Is it hard to be the daughter of famous parents?
In our country, this factor greatly hinders. Abroad acting dynasties are in high esteem. If a daughter is shot in a movie with a famous father, they say this only positively. In Russia, immediately see in this blat. I'm amazed to hear this: in the acting profession, blat can take place, but the viewer can not make you watch a movie with talentless artists. And they will definitely not go to the theater for performances. Do you really miss the adoptive father of Alexander Abdulov now?
I have accumulated a lot of questions to him as a man. Alas, I can not now voice them ... But I communicate with him much more often than in his lifetime. I know that he is somewhere near, I talk with him and I know that now I have additional protection in heaven.
Xenia, how do you perceive your biological father-Bulgarian?
I do not like to talk about this subject. Soon the screens will be released a film that I shoot about my dad - Alexander Abdulov, and in this picture I will tell a little about my biological father. I have one father - Alexander Abdulov, and that's enough for me. It's not the children's business to forgive or not to forgive parents: they will sort themselves out among themselves.
Xenia , you are now not only an actress, but also a married lady, a young mother. How do you feel in these roles of the famous and beautiful Ksenia Alferova?
Perhaps, an adult lady, I do not feel myself, and probably never will. My grandmother is an "old hooligan" and very young at heart in her 80s. Therefore, the lady - it's certainly not me! Always was aimed at the family: dreamed of a big house, a love for life and a single husband. Work for me is also important, but is only a way of self-expression, because energy and various ideas beat me with a key. I was convinced: the main changes in a woman occur when she becomes a mother, and not when a man and a woman start a common life. It does not matter: the pair is officially registered or not. For example, Egor and I, after the wedding, in November 2001, decided to marry. This was our conscious step.
For many, the wedding ceremony is just a tribute to modern fashion.
I do not accept the word "fashionable" . Egor and I simply felt the need for the sacrament of the wedding. But my father did not immediately allow me to get married, referring to the seriousness of the deed. After all, the procedure of debunking does not exist, and the ceremony takes place in heaven. If a woman in time will have another man - it will be a sin. Because after the wedding, the husband is one - both on earth and in heaven. I advise everyone to think carefully before taking such a responsible step. What changes after the wedding - I can not formulate. Probably, there is a more pronounced sense of responsibility. It is very beautiful, adult and not burdensome for me. This is very close to the couple. And even after the birth of Dunya's daughter, I began to love myself very much. I understood that it was the upbringing and upbringing of a child, the family is my main female vocation. And work - because so much. When the child was born, there was a sense of harmony, and I realized that I became a full-fledged woman. I suddenly began to arrange everything in myself: I do not mean the shape of the nose or the length of the legs, but the general sensations.
Xenia, who cares for Dunya's daughter while you're on the road?
Up to a year and a half I sat with the baby, breastfed and did not work at all. This month, Duna will be three years old, and now she is engaged in a nanny. But I try to devote all my free time to my daughter. When a child appears in the family, some men are jealous of the fact that children take away part of the woman's attention and love from them.
Egor can quickly grow up. Up to a year he took care of the child better than me and with great pleasure: he changed diapers, bathed. I do not know where he learned this! It's funny when men are jealous of their own children. On the contrary, they are obliged to protect a woman with a child from all external adversities. In addition, a year later, when the baby is already beginning to walk, the lost balance of relations "man-woman" is leveled, and the man does not feel deprived. But it depends on the woman herself. Which of the two of you tried to level the personal balance?
Naturally, I am . Simply at first, it can not be different, because the mother next to her child is 24 hours a day.
Then she must again become a wife and a woman, ceasing to be only a mother. This is a complex process of restructuring: to become again sexual and attractive, to get rid of excessive concentration on the child. Some girls are afraid to become pregnant, so as not to spoil the figure. Have you had no fears to say goodbye to your harmony? What kind of nonsense are these fears! I quickly got into shape. She swam a lot. Just do not eat bread in large quantities, and replace them with vegetables, fruits and cereals - something that is useful for the child. The fact that the ladies are complex because of weight, blame the men who are voicing it. How can a normal man not like a slightly rounded after birth female tummy or her slightly changed chest? I wonder what kind of child were you? Trouble-free. My mother and I were friends: she never pressed me with her opinion. I do not like the process of education. After all, children are perfectly ideal creatures, with their character and temperament. And my task as a mother is not to spoil his natural talents and provide all opportunities for full-fledged development. So I was brought up by my mother. She said: "Everyone must make mistakes in order to understand life." True, my mom saved me from global failures. How often do you give vent to emotions in family quarrels?
Xenia, who is the first to go to a truce?
In any quarrel we talk, but do not scatter in the rooms. Do not be afraid of quarrels: they help to understand the origins of the conflict. Otherwise, everything will end in divorce, and the spouses will part enemies. The main thing is not to slam the door, but sit down and talk about mutual claims. How did the parents perceive Yegor Beroev, when you brought him to your home as a potential husband?
