Security basics
To begin, carefully examine the playground. An adult thinks that there is nothing dangerous on it, but this feeling is deceptive. Injuries received on playgrounds are very serious. Fractures, concussions, stab wounds, various eye injuries are very common.
- Sandbox. Check that there are no glasses, syringes, faeces of animals, etc., do not stick nails or chips from the sand.
- On a swing and carousel ride yourself. Serviceable (hinges in working order, the seat is a whole, stable construction) will withstand your weight, and if not, it's better to drop you than the child. Teach your baby to hold on to the cables with both hands, avoid moving attractions, swing the swing from the side, and not in front or behind. Agree with the baby that he warns when he wants to get down, and does not get to his feet while riding, does not jump off the swing.
- The slide in the fall becomes wet and slippery, and in frost it becomes covered with a crust of ice. Hence, the flight speed from it increases several times. Teach the child to understand when to ride safely, and when - not very much, wooden steps should not be flimsy: rotten can break right under your child. A hump without a fence at the top is generally best avoided. Always stand next to the hill - and catch the child have time (if that), and will be able to guide them, adopting simple rules.
- It is better to ride one by one. "Steam Engine" can fall apart at half-way and tip over to the edge of the hill.
- The next one should slide only when the previous one had time to get up and move away.
- Do not create congestion at the top. Crawled - and immediately roll down, otherwise someone will "help" by pushing down.
- Do not push! Falls even from a small height are very dangerous.
Hooligans in diapers
Almost every child under the age of three was in the role of an aggressor. Biting, jostling and tweaking at this age is perfectly normal. The kid does not yet understand what hurts, and does not know how to feel someone else's pain as his own. To cope with their emotions, they can not express their words either: they took away the toy - it is necessary to strike the offender, interested another's machine - pulled it out and ran away to study it. Moms are often touched by the "disassembly" of their youngsters: it looks funny from the side, as two yearlings shove each other. But such brawls are not a reason for fun. The child takes his mother's laughter as an unequivocal endorsement, and then try to explain to him why it is bad to fight. But punishing the kid for aggressive behavior is useless: he just does not understand what he got for. It is better to act "ahead of the curve". It is not necessary to sit next to a crumb in the sandbox and grab his hand at any sudden movement - just stay close enough to quickly intervene at the right time. Teach your child to ask for permission before you take someone else's toy, explain why you need to wait patiently for your turn and why you need to be more tolerant towards the karapuzes. A kid must necessarily be taught to play with other children. The position of non-interference will lead to the fact that some will form a sense of permissiveness, while others will become permanent victims. And all this - with the tacit consent of mothers who believed that the children themselves will understand.
If the child has shown aggression:
• Do not scold him in front of other children - take the offender to the side for debriefing;
• find out the causes of the conflict ("I pushed because I liked the car and I wanted to play with it");
• Show what the consequences of the quarrel look like: "Look, the boy is hurt, he cries";
• suggest ways out of the conflict: you must ask for forgiveness, regret, return the toy;
• Explain how to do it: ask for a car, suggest switching toys or playing together.
If your child is bullying, do not teach him to give change. In children, the concept of "letting go" has nothing to do with "standing up for yourself." The child does not yet understand very well when this "change" can be "given" and with what force. A crumb can have a desire to "give change" if you did not allow him to network the sand for a walk or someone before him took the toy he wanted to take. Teach your child to respond with teasing words: "You do not have to do, I do not like it," step aside and not pay attention to the aggressor.
Small owners
The main rule of the sandbox - all the toys in it are common, everyone has the right to play with them. But to be able to share for the child is a whole science. In two or three years, children have a sense of ownership: the baby realizes that there are things that belong only to him; the word "mine" appears, the child actively protests against encroachment on his personal things. Kroha does not yet understand that his toys are being taken for a while, and not forever, so he gets angry and upset. Do not call the baby greedy. But to teach to share - it is desirable. Do a compliment to your child: you are very kind, so you will necessarily share with the guys when you want. Call sympathy: another kid does not have such a beautiful car, and he so wants to ride it. Offer an exchange: you bark to play a shovel, and you give a beautiful watering can! Let the kid share with joy, not with regret. Praise and actively rejoice when first decided to lend your favorite toy. Reinforce the new ability with positive emotions. On the example of the heroes of fairy tales and cartoons, show how well it is to be able to share (the characters clearly demonstrate to the kid what is "good" and "bad"). You can also teach kindness through toys. If all the same the kid does not want to part with the property, do not force it. Many mothers, believed that the child must share their toys, with their own hands turn it into a jerk. A common picture: Mom takes away a toy from his son with the words: "Do not be greedy, the boy also wants to play," So the child receives a double psychological trauma: first, he experiences negative feelings and next time with even greater bitterness will protect his property; secondly, it seems to him that the closest person betrays him, he takes the side of the offender. Always be on your child's side! Of course, the baby must share, but not to the detriment of himself. Other children will have to accept that while your baby wants to play with his own toy, no one has the right to claim it. How to avoid the sea of tears? Do not bring expensive toys to the site. Favorite toys of the baby, too, should be left at home - in fact for other children this is not value, but just things that can be accidentally broken, lost, dismantled, buried, dirty, carried away. Priorities for kids I can! change, consider this. If today in favor bicycle, walking with him, bypass the site with a party, otherwise the whole walk will be dismissed from persistent lovers of driving. It is convenient to keep a package with toys for the street in the corridor - and you do not need to wash them every time, and there will not be particularly foamy things in the package.
Mom-irritant
Mums on the playground often themselves will copy the conflicts. To avoid walking into a source of negative emotions, stop seeing the theater of military operations in the sandbox. Yes, your child will be pushed, take away his toys, destroy kulichiki, but this is not a conspiracy of scarlet forces, but the usual behavior of ordinary children. Always look after the child. For moms, the playground is a place where "domestic hermits" lead a very lively social life. But, having sworn with the "colleague", you not only can overlook the dangerous situation, but forget to tell the crumb something very important. Without you, he does not know that to swing for an hour - selfish, and there is sand - tasteless. Give man freedom! Do not yank at every moment your own child - after all, it irritates those around you. Conflicts are first settled by children, and only if they fail, parents come to help. Children must learn to interact with each other. Mom's intervention is necessary if the child behaves in a way that can harm himself or other children. All disputable situations need to be addressed not with children, but with their parents. Never raise your voice and do not raise your hand to another child (for your own, however, also). In a dispute with the parent of another child, you can not go over personal insults or accusations. Let the word "we" appear in your conversation, it allows the interlocutor to understand that you are ready for a constructive dialogue. Tell us what you see the situation, and listen to the other side. Together, discuss possible ways out. And if it was the command of your child that caused the conflict, let the victims express anger. After a calm, level top apologize, if there is anything. If you do not consider your baby guilty, do not "run into" in response. Express your opinion. Instead of dialogue you hear curses? Turn around and leave. And try not to intersect with this family anymore.
- Do not come to the playground with a sleeping child, so that you do not chic after others. Children around have the full right to yell.
- Do not treat delicious other children without the knowledge of their parents. The child can be allergic to anything. Ask permission from mom / dad before sharing the cookies in a brotherly way.
- Do not meddle with your advice when you are not asked. And when asked, too, do not tear into battle. It is better to be silently surprised that a child walks without a hat (maybe he is seasoned), wears a dirty jacket (maybe this is a collection of a famous designer, the last peep of fashion, does not talk with sentences (maybe he writes them).
- Do not throw garbage on the ground. Children immediately begin to repeat your actions.
- Do not call the child a boy (or girl), if not sure who is in front of you. Girls with a haircut "under the hedgehog, in camouflage and with a gun (like the boys in pink) are also found.
- Do not interfere in someone else's educational process. This can be done only as a last resort, when the child's health is at risk.
- Do not swear. To the next day not to hear the "pearl" from the mouth of your own child.
- Do not smoke near children and their moms. If you endure the end of the walk unbearable, leave the playground.
- Do not be indignant if your child has broken someone else's toy and the parents of the affected party are waiting for you to fix it or materially compensate for the breakdown.
- Do not hurry to apply everything you've heard in practice. Mums on the bench do not always have the right information, and it's not at all the fact that someone else's experience in treating dermatitis will help your child.