such an approach is fundamentally wrong! Men like children, they should be praised for the eaten porridge (especially if it is not a success today), thank for obedience (took out the garbage, bought a chandelier, took my mother-in-law to the dacha) and admire successes (painted a fence, defended a thesis, earned a million). There is no greater motivation for a man than sincere gratitude and admiration. This is real magic. Check!
Care and attention
The main thing here is to understand what is your concern for your man. Each of them has his own individual notions about the manifestation of women's care and attention. Someone is enough that a beloved woman brews coffee every morning and does not forget to throw a pinch of salt there, as a man likes; someone can not live without a daily change of handkerchiefs in the color of a shirt in the breast pocket of a working suit; and for some of the men, perhaps the highest degree of care will be to provide the woman with the family while he is on maternity leave with the child. Anyway, but rigorous observance of these daily rituals, traditions or routine routine actions turn the relationship into love.
Support
The most courageous, successful, strong and brutal man needs support. When he creates a relationship with a woman, he hopes that in the truest sense of the words these cinematographers will be "in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and in poverty, in sickness and in health." He will connect his life with that woman who, even if the whole world is against him, will stand behind him and give him cartridges. You can be useful for a man, inspire him with confidence in himself, provide support when he needs it in the air, and he will do everything and even more for you and your relationship.
Family values
The family for most men is the engine of their achievements. A man, unlike a woman, is more realized in the outside world - builds a career, achieves financial independence and recognition as a society. At a certain stage of his life, when he lays the foundation, he does not need a family. It's distracting. But does he need much for himself? No. New achievements begin to lose meaning, and external realization no longer gives him the former fullness of the sense of life. Statistics do not lie when it claims that family men live longer. They have someone to live for. In children, in their wives, in their joint living, they find a deep meaning and realization of their ancient instincts. Attract the man with family values, show the advantages of family life, make him dependent on your love, and he will remain with you forever.