I have set certain priorities, and I do not reflect how 20-30 years ago in search of the right choice and ideological positions. Now my main priorities are family, children and creativity. Over the years, a person begins to understand that life is short. I do not know what part of my life I still have, but I want to live as fruitfully and richly as possible.
Your personal and creative life - a series of accidents or predeterminations?
From the experience of the passed path, I realized that all the accidents were necessary and quite natural. I'm sure there are no accidents in human life. If I had not once started singing and started playing the guitar, I would not have been at the Mosfilm studio, I did not get my first role, and as a result I would not have become a movie and theater actor. As for the personal life, this is the way of accumulating experience: mistakes, falls, ups.
Few people know about your first marriage ...
With his first wife, Marina met on the threshold of the theatrical school. Shchepkin, in which they studied together, but our relations did not work out. Not because she betrayed me, but we were very different with her. We could not live together at all! But this experience helped me a lot in the future. Now I understand: it's right that we lived together and lived for many years. It's another matter that we have been tormented all these years ... When we parted, it became easier for both of us: she found her half, and I own mine. Everything is known in comparison: without knowing the bad side, you can not feel full of happiness, pleasure and joy.
The starting point of the severance of relations with the first wife was the glory after the movie "Midshipmen, forward!" Or other reasons?
His wife left during the peak period, 2-3 months before the nationwide recognition. As soon as we broke off relations, I gained a feeling of inner and outer freedom, my triumphal procession began. Lack of freedom prevented me from being myself. All coincided in an amazing way! You know, the second half helps or hinders. With me was a man who did not help, and thus interfered. Therefore, after the divorce, glory and success fell on me, I began to develop rapidly in the profession, changed externally, and most importantly, stopped drinking. Despite the fact that I did not like her, and we were a burden to each other, our parting was for me a suffering. Any break with the person with whom he lived for many years is always very painful and painful.
Now with his first wife in a normal relationship?
Communicated civilized, while our daughter Sasha grew up. Marina never limited me to meeting with a child. Now my daughter is 26 years old and there are no prerequisites for communicating with my ex-wife. When the family broke up, Alexandra was 4 years old.
Do you think it's easier to leave the family when the child is still unintentional or when the child is already analyzing the events and can he explain everything?
In general, I consider it a crime to give birth to children not in love! Unfortunately, there are a lot of such marriages, including my first family union. When a child is not desired, but simply "it happened", when you doubt that you will forever associate your life with this person, you realize that you do not intend to continue serious relationships, and a child is born - this happens all the time, especially in the society in which I I live and work. This is an unhappy, flawed flight, and then - and adults. For the child, parting parents is less painful at a younger age, up to 3 years, because then he does not remember it. Or after 16-18 years, when passed the age of transition and the child can analyze the events. My parents also divorced when I was 6 years old, and for me it was a psychological trauma. Most often, couples break up when children are still nursing or become adults, then there is no restraining start. Sometimes parents live together for the sake of the child, but this is a double excuse, even vicious, because the children are surrounded by an atmosphere of dislike. To be honest, we must leave, when you realize that there are no more forces and opportunities to live under one roof.
How much direct involvement do you take in the upbringing of Ivan's son and Sasha's daughter?
No one! Only by personal example I can help. I have no opportunity to influence their upbringing. The educational process is a systematic concept, requiring daily efforts. I see episodically with my daughter and son, 2-3 times a year we rest for several days together. The only way to influence my two children is: "Follow me, do as I do." In order for children to grow up to be decent people, one does not need to commit discreditable actions and be a decent, decent person.
Your daughter is already grown up. Control her privacy and do you want her as an actor's husband?
Absolutely not interested in Sasha's personal life. This is her way, and she must pass it by herself. In addition, I do not understand the strange division of actors and tractor drivers. Professional belonging, of course, affects the character of a person, but the love of evil ... The essence is not what the lover does, but what kind of person he is and how close you are. My daughter is not an actress, she has completely polar interests, other ambitions. She is an economist, graduated from MESI, and now she receives a second education - a music producer.
Son Ivan - your exact copy. In his character, this similarity is also reflected?
In general, I do not see any clearly expressed features of mine or Marina's wife. According to the genotype, Vanya is like me and his wife, but he is a separate person and not a copy. He makes a deceptive impression of an excellent man, the right boy. In fact, Vanya is very hooliganous, with a kind of humor, she learns with changes. From my genetic instincts, it contains musicality, artistry, good hearing. In all other respects, the son is a self-sufficient person and, I hope, will remain so. I do not know if he will devote himself to art: the main thing is to grow up a decent person.
Your ancestors were naval officers. The sea has never cured?
I played in the "Midshipmen"! Anyway, but approached the marine theme. The fact that my grandfather and great-grandfather were naval officers, I learned after the filming. This is not just a coincidence, there is a mystical connection between generations and centuries. After all, from the very beginning I was not approved for the role of Alyosha Korsak, but my friend Yuri Moroz. But it all turned out that I played this role, although I did not aspire. By the way, when my grandfather Boris Petrovich was shot, he was 27 years old, and at the beginning of filming "Midshipmen" I was also 27! Perhaps my grandfather wanted to be remembered ...
