In our youth we do not attach much importance to conventions. We show the abyss of ingenuity, so as not to spend the night at home, we easily find an opportunity to retire with a guy in the midst of a noisy party. Why in adulthood for sexual life we absolutely need an empty apartment without children and relatives, a huge double bed, etc.?
The housing issue and intimate life is becoming an increasingly urgent topic for the conversation of the new generation.
Of course, it is good to live away from relatives. But not at all it turns out. What now: there is no housing - no sex? Believe me, this is not so. From my own experience I know that a separate apartment does not guarantee family happiness and daily enchanting sex. In turn, it is in difficulty that true feelings are tempered. Include fantasy, add youthful enthusiasm and adventurism - and your intimate life will play with unprecedented colors.
Sex in the parental home
Situation: living under one roof of several generations is not uncommon in our time. The reasons for each of their own: the lack of funds for buying / renting housing, the need for somewhere "rush" for the time of repairs, etc. What problems can arise in this situation? One familiar couple complained that while they were under the wing of their parents, their already infrequent sexual pleasures turned into an old silent movie: without sounds and unnecessary movements. Not many can relax, knowing that someone is behind the wall. Among the constraints is the fear of being caught at the most inopportune moment and the need to control every sound and movement.
The way out of the housing issue and intimate life: as you know, the complexity of the situation is measured by our attitude towards it. So, you need to drop false modesty and start caring about the welfare of your family, and not about what others think. Not forgetting, of course, the elementary rules of decency.
First of all, worry about the lock, or at least the door latch. If in your erotic arsenal there are things that it is desirable not to catch the eye of impressionable parents, it is also better to hide them "on a turn-key basis".
Domestic people do not need to know what you are doing in your own home. Scrape the bed - buy a new one or put the mattress on the floor. Soft carpet - also a great sexplatform. Do you remember how the heroes of the novel "12 chairs" tried to muffle the sound of kisses with a primus stove? Do not repeat their mistakes, trying to "disguise" through the included TV or music. Those who studied physics at school know that to make noise should be where they listen. Therefore, it is much more efficient to connect cable TV in the paternal room or stock up on DVDs. "Podsadiv" parents on some series, you will provide yourself a couple of hours of free time. My friends often do "it" in the shower under the pretext of "I'll go to my favorite back." Checked by experience: the flow of water perfectly drowns out sounds.
Catch the moments when the parents are at the dacha, make them an avid theatergoers. Stop your work schedule in such a way that you go to work later than other household members or come home to "lunch" sex.
In summer, diversify your relationship with unusual romantic adventures in nature. Do you know that the environment is feeding us with sexual energy? It's no wonder that outdoor sex is considered the most romantic and memorable for a long time.
Fantasize, and there is a lot of opportunities to be alone with your loved one. The main thing is to keep a warm and friendly atmosphere in the house, and then the restrictions in space will not seem so painful. After all, as the saying goes, in cramped, yes, no offense.
In "odnushke" with the child
Situation: housing issue and intimate life: for a young couple and a one-room apartment seems to be a stretch, just to get away from the parents. But what if there is a replenishment in the family? Many mothers and dads are concerned about the question: if the baby sleeps in the same room with the parents, to what age are the crumbs "decent" to make love? And what to do when the child grows up and the room becomes "crowded" for the three?
A whole generation of Soviet children grew up in communal apartments in even worse conditions. And nothing, everyone, thank God, are alive and mentally healthy. Another thing is that modern "flowers of life" are more aware of issues of intimate life and it is unlikely that your six-year-old kid will believe that parents are engaged in sports.
My friends live in a hotel with two grown-up children. The housing issue and intimate life has long been solved with the help of a partition. If the yardage does not allow such a redevelopment, change the "dislocation". After all, in addition to the room, your apartment has a bathroom and kitchen. Agree, all the time to have sex on a family bed is boring!
You can "raft" children on holidays or weekends to grandparents. One option is to put in the kitchen a folding sofa or to organize a sleeper on the balcony (an alternative for summer time). I'm sure your child himself will gladly move there for the night to be able to be alone with himself, read an interesting book.
For sex to be noiseless, it is important to choose the right position. The poses of the missionary and rider for this purpose are completely inappropriate. Lie face to face with each other. Let only the man move, frictions should be slow. Or take a pose of a spoon: lie on your side, the woman turns to the man's back and archs the lower back.
Many potential misunderstandings can be avoided if the child is prepared in advance. You and your husband should not be embarrassed to show tender feelings for each other in the presence of a child