When deciding whether to give the baby to a kindergarten or not, parents weigh all the pros and cons.
What does a kindergarten give to children? Psychologists think Olga Krushelnytska and Antonina Tretyakova.
Peers
In 3-4 years, the baby has a need to communicate not only with adult family members, but also with children. In the company of peers children learn to win and lose. This is very important, because an adult, playing with a child, always "gives in". A child who grows up with the conviction that his destiny is solid victories is doomed to heavy experiences in the future.
In the game with other children, the kid learns to obey the rules, to reckon with someone else's opinion. To the adult agreed to play, the child must either be tempted by him, or be overcome by his whining. But that you agree to play with your peers, you must be able to comply with the rules, give in to others.
In the company of other children it is more fun to run, jump and squeal. And in this the children have a physiological need.
But the main thing is that learning to communicate with other children is better when still do not know how, still only learn. Otherwise, having joined the children's collective, you risk being the most incompetent, and, therefore, superfluous.
But, on the other hand, you can get acquainted with peers on the playground, in the school of early development, where the "home" children usually go, in their own entrance ... Of course, in this case there will be less communication with other children, but you can pick up to the kid of friends from your circle.
Independence
There is no mother in kindergarten. And this is even useful for kids spoiled, single and late in the family. They will very quickly realize that not everyone will fulfill their desires, not everyone will admire them.
But, on the other hand, parting with my mother for a whole day is a huge stress. A childhood spent in the family, gives a person a sense of security, confidence in the rear for the rest of his life. Between mother and children there is a feeling of special spiritual intimacy.
In addition, giving the baby to a kindergarten at an early age, you are quite likely to determine the fate of your grandchildren. Some psychologists believe that the fact that we have several generations of women from the first months of life grew up in nurseries and kindergartens, on five-day and extended days, weakened their sense of motherhood, and now they consider the education of their child outside the family to be the only true one.
Circle of friends
There are educators in the kindergarten. Communicating with them, the child will learn to obey and understand the demands not only of parents, but also of other adults. This is a good preparation for school.
But, on the other hand, if you want him to take your values, your views on life, copy your speech, imitate your manners, and not take as a model another's aunt, the teacher Marivanna, with whom he spends in the garden all day, not hurry to push the chick out of the nest.
Preparation for school
In the garden, children are prepared for school. There the musician is engaged in singing and dancing with them. In the mode of the day, the time for sculpting and drawing is specially allocated. But not every mother can sing and sculpt, will find time and desire to dance with the baby and draw. In many gardens there is a speech therapist. Children of the older group are taught to read and count.
But, on the other hand, practice shows that "home" children have a more developed speech, a richer vocabulary, they are usually better read, considered and written than "gardener" children, because it is for reading and counting that parents press when they are engaged with own children. And for music and painting classes, there are early development schools, creative studios and circles.
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What model of preschool education is close to you - decide for yourself. The main thing is that the parents now have a choice: the baby can be given to the garden in three years, or it can be in five, the kindergarten can be district, and maybe private, and for the home children there are a lot of different children's groups, where you can get development, and find friends.
It's better to wait
With kindergarten will have to wait, if:
>> The baby has allergic reactions to the most common food products - milk, wheat ... on dry food for aquarium fish, bird feathers ... Not only because in many kindergartens there are living corners, and a separate menu for him no one will not cook. Allergy sufferers have a special immune response to viral infections. Their body produces less "good" antibodies during colds, which give permanent immunity to the transferred virus. In addition, during the time of illness in children prone to allergies, antibodies are produced that enhance allergic reactions.
>> You often have a sick child. Then we must first understand the reasons for his constant colds.
>> The kid is overly anxious, does not let go of his mother a single step, is afraid of strangers, darkness, does not want to be alone in the room. Such a child should first consult with psychologists.
>> The child already had a negative experience of separation from his mother: lying in the hospital, survived the divorce of parents, the death of someone close.
And from the point of view of health?
What is better - a kindergarten or childhood spent at home? The pediatrician, doctor of medical sciences, professor Vladimir Tatochenko believes that there are no serious arguments against the kindergarten. But the indubitable advantages of "organized childhood" can be listed.
>> In kindergarten, children live according to the regime. At one and the same time they eat, put the hours they walk, sleep during the day. At home, a rare mother or grandmother withstands the regime necessary for the child.
>> In the kindergarten, nutrition is balanced according to age. There, children receive the necessary amount of proteins, fats and carbohydrates. And no delicacies that cause obesity or gastritis. And they eat well, looking at their comrades. And at home, children often eat with persuasion, eating monotonous (the grandmother prepares only what the baby likes) or designed for adult family members.
>> "Sadovskie" children receive all the prescribed vaccinations according to the vaccination calendar. And for the parents of "home" children pediatricians sometimes have to run to convince them to instill a child.
>> And even the fact that children in the kindergarten often get sick, it's good. The child in the team meets with a large number of new viruses that other children brought to the garden from their families. But the immunity after the transferred SARS last several years, therefore, having got acquainted with the most widespread viruses early, "садовец" will be sick less at school.
Personal opinion
- I believe that the child should be given to the kindergarten. I myself grew up in the garden, and I liked it very much. My children also went to kindergarten, and with pleasure. But the kindergartens themselves, in which I gave them, were very good. I liked that they were engaged with children there, they constantly taught poems, and it was noticeable that it helped them to develop ... Dasha's daughter even went for a five-day period - I worked, even in the evenings. But, of course, we tried, when there was an opportunity, to take it not only on weekends, but also in the middle of the week. I'm sure that when a child grows in a group, it's better for him.
Tatiana Sudets