Is it true that you believe in the magic of numbers?
I am not a fan. But the numbers 21 and 22 accompany me in life: I was born on the 21st, 22 - my current wife Marina, 21 - daughter of Sasha (on my birthday), we live in apartment number 222, military ticket number 21. I see in this some system. But in my life, not only the figures are symbolic, but also the name Marina: moreover, my wives are full namesakes, both Marina Vladimirovna, I was friends with actress Marina Levtoj for 16 years, my love from the pioneer camp was also called Marina ...
In your track record there is a film "Muzzle", which in Soviet existence made a furore in the society. Have you long been persuaded to embody the image of gigolo?
Nobody tried to persuade me. I read the script, the role seemed interesting and informative to me. I decided to agree, because in 1991, at the height of the popularity of the "Midshipmen", in me everyone was seen only as a sugary romantic hero. L for any actor to remain in one line is a limitation in professional development. Agreeing to the shooting, I understood perfectly that the film would become resonant and my image in it is absolutely the opposite of the generally recognized role. The offer to be removed in "Mordashka" arrived on time. It was a professional acting experiment and an absolutely conscious choice in order to let the viewer understand that I can be different. Therefore, in my filmography there are comedies, melodramas and dramas, heroes and anti-heroes, charming scoundrels and romantic princes. Viewers still remember "Muzzle", then, there was some zest in this picture.
How did the fans react to the sharp change of image?
After the release of "Muzzle" received a huge number of letters from young girls with angry lines: "You betrayed us! How could you? You disappointed us ... "But I do not have any relation to the type of my heroes in the" Midshipmen "and" Muzzle ". I'm a completely different person! I am an actor, and my profession is masterfully creating different images and characters of people. He almost never played himself. There was not a single role where I embodied myself: there are only some individual manifestations, traits of character.
After the movie "Muzzle" began to understand why men become gigolo, and women live with such?
The history of gigolo is a centuries-old phenomenon when a man uses his external data to achieve mercantile goals. This is a classic anti-hero. "Muzzle" - a genre movie, but quite a high level. In addition, a very instructive story. I perfectly understand why women live with beautiful men or men pulling to beautiful women. There is a so-called libido! Men become gigolo, because they have no other virtues, and they do not know how to do anything else, they do not want to work. Such people are used to earning a living by what nature has awarded them, and they consider it acceptable.
Which of your bad habits have you managed to eradicate?
Quit drinking and smoking is a voluntary choice and the main achievement in the family life of Dmitry Kharatyan. I did it without anyone's help, although the path was long and difficult. I do not want to remember about this ... In general, a person achieves everything himself: they can help him, but he makes decisions independently. I did not give up drinking and smoking in the name of a woman, and I do not live for women. The fact that men do all the acts to please the ladies are just pathos. Of course, the criterion of evaluation for a full-fledged man is a woman, and many of his accomplishments and achievements a man makes, including, he was appreciated by the weaker sex. Nature is so arranged that a man tries to take place in the eyes of a woman, and I'm no exception. But this does not mean that I subordinate my whole life to how my women will react to my deed. It would be too limited.
Naturally, ladies are a great stimulus in the life of men, if not the main one, but one must understand that life consists not only of attraction to the weak half of humanity, but there are other priorities, aspiration for self-perfection, cognition, universal development.
And yet, what kind of women like Dmitri Kharatyan?
I do not like stupid, unceremonious and intrusive ladies. I love fine, graceful natures. There is an unwritten collection of canons of women's attractiveness, and one of the first points is meekness. This feature paints women, but they do not understand this. Any man, regardless of religion and nationality, like just such ladies. And modern ladies are always fighting for their rights, although no one takes them away. The main advantages of a woman - affection, tenderness, meekness, femininity. When she tries on the masculine qualities, it repels. There are two levels of female attractiveness. The first thing that a man has for a woman is libido (attraction), eroticism, sexuality, natural and animal passion. The second component is intellectual. A woman may not be a beauty, not have a slender figure, but it has a certain zest, charm and something so subtle, but very attractive. This is something at the level of kinship of souls and fellowship. And then the man is already worried not by the animal passion, after satisfaction, which becomes not interesting until then, once again there is a desire, and another, something sublime. Therefore, men have female mistresses and those with whom they create a family. With the first are engaged only in sex, as mistresses are a passion, satisfaction of physiological desires. They marry completely different: faithful, meek, domestic, economic, those who can save the hearth and raise children.
Happy acting families are very rare today. You and your second wife are married for 14 years. How is it possible to find mutual understanding?
It is necessary to be in separation more often. In this sense, Marina and I were lucky. I often go out and we do not see each other for weeks, months. This is the stimulating factor that does not allow us to destroy our family. The spouse is not jealous during my absence at home. Although we had different periods in life: we parted, and it seemed that everything was falling apart, and we would never be together again. While we are a family, it is not known how long our union will last. In general, no one knows where the finale of life is!