With whom to sleep a child?

Frankly, the problem of "who to sleep with a child" recently has a great deal of concern for pediatricians, since now it's pathologically fashionable to sleep with children. The medical term "pathologically" is used in this case because sometimes mothers do not understand why they do it, putting forward such arguments that it is very difficult for a doctor to understand.
The uniqueness of the situation is that none of the classical therapists say that a joint parent of parents and children is needed by the latter. On the contrary, they advocate the need to preserve a separate vital space for the child, the pope also has the right to have a shared bed with his mother, etc. But, nevertheless, there is a huge number of books, the authors of which confirm that the joint sleep of parents and children is a vital necessity.

For example, the ambassadors of the famous anthropologist James McKenna, the child, according to the structure of his body, is ideal for sleeping with his mother. But is it not more logical to read that Papa, in its structure, approaches Mom much better? We can not consider the happiness of a child from the bliss of the happiness of his parents, we can not make him happy the pricelessness of his father or the feeling of separating the parents from each other. Consider the man as a manufacturer who performed his function and went to sleep on the mat beside, wrong.

Therefore, the advice to all mothers who have decided to decide together with the child is to listen to the opinion of the pope, the happiness is determined by the mutual consent of both parents, not just the child.
Many mothers, whose children are breastfed, say that sleeping with them is more convenient because of night feeding. At the same time, moms, whose children are on artificial feeding and also sleep in a separate bed, the question arises: does their child have enough tactile contact with his mother? Representatives of the fashionable profession "Breastfeeding Consultant" are trying to convey to the woman the need to feed the baby on demand. But, strangely enough, this motivates the aspiration to make my mother happy, and the woman's inclusion in the strict framework is "obligatory." We are trying in every possible way to be persuaded that if a woman does not sleep at night, she falls off tired, feeds the baby for the first time with a squeak and sleeps with him, the toone is a full-fledged mother. Conversely, if the baby sleeps in his crib, mammy-nourishes it by the clock (or, God forbid, the child does not get the breast) and has time to rest, then such a mother is inferior, and consequently, different complexes start to arise about the fact that her child does not enough contact.

Doctors strongly recommend learning how to distinguish between animal contact and human contacts. Human contacts are intelligence and communication. Give the child warmth and comfort can not only constantly applying it to the chest, but also talking to him, feeding him from the bottle. It's not about whether it's better or worse. Speech about that, that the woman who can not feed the baby with a breast by virtue of any circumstances, does not become for him a dog. And for the manifestation of maternal care, tenderness and warmth, she has a variety of alternative ways. Of course, there are families who do not experience discomfort from sleeping together with their children, children can come at night on the bed of the parent, and parents adopt them with pride. One of the examples of such families is the family of William Martha Sears. They have eight children, William is a pediatrician and Martha is a consultant for breastfeeding. Together they wrote a lot of works on how to educate and raise happy children and at the same time remain happy-parents. All this is fine, if in any situation all members of the family are happy. But the family model for Sears is built exclusively on children. This is a family that exists exclusively for the sake of children, in which the social importance of women is determined only by the word "mother." What is Marta Sears without eight children? It only teaches all how to realize itself in this world, being only a mother. And the majority of modern women see their social significance in the other. Sirs write books that make them known throughout the world, how to improve only the upbringing of children, but to other people with one or two children, these recommendations are useless. If you decide to dedicate your life to children - this is your right and happiness, but no less than the health of an economist, a lawyer, a doctor, a teacher or someone else.

One can not disagree with the opinion of psychoanalysts working with children of all age groups that a pleasant stay of a child in one bed with the mother will not have any consequences. There are several psychological problems that take their origin precisely in joint offspring and children. Problem situations in which an adult man is engaged in sex with one woman, and married to a friend, begin precisely with the fact that in the course of time his mother sent his father to sleep in another room. This issue is very important in the context of situations that the child himself will live on. Those families in which two children manage to combine two images - women for the father of the imam for themselves - turn out to be really happy. Growing up, he (if we talk about the boy) will be able to find a sebet woman, with whom he will have sex (and get pleasure from it) and she will be the mother of his children.

It remains to add that the monstrous expansion of psychiatrists and psychologists who propagandize fashion for a joint sonmother and a child is a recent belief. Doctors formulated their opinion, we have only one thing: to think and make the right decision.