Let's try to figure out whether at least two women can coexist for many years side by side, without creating each other problems, are they really capable of sincere female friendship and support.
Temporary union.
It happens that there are two women who are the exact opposite of each other. One brunette, the second blonde, one smart, the second beautiful, one loves high, another rich and so on. They have nothing in common, and with difficulty there are topics for conversation even in the period of lack of an object for communication, they are not enemies, just completely different. And suddenly these women become the best friends surprisingly familiar to all.
Such sudden changes have a reason that explains everything. An uninvited third appears in the lives of these women. And this third creates identical problems for these two completely different women - interferes in a career, flirts with their men, tries to take their place among common acquaintances. Strictly speaking, there is a rival who can destroy that delicate balance that was maintained, thanks to the differences of the newly-born girlfriends.
This union is always against someone, it is effective and durable, as long as there is an annoying factor - a rival. As soon as the opponent disappears, the need to keep each other close also passes.
Net benefit.
Often, women are friends for years only for the sake of profit. Although practicality is considered a masculine feature, in fact, women are not deprived of this quality, they just express it differently.
In such relations, one woman occupies an obviously leading position, and the second as it clings to it. One achieves success in his career, in his personal life, the second is trying to find a good job due to the connections of his more successful friend, or a good husband, thanks to the same connections and an interesting circle of communication first.
Such a symbiosis can exist just as much as the patience of a friend - the leader - suffices. Over time, on the basis of the unsettled "tail" there are conflicts, unavoidable envy and petty dirty tricks, which is the reason why such a female friendship is falling apart.
Self-affirmation.
Men do not get tired of wondering: why are beautiful girls always such ugly girlfriends ?! It's simple! Against the background of plain-looking simpletons it's easier to look like a stylish beauty. This contrast works and most of all I like both.
The beautiful woman receives her attention from men, and her friend comforts those whom the windy coquette has rejected. Without such a spectacular girlfriend, the ugly woman would have been completely deprived of men's attention, and the beautiful woman would have to compete with strong rivals.
Such friendship often ends when a beautiful woman finally finds a prince and jumps in marriage. Her girlfriend has nothing more to catch, and they part.
Or the old woman suddenly blossoms and begins to attract much more attention to herself than her friend would have liked.
This friendship usually begins in adolescence and often ends long before one of the girlfriends turns 25.
According to the laws of the jungle.
It has long been known that women are very cunning and insidious creatures. Any modest person can conceal the qualities of a real predator, who sit in it and wait for a chance to appear in all its glory.
Paradoxically, women often call a girlfriend that they simply can not stand. It would seem, why in this case be friends?
Women perfectly understood the rule - to keep enemies closer than friends. My colleague tried to take your place? An old acquaintance flirted with her husband? A neighbor trying to look better and younger? Most often, it is these situations that are the reason for a very dubious female friendship. The purpose of such a relationship is the same - the injured party recognizes the weak points of the opponent and at the appropriate moment, in one move, sweeps her from her path.
Sometimes it's not easy to recognize such cunning in girlfriends who seemingly are genuinely attached to each other. It is this friendship that gives food for talking about the fact that women are not able to be friends at all.
Interest club.
Whatever men say, women rarely do something just like that. Men just do not always understand the motives. Often two girls find similarities in views, habits, tastes of each other and this is the reason for a long relationship. It's nice when someone understands you and is able to agree that crocheting is much more fascinating than watching TV shows.
This kind of female friendship is peculiar to either very young ladies or already held ladies. They do not share a place under the sun, but simply enjoy the fellowship, because they are practically mirror images of each other, albeit not externally.
True, it happens that such similarity leads to the appearance of one object for passion, and 3 to 2, as is known, is not divided.
Therefore, and such idyll is not immune from sudden storms.
But at the same time there are so many women who manage to keep warm friendly relations from youth and to gray hair. How do they do it?
Over friendship, as well as over any relationship, it is necessary to work. One must be able to be frank, but at the same time observe tactfulness. You need to trust, but understand what can be used against you during a possible conflict. It is important to be able not to cross the road of a friend and not envy her success. In the end, you do not have to take each other's men.
None of us is insured against losses, and losing a friend is no less painful than losing a loved one. Common interests, trust, understanding, sensitivity, the ability to forgive and not to hide grievances - it is the foundation on which to build friendly relations. Then you will definitely have a reliable shoulder in the most difficult and joyful moments in life.