Sometimes the entire process of going to sleep lasts at least two hours. The book is re-read, the lullaby is sung three times already, but the child does not sleep. Can teach a child to fall asleep by himself. And how can this be done? To make this a reality is real. Although this will require some knowledge and skills. Of course, all children are different, therefore, each of them will require a personal approach.
Although there is no single recipe for universal action, it is still possible for parents to propose a specific scheme that can be adjusted from time to time. In addition, parents should feel whether their child is ready for certain actions or can wait.
It is important to remember that an individual approach to the child must be shown from his birth. Many babies can fall asleep on their own from the first months after birth. As a rule, these are slow, quiet kids. Emotional and mobile children often can not sleep on their own. A small child is not in a position to regulate the state of excitation and inhibition himself, so by the evening the child will not be able to stop himself. Any attempts by parents to stop this will be accompanied by vagaries and even hysteria.
Even the babies fall asleep at the mom's arms, closer to the chest. This is because the baby needs a mother's warmth. In his mother's arms, he feels that he is safe. In such cases it is useless to do anything, better wait until the child grows up a bit.
At what age can you teach a child to fall asleep on his own? About a year you need to teach your baby to fall asleep by himself. It is difficult to determine exactly from what age to begin to teach the child to fall asleep on its own. One child from three years already plays chess, and the other just starts talking. This requires a differentiated approach. First, you just need to start with the process of preparing for bed.
Closer to the evening, the child needs to be transferred to a more peaceful regime and less active games. Entertain the kid with the help of familiar toys and stories or fairy tales. In the process of communication from time to time, the child should be left alone in the room. Parents must constantly monitor the state of the child, so that he is not nervous, and not addicted to the game. All actions of the baby should occur near his crib. Before going to bed every time a child can offer a game with the conditional name of "Good Night". The child and one of the parents put the toys to sleep, send all the cars to the car park, all these games should be "sleepy" directions. Of course, soccer or war toys are strictly abolished.
It can not be said that the process will go fast. Parents will need to gain a lot of patience. In addition, they should be set for success, because their attitude will be passed on to the child. A positive attitude will only facilitate the task of parents. So, all dolls and cars are "laid" to sleep. He already wished a quiet sleep, sang a lullaby and kissed. Now you can leave the child to sleep. Parents should remember that the main thing in this process is a certain system of actions that is not violated in any way. All adult actions should make it clear to the baby that the day has passed and the time of rest has come.
In the first days of "learning" one of the parents can lie next to the child. At this time, it is better not to look into the eyes of the child. Such emotional contact further complicates the task of parents. It is better to put the child face to face. The stories and stories that the child asks for the story should be very simple and short. Fantasy is better to disable, too fascinating plot can provoke the baby. Gradually, it is necessary to adjust the child to the fact that he is already large and independent, so he must fall asleep on his own. Now you can leave the child. If he calls again, then you need to return, kiss and calm him, and then leave again.
It is possible to offer the child to sleep "in an adult way". He is invited to sleep not in his baby bed, but on the couch. Psychologists have noticed that in some cases, problems with falling asleep can disappear after changing the place of sleep. The child can be laid down by his father, whom he does not see so often. Surprisingly, with the popes, some babies are less capricious. Even better, when a child has a regime of the day, made up taking into account the independence of the child. It is noted that a child who falls asleep at the same time, develops self-discipline. By the way, a child falling asleep independently dives into sleep for 5 or 10 minutes.
Remember, if a child resists the actions of parents and does not want to sleep without a mother, then one should not very insist. You can just put your intention aside for a while. Maybe in 2-3 weeks the child will not resist so much. So, before going to bed, the following games are recommended: reading favorite fairy tales, putting toys to sleep, drawing or collecting puzzles, collecting cubes in a box, etc. Just before going to bed, it is not recommended to engage in the following activities: play very lively games, read new stories and play new toys .
If the child asks you to leave the light on, you can turn on the night lamp with dim lighting. The door of the nursery can be left open. Parents should be close if the child suddenly cries. In such situations, you have to come to him, calm him and kiss him, and then leave again. Parents should be patient, because at first they will have to return to the child many times, but eventually the baby will get used to, and then quickly fall asleep on their own. The main thing is that parents should remember that all children grow up and grow wiser. Teaching a child needs to remain calm and optimistic, because very soon all actions will bring an excellent result.