Fear of the "first time"
Fear of the first sex is quite natural, but can become a serious problem. For example, men are afraid that there will not be an erection, women are afraid that they will not experience orgasm. However, as practice shows, fears of "first time" are all the stronger, the fewer partners they know each other. Therefore, if you are really afraid of the idea of intimacy with your loved one, do not rush things. Get to know each other better.
Sexologists advise women before sex to decisively throw out of their heads the thoughts about possible setbacks in bed. Just by strong-willed decision, forbid yourself to think about it - that's all. If your relationship with a loved one is such that you can discuss your fears in a jocular manner without much stress, it will be even better. That is, in any case, get rid of - by yourself or with the help of a partner - from gloomy thoughts. Do not go to bed with this heavy load. And the best solution to any problem, including this one, is to always be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone else, but be sincere and open with a partner.
But even if you do not have your own fears of the first sex, you should not forget about the problems of your beloved man. Because you and only you can help him to overcome them safely. And for this, calm him down, casually reporting on his quite democratic views on the size of men's dignity. In addition, according to the representatives of the stronger sex, a woman helps them cope with a sense of anxiety, gently managing the raging partner's passions, first slowing them down.
Scenery of a bed scene
You can enhance the sensations and ease the tension that you both have in expectation of a bed scene, if you surround the threshold of the exciting moment with the appropriate entourage. First, make sure that the environment is as comfortable as possible for you - women. After all, only in this case you both have a multiply increased chance to get pleasure from intimacy, which will eliminate problems in the relationship. And then take care of creating the convenience for men.
Sometimes it is useful before sex to muffle the upper light. Better yet, light the candles. This old proven method of creating a romantic atmosphere will significantly reduce the jitters caused by the ambiguity of the situation. And leave from the "first time" indelible impressions for many years. Before sex, be sure to ask if the man is not interfering with the TV or what music he would like to listen to at this fateful moment. And it does not matter at all who is visiting whom. Even if you are on its territory, arranging a common comfort zone is a woman's task.
As an option, ask your partner to prelude a love game with joint water procedures - under the shower or in the bath. Of course, if you yourself do not have anything against it. It's also good to start a mutual massage session before the case has not reached the bed yet. Usually a glass of champagne helps to defuse the situation. But this is contraindicated to minors!
Do not forget the basic rule of love relationships: behave naturally. So what if you have sex for the first time and do not know how to behave in bed? Trust your nature and your loved one. Behave as your nature demands, and not how, in your delusion, any lady respecting herself should behave in such a situation. Moreover, according to many men, nothing acts on them as complacently as the kind of affable and benevolent partner who enjoys the situation that has arisen.
On your marks!
Many men and women admit that they will never go into intimate contact until they receive approving signals from their partner. And the reason for this - the fear of being rejected, which entails a lot of other negative emotions. If you feel that sex is exactly what you most lack in relationships, do not hide your desires. Be gentle and affectionate with your partner. Do not forget to keep in contact with him an eye contact - after all, a passionate look can say so much about your feelings. If you or a loved man is not quite ready for the first sex, you should not rush this important event. It is enough to hug your lover and kiss.
If you are ready for the first sex, and the partner does not dare, take the initiative, but not aggressively. There will not be a big mistake if you take his hand and hold it over any part of your body, or unbutton his shirt. In the end, you can say about your desire and open text - many men like it too. But remember: it is necessary to do this only when you are firmly convinced that a loved one is overcome by similar passions.
Leave or stay?
The situation that occurs immediately after the first intimacy, can be no less stressful than its prelude. For example, everyone knows that many women perceive the immediate withdrawal of a partner as clear evidence of the cooling of his feelings. Take it easy to his desire to leave you right after sex. Well, make an effort and imagine that he may have other things to do! If you insist that he stay, keep in mind: men do not like this very much. How not to like them any encroachment on their precious freedom. Do not think that after the first sex, this man is obliged to marry you. It is this man who is most afraid! If he feels that this is exactly what you think, he will most likely run away from you. Of course, he can succumb to your insistent demands and stay after the first intimate encounter. But this is a guarantee that the second, most likely, you will not be. So release it on all four sides with an easy heart. After all, if he was well with you, he would definitely return. Well, he is not so stupid as to voluntarily give up his own happiness!
Do not be silent about problems in bed
According to sexologists, the most common mistake of the first sexual contact is the silence of partners, if they do not like something. This is especially true of the first sex - the possible problems here are dictated by the lack of experience. Women are often embarrassed to admit that some sexual scenes cause them discomfort. They think that they are doing something wrong. The partisan's role in interrogation, holding his mouth on the lock, save for another story.
If your partner does something wrong or can not guess about your desires - do not be silent! Understand: he wishes you well and wants to give pleasure. But what can you do if men in the mass are not clairvoyant. Tell him exactly what actions you expect him to do. You'll see - he will willingly meet you. But even when everything goes fine, it's also quite harmless to tell a partner about it. Because nothing so turns men like the words of a beloved woman that his caresses give her unearthly bliss.
Feel free to your own body
The most common reason for women's anxiety is the fear of imperfection of their own body, which first appeared in all nakedness before a loved one. Although it is not clear why women took it, that men need only supermodels? After all, if it had been in fact, they would all have slept with Barbie's inflatable dolls. And since he chose you, it means that you, without any doubt, look in his eyes both sexy and attractive. But even if you firmly believe in this, undressing at the very beginning of love games is a very significant moment, the importance of which can not be overestimated. That's why compliance with certain rules can help you greatly in achieving harmony in a single bed.
As for underwear, then, according to sexologists, for the first time it should be smart, but not too playful. Too much "sexy" outfits better save for later, for the era of developed intim, which you will certainly get, if your love affairs will go well. According to the testimony of sexologists, many men welcome stockings on lacy elastic bands, as well as lace thongs. But bras on foam rubber at the stronger sex are not in honor. They are very upset because of the glaring difference in the size of the partner's bust before and after removing this toilet part. But those ladies who are accustomed to do without underwear under pants and pantyhose, for the first intimate appointment yet it is recommended to wear it. Then, when your partner becomes permanent, this is your cute habit will greatly arouse him. But, having found this for the first time, a man can be unpleasantly shocked. It is not excluded that in this case the lady will seem to him too accessible to others.
A good prelude to the first sex can be a parallel stripping, done gradually, when the partners are slowly taking off the thing from the thing. Such artificial slowing down of the process contributes only to inciting passion. Well, about the simultaneous removal of clothing from each other and say nothing - in the manuals for novice lovers, this technique is considered simply a classic. True, the speed of the process is not specified here, since everything is regulated by the temperament of the sides. But if both partners are very embarrassed, the sooner this happens, the better.
Prevention
The first sex entails possible problems associated with unwanted pregnancy. If you are concerned about the issue of protection from pregnancy or from infections, then you will necessarily have the question of using a condom partner. Begin to discuss this topic as soon as you realize that it's a matter of intimacy. Do not put it off until later, when the passion is in full swing. Agree, it's ridiculous to be distracted by a business conversation on the verge of a climax. And in general, it is a good idea to first ascertain the attitude of your partner to this method of protection. After all, if he refuses categorically from him, you will have only one way out of the situation - to leave in the literal sense. But even with a favorable solution to the issue, do not forget the following. Although true gentlemen always have condoms with them, it will be better if you reserve them in advance, just in case. As for the direct use of this subject, then, according to men, they are very fond of when a woman helps them to attach it. Therefore, practice in advance, for example, on bananas.
To the sex for the first time a woman has only good memories, do not let this event on its own. Prepare in advance and make this evening special!