We are haunted by the aura of poverty with a flaw of defectiveness. Because we wear it inside and it shows in our behavior. In wealth and poverty: the struggle for primacy has its pros and cons.
She is from the sect "do not believe in a free cashier" in a supermarket, who suspect some kind of dirty trick. Better to get ahead of the old woman, send the children to take turns at all the ticket offices, in case of force majeure. She uses the VIP-entrance to the ski lift in ski resorts, in which we manage to create a queue longer than usual, not VIP-ovskoy. She participates in the development of strategic plans to seize the sun beds on the beach in a five-star hotel, with the installation of sentries at night, a rise at six in the morning - in order to scatter flip-flops and wet towels.
If there is no queue , you need to create it, then to fight for the championship. Well, we do not believe that at all enough. And really, after us is already lacking. The rich have the luxury of waiting, and we have a psychology of poverty.
Many of us are brought up on Soviet shortages. Wealth and poverty: the struggle for primacy allows each of us to feel our psychological support. Will end, will not be delivered, banned, not allocated, reduced or canceled. There will not be boots, linen, peasants and Christmas toys. We continue to live with this psychology, although everything seems to be enough, but we do not believe in it. That's why there is not enough that everyone thinks that there is not enough. A vicious circle, which all the same begins with us. Wealth is not more than the other, but when it is enough for yourself. Even when there is wealth, internal poverty does not allow us to relax.
Only the poor are afraid that they will soon be deprived of their well-being, and they need constant proof of their "not poverty". The top of luxury and wealth is the last to enter the plane, when your name was announced seven times in five languages, and you proudly tumble into the business saloon, regretting only that the economy class is in the tail, and not all the passengers saw how you steeply entered, pushed the bags with logos and gradually sank into the chair. We have to get out of the plane long before the ramp arrives and gallop into the bus to take a strategic line at the very doors. And what a pleasure - to be late for a movie theater or to take someone else's place! If you cancel your visa, we stop to go, who needs it, a boring Europe, surrendering without a fight, when any tourist can take and go ?!
Wealth and poverty: the struggle for primacy comes when we start thinking: you can not have everything you want, and material well-being necessarily accompanied by spiritual poverty. Cynicism and materialism came into normalcy, but we do not always get balanced German pragmatism, when it's not a sin to return to the store not liked Christmas gifts. With southern generosity, we also do not really: no, no, and we'll tighten a tip after a luxurious banquet.
Unhealthy selfishness, blatant cynicism, inappropriate pride and unreasonable ambitions are all signs of mental poverty. Sometimes it is disguised as spirituality, then we finance politicians, but we bargain with doctors, build churches, but economize on education. Probably, we think that God and the government are responsible for the distribution, and now we definitely will get something.
The psychology of wealth and poverty: the struggle for primacy, even among the richest, is manifested in fear of the future, distrust of others, an attempt at any cost to preserve the accumulated and snatch something from others. Fear of losing accidentally fallen wealth. Fear of missing the last train, which can not be left behind, there will be no other, and this one is not known how he got to these parts. The life of a loan is a debt that is sure to be demanded back, as if it is a temporary welfare stolen from life, because there is not enough at all. Psychological poor people do not understand that the principle of "here and now" does not mean that you need to consume everything right here and right now.
Every time , as in the last one, this is a psychological, and not a physiological, principle. You need to get maximum satisfaction at the mental level. What pleasure from an expensive car, if you need to think all the time, how to prune others on the road? Satisfaction from what we drank more than others, and our fur coat is sewn from an exclusive sable, does not last long. Still, an insane sensation of poverty creeps up. Fear impoverishes the perception of life, does not give the opportunity to live in the present, recalls the past and fears the future.
"Poor" psychology arises from the fact that we are trained to live by goals, not values. Our dreams, goals are what we need. Values are what all this is for. Often we achieve tremendous efforts by achieving great goals that do not correspond to our values, and we feel that we have not gained anything, we have remained poor.
Many things we consider normal. It's normal to have problems, worry, be afraid and fight. But it's normal - it's not natural yet. Naturally, we are already rich, because we live. Life itself is rich, and all it has for us is enough, most importantly - only enough time for us to appreciate this wealth, feel, taste, be surprised, upset and rejoice. Sunset over the sea is as much a luxury for a millionaire as it is for you. This does not mean that you need to take off the diamonds, sell the car and give out the trendy clothes. Just do not be afraid to lose it all. Do not settle for small, you need to live with a sense of abundance.
For how much would you sell the opportunity to see, feel, walk? And for how much is your ability to love? A million million, the whole of Gazprom, half of Google, two ships of rhinestones, diamond mines, all new collections of clothing and shoes until 2045? No?! So you are already immensely rich.
The secret is very simple : we ourselves establish our level of prosperity, wealth and poverty: the struggle for superiority does not pass by. When we stop to determine this bar by someone else's standards, we get the necessary level of psychological freedom. To be rich means to live on one's own terms in accordance with one's own capabilities, and not to exist in accordance with the limitations and expectations of others.
When you really have wealth, you have not only enough material and spiritual resources - you have the confidence that you can create more. You have no fear that will be missed, if there is a trust in life, a sense of recovery, there is the ability to share and give. Mental comfort, satisfaction with what you have, and who you are, is half the way to happiness. The rest is given only by love. To reach happiness, you need to forget about poverty, to love, you need to be truly rich. Love is the ability to give to others and enjoy it. I think this luxuriously dressed woman came to me. I will try to share my wealth.