Subconsciously or consciously, for many men and women, children are the main goal in life. Given the current availability of effective contraceptives, couples, like never before, have the opportunity to plan a family. They can choose the time of birth of children, their number, as well as the interval between the birth of each of them. Spouses can even decide not to have children. Despite this, the birth of a child is often not planned at all. At what age do you plan to have a child and how to do it right?
The decision to have children
Every person has a natural desire to have children in one way or another. Usually the first thing that young couples who want to create a family discuss is when they should have a baby. Some want to do this while they are young and healthy, but do not have financial stability, while others decide to wait until they get older and wealthier, but probably less active.
Amount of children
After the appearance of the first child, couples usually decide if they want more children and after what time. One of the reasons for increasing the interval between births of children is the need to restore the body of a woman after childbirth. Some couples decide to give birth to only one child. Perhaps, the spouses believe that they will be able to devote more time to it, or they can not have children for medical reasons and state of health.
Large families
There is an opinion that the only child in the family is often spoiled, and the best preparation for the future adulthood is to be a member of a large family. Older brothers and sisters can favorably influence the spiritual and social development of the child, but the results of some studies indicate that children from large families are less likely to attend school. Often, the sex of the second child is the deciding factor for the spouses in relation to the number of children. Some want to have both boys and girls in the family, and continue to give birth to same-sex children until a child of the opposite sex is born. The number of children in the family is affected by such factors as the level of education of parents and socio-economic status. In addition, currently plays the role of artificial insemination of elderly mothers, which is becoming more widespread.
Rivalry between brothers and sisters
Psychologists have identified several forms of rivalry between brothers and sisters. It turned out that it increases with the decrease in age difference. An elderly brother or sister, who is an authority, can serve as an example for imitation. If children have hostile attitudes, the older child may face open resistance from the younger.
Parent status
Parents find out that now they are forced to give preference to the needs of the child. When they plan to go for a walk, they first need to decide who will look after the baby. They can also get tired of the responsibilities of caring for the baby and feel stressed from the financial difficulties that have arisen. At first, many believe that the status of parents will narrow rather than expand their opportunities. Often, young couples want to spend some time to live for themselves and test their relationship. However, as a rule, the issue of having children is only a matter of choosing a certain time for this. At one stage of life for young people this can be compared with life imprisonment, on the other - it seems not so terrible.
Motherhood
Pregnancy from a biological point of view is a completely natural condition. The woman's genital age is limited by the period from the onset of the first menstruation to menopause. The ability to avoid the birth of children in critical periods (too early or too late) can reduce the potential risk for both the mother and the fetus. Women aged 35 to 40 realize that they have less time to give birth to their child. A woman, quickly moving up the career ladder, choose the time for the birth of a child is particularly difficult. Many find that they do not have time to create a family. Some of them believe that a break in work at an important stage of career growth can reduce their chances in the future to rise above a certain level in their chosen profession. This can lead to conflicts with the partner - men are able to produce children throughout their lives and do not understand women who are feeling a lost moment. However, a compromise solution can almost always be found.
The decision not to have children
The decision not to have children may be due to fear of responsibility, a sad experience from one's own childhood, a fear of not coping with parental responsibilities. Some people prefer to pursue careers with the same dedication with which they could devote themselves to their offspring.
Preparation for the birth of a child
Preparation for the birth of a healthy child should begin several months before conception. Women are usually recommended to:
• refrain from smoking and taking drugs;
• reduce alcohol consumption;
• To start taking folic acid in order to prevent the development of neural tube defects in the future fetus (eg, congenital spinal hernia);
• check whether a rubella vaccine was made to prevent the development of this disease during pregnancy;
• cancel oral contraceptives several months before the desired conception.
Chances of getting pregnant
To increase the probability of conception, couples are recommended to have sex every other day at the most fertile period of each menstrual cycle. It begins approximately eight days before the expected ovulation and lasts until the first day after ovulation.