Even if he did not like them categorically, no one would have told me this in my eyes. This is my choice and I live with him, not my mother! She understands everything, and even if she did not like Yegor, her mother kept her opinion to herself. Therefore, I still do not know whether Yegor likes my mother or not ... In one of the interviews you said that you did not represent the actor in the role of your husband. Mom was in solidarity with you?
We met with Egor at a press conference of the First Channel. He was a young actor of the Moscow Art Theater. I'm sure that my mother wanted me as her husband as a solid banker or a stable financier, no less! Because the actor is not serious. In addition, there are very few men among actors (I do not mean sexual orientation): this is a purely female profession - to be in sight, constantly to like. My father, Alexander Abdulov, is a striking example of a man who was able to remain in this profession as a man to the marrow of his bones. Perhaps,
Egor is also an exception in this regard .
Xenia, you at that press conference tried to attract his attention?
No, he won me. It was his idea. I only took courtship and reacted to Yegor far from the first time. He was cute to me, but no more. Our rapprochement happened unnoticed. Sympathy arose immediately, but for a long time I could not formulate for myself what is happening to me. And then I realized that I lack the society of Egor, with whom I am very comfortable. And I decided - this is love ...
Xenia, in what you find it difficult to find common ground with your husband?
He is very punctual and beforehand leaves for all meetings, and I am chronically late and can not leave the house in time. Therefore, we have two cars, and not one - it was a solution to our problem. Another husband is inclined to think about every step, but I do everything spontaneously and do not like to build far-reaching plans. Egor is a doubting, pessimistic person, and I am an optimist and I always hope for the best result. And what kind of man does not attract your attention? Without a sense of humor, self-irony and keen mind. I could not get along with such a man. When people take themselves seriously, it's awful! I like to play a trick on someone, but not evil. In many ways, the happiness of the family depends on the relationship with the father in law.
How did the famous and beautiful Ksenia Alferova develop an understanding with her husband's parents?
I am a person without conflict and I can quickly find a common language. Yegor also has an easygoing character. We do not live with our parents - and that's right. Dads and mums of both spouses can be ideal, but if they all live under the same roof - there will never be peace in the family. We have our own life, they have their own. We go to visit each other and communicate well. Each family is a separate galaxy, with its own way of life and energy.
It is believed that all the daughters are like mothers: Xenia, what do you like with your mother?
In many ways, even from external sources. More and more often I catch myself on what I am doing or talking in my mother's manner. Probably, this is inevitable. She also brought me up on her example. With my child, I communicate the same way as my mother used to do to me. And what are you and your mother with perfect antipodes? Mom is an introvert, and I'm much more active. She likes solitude, but I like big noisy companies. If you are in trouble, with whom do you share your experiences: with your mother or with your friends? At my age, they no longer complain to my mother, but communicate with friends. I have decent friends. Never faced with betrayal and artfulness of friends. I think, and do not have to. They say you paint well ...
The famous and beautiful Ksenia Alferova has many different hobbies: I can do stucco, knit, draw. This happens spontaneously. I rarely paint, under inspiration and basically what I see. I started to learn Italian, because I often live in Italy with Egor and Dunya. I also studied English, French and German. You have a house in Sicily. Why there? The south of Italy is incredibly temperamental, beautiful landscapes, people are very emotional, men are passionate. Italy is my second home, I'm comfortable there.
Xenia, what traditions migrated to your own family from your parents?
Annually the whole family , with friends, we mark on February 6 - the birthday of my grandmother Ksenia, who is also my great friend. On New Year's Eve, it's difficult to get together, and on that day, almost everyone can. You are a certified lawyer and have high expectations in this area. Then they switched to cinema and theater. Do not you regret it?
The fact is that with my mother's side all relatives are lawyers, and my grandmother even wears the title of "The Best Lawyer of Novosibirsk". Therefore, I decided to go to law school at Moscow State University. Trained in the UK, in a respectable law firm, then worked for some time at a British law firm in Moscow. I tried myself in the legal field, but I realized that this is not my vocation. And I firmly decided to do only what I like. This is my life principle. In the press there was a rumor about Yagor Beroev's "service novel" and Ekaterina Gordeeva, the Olympic champion in figure skating, with whom he skated in the "Ice Age". They also said that because of this you did not want to participate in the continuation of the show. Is there any truth in all this?
Egor and I were surprised to learn about this news from the pages of the newspapers. Unpleasant, but I'm not going to explain everything to everyone. The yellow press is a disaster for our relatives and close people. After such articles it is necessary to calm them. The project "Ice Age" is a great work. We had a lot of training, plus everyone - families and work. Not everyone will withstand such loads. Therefore, physically there was neither the strength nor the time to wind up novels on the ice. We came home, and immediately went to bed, falling from fatigue. At first it was funny to us, but now this story is too long ... How did your mother take the gossip about Egor? Mom just look into my eyes, and she immediately understands what is true, and what is fiction. In my opinion, I do not produce the impression of an unhappy, deceived woman ... Egor and I have something to lose - each other.