Sex, perhaps, will not change your life, solve problems, will not let you penetrate into the secrets of the universe. But still, when he's bad, it's, you see, straining. Especially if the partner, in principle, nothing: and decent, and caring, and will. But how it comes to the bedroom, you start to think about separate beds. What is the reason for the "inconsistency"?
1. You may be rotating in different orbits
It's only at first glance it seems that love knows no boundaries and obstacles. For a few nights of love at the beginning of dating, you probably will not need flowers and Shakespeare's knowledge in the original. But further the difference in education, upbringing, religion will inevitably say its weighty word in the development of your relationship.
Sergei traveled to France. Once in a cafe he met a woman. A handsome guy made an impression on a Frenchwoman and, as usual in this amazing country, the woman herself decided everything. They came to her house, there was nothing to talk about. The Frenchwoman did not know Russian, Sergei knew French only in the volume of the movie "Three Musketeers". We had sex - first in the garden, then in the kitchen on the table, on the floor by the fireplace, in the bedroom on the bed ... On the second date, the guy did not dare: he was surprised to find that one sex for complete happiness is not enough.
2. A small fad
From time to time, each of us is obsessed with something and, elevating it to the rank of "personal law", tries not to break once and for all established rules. Quite often it can significantly affect the relationship with the opposite sex.
Irina - a prominent girl, men always paid attention to her, and she could afford to choose candidates for their location. This evening the choice fell on a tall slender brunette. He looked at her with that same gaze, from which the sweet languor spreads all over his body. A couple of hours later they were in bed. Tearing off her clothes, he hugged, kissed ... constantly, never stopping, anywhere ... just not on the lips.
Irina thought that in the heat of the first desire until this affection simply did not reach the point. But on the second date they again did without kissing. On the third, he firmly removed the girl clinging to him and explained that he never kissed his lips, such are his principles. Irina had no choice but to leave the poor fellow alone with his principles.
3. Beyond Expectations
We all come to the bedroom with the baggage of past experiences. Your previous lover adored when you are, and now you automatically apply this trick to a new partner. You are assured: once it passed last time, will pass "with a bang" and in this.
Andrew loved women, loved to make gifts to them, to carry on their hands and to give pleasure in bed. With his previous girlfriend, he tried all kinds of sex, but especially it started when he, tightly squeezing her hips with his hands, rudely thrusted into her to enter. Andrew is so used to this scenario of sexual life that he did the same with his new girl. To his surprise, the girl did not take this powerful impulse. With a cry of pain, she pushed him away from her, and, having given out everything that thinks about himself and his rudeness, withdrew. The chance to rehabilitate Andrei was not given.
4. Something is wrong
If, from the very beginning, something annoying in your partner irritates you, do not entertain yourself with the thought that it will pass. On the contrary, it will expand and, in the end, block all its pluses.
Ella met at the bar with a handsome man. They drank beer, talked. The interlocutor was nice and funny. Ella decided - why not, because she had not had a man for so long. They kissed in a taxi, on a staircase, kissing when Ella tried to insert a key into the lock, kissing in the hallway ... until he undressed. Ella saw his feet. Strange little feet were surprisingly small in size. Sex did not work.
5. Look elsewhere
Do you think that for you personally sex for ever lost its former attractiveness? You are in a hurry to write off this for age, fatigue, busy employment and a long record of living together. And maybe the reason is quite different? Maybe the attraction for you is not lost at all, but the person with whom you are engaged in it?
Anna loved her future husband very much. At least, so it seemed to her. Every time, thinking about him, she remembered a young strong man, an athlete, striving for victories and achievements. She remembered how he protected her from hooligans, how she carried her arms to the hospital when she broke her leg, how she sold her only watch to buy her a birthday present. How she loved him!
Loved? ... Sudden guesses stunned Anna. And who does she love now? A flabby, bald beer lover, with an extinct gaze wandering around the apartment and waiting, when to the next match in boxing, she will serve him a sausage plate. Anna looked with amazement at what was called her husband, and realized that it was not HE, not at all HE, not the one whom she loved so much!