Inaccuracy
What is the problem? It happens that men neglect your ideas about hygiene and order. They do not do manicure, they wear the same shirt for two days in a row and leave dirty plates on the floor near the scattered socks. Is it worth while at the sight of such a blatant disgrace with a rolling pin at the ready to go after him in pursuit of the apartment? What do you feel when you see the socks on the floor, mixed with the remnants of food and magazines? Probably, offense: a man does not appreciate your efforts to keep the house clean. And instantly you come to an illogical conclusion: it does not support cleanliness - it means that it does not like.
What to do? Doubtful conclusions will cease to arise in the head if we talk about our experiences with the addressee of the claims and make sure that he does not get out simply because the order is secondary to him, and not because he stopped loving you. Imagine the opposite situation - a man requires sterile purity, and you approach questions of order much more freely. What is easier - to live with dirty or pedant? With both is not easy, but you can agree on the rules that you both will observe.
Infantilism
What's happening? He can spend almost all of his salary on a new console and from that day even stop throwing socks, because he just will not take them off - it's uncomfortable when the joystick is in his hand. It offends you to grow up, but he does not. You are already thinking about children and mortgages, and he has in his mind continuous aliens and imaginary enemies.
To begin with, you have to accept the fact that every man has a small boy to his old age - that's why he likes heaped toys, weapons, cars. And by the way, thanks to children's spontaneity and courage, the majority of scientific discoveries are made by a strong gender. "If it seems to you that childishness is in the beloved over the edge, then perhaps in a relationship there is a hyperopeak, because the roles in the pair usually complement each other." If this sounds like the truth, try to learn how to communicate with your second half on an equal footing, as a partner, not scolding or pointing.
Eternal employment
You call, he picks up the phone, says he will call back, but he does not do it for an hour. You dial his number yourself, but he drops it. Then he comes home after midnight. Naturally, you think that he was not at any meeting, but with a mistress. This is the first reason that causes emotional emotions in women. But even when common sense wins, jealousy is still preserved, but not to a fantastic blonde, but to the real work itself - is it more important than you ?! And yet, admit, a little jealous that he is so interested in her, and you have no lesson for liking.
We must accept the fact that men are often more serious about their business than we are. For them, this is a very important part of life, a way of self-expression. Trust him and do not make me go with you to the vet, because the parrot yesterday sneezed! Someone else's work is usually annoying when there is time for discontent. Do your career, hobby, family, friends - everything that makes your life rich and interesting. Then in the evening instead of claims favorite will hear your story about a remarkably spent day.
Diffidence
Statements such as "I do not know what to give for my mom's birthday", "decide for yourself where we will have supper" or "I did not buy a cake because I'm not sure if you are allergic to prunes" are annoying, because most girls are sure , that a real man should know the answers to all questions! When he says something like that, your bleak future seems to you in paints - you are at home with five children, he also calls from the store and asks: "Baby, buy milk with fat content of 3.2% or 3.5%?" that was "the boy said - the boy did."
First, what you call self-doubt may be a sign of great love (he consults because he wants you to like it), a dangerous signal of distrust (afraid not to please) or banal fatigue (what should you choose a restaurant for?) . Strength and confidence he has to show at work, with friends and even sometimes with his mother. Try to look at weakness as a sign of trust, and perhaps it will not be so annoying.
Refusal of financing
He's already, which meeting divides the bill for dinner in a restaurant in half. You, of course, deny the old-fashioned and humiliating idea that "who is eating dinner, he dances", but the inner voice gives alarm signals - one long, three short. You do not believe that he is serious. It seems that the rules of the rules and modern views are modern representations, but this has nothing to do with love.
What to do? First, you need to be honest. If you think that a man with serious intentions should not allow a lady to participate in paying for entertainment and food, then say so. After all, he can share your position, but if you hear the opposite, he will be afraid to offend you. Budget issues often become a stumbling block and in established pairs. And here, too, you need to negotiate and establish rules.
Mismatch of tastes
He listens to domestic chanson, and you dad from diapers taught to classical rock. While you are building a household paradise in the kitchen, he includes "But I'll fasten it in person, go to the collective farm, fall to the bottom." After that, your inner Mick Jagger advises you to pour a fan of thieves into hot arsenic. Perhaps you are afraid that friends will know about this (about his love for the chanson, detective Dontsova or cross-stitching). The idea is shameful - but common. We perceive partners as a part of ourselves, and therefore their hobbies are a bit of ours. And they are monstrous! Do not try to convince a man that Dontsova is not a master of words, if her works touch him to the depths of her soul. Just ask not to quote the netlenku at your friends. Agree that he will listen to the chanson in headphones or in your absence. Surely, the leisure of the second half does not consist only of hobbies that annoy you. Try to find something that brings his inner Circle closer to your inner Jagger - maybe it's traveling or cooking. If you do not come to a peace treaty, you will never forget what causes emotional feelings for women.
Jealousy
Whose are these unfamiliar voices from your phone? Why do sms "work" come after ten? Why is the skirt today so short? Where were you between 17:15 and 17:28? All this at first amuses, and then begins to terribly annoy. Strong jealousy and trust are incompatible things, and you, of course, are offended.
Firstly, imagine that he is not jealous at all and he does not care who you answer to after midnight and for what purpose you are going to his birthday for your birthday. Will you feel loved? Secondly, try to understand his feelings and do not react to questions aggressively (which seems to prove your guilt) - this tactic will comfort the jealous.
Humor
Sometimes they make us objects of their wit. And not always it is pleasant. It seems to you that if you like, then you should not notice, let alone ridicule any of your tastes, shortcomings or dignities. Hence, he does not like - you logically sum up! And sometimes it's just terribly insulting that you can not joke as well. What to do? If jokes are not humiliating, then the most correct thing is to laugh at them. And prepare in advance several retaliatory strikes. Resign, it is more difficult for women to improvise successfully, but we are beautiful and we do not need to measure with girl-friends the size of cars! A man with a sense of humor is good luck. You can easily experience the turmoil. A resentment is an unproductive feeling: one who is offended suffers much more than the culprit of his experiences. Support his game!
Non-Romanticism
Millions of men forget that we need to look after after the bouquet-candy period. The fourteenth of February and the eighth of March are not holidays for them, but they consider unreasonable waste as gifts without reason. You, of course, think that he fell out of love with you - well, he used to give flowers, remember dates and always kiss before leaving for work.
Of course, he did not stop loving. But the period under the name "no day without a surprise" really ended. And now it is necessary to work on preserving romanticism in relations. It's like with a figure - at first it's perfect, and in just a few years it takes an hour a day not to get off the treadmill. Try to come home from work with a bunch of roses - let him think he wants. The probability that gifts will sprinkle on you after the show, like snow in February, is not too great, but it's a good way to start a conversation about the fact that you lack romance. A man who is in a stable relationship often does not see the need for a demonstration of feelings, because you already know everything - he loves you. Instead of silently pouting, it's better to go to him and say: "Listen, I so lack romance, buy flowers!"
Propensity to polygamy
No matter how men are in love, their interest in other women remains alive and vigorous. This manifests itself in different ways: someone looks at porn or pretends to read men's magazines. Some people stare at others right in your presence. Of course, the first impulse in such circumstances is to throw a glass of water or any other liquid of arbitrary temperature into the face of a curious person. It is clear that his behavior sows in you a grain of uncertainty - than the photographed blondes are better? It seems that you began to like him less.
Calm down! Glossy and even intensively moving across the screen naked women are not more dangerous than your seventy-year-old neighbor. And if a man does not pay attention to beautiful girls, it causes suspicion. We recommend that you follow the principle of reality, not fantasies: "If you want to throw something heavy at him, when he looks at the next beauty, take a deep breath and think:" But he's still with me anyway. " And check what happened to your aggression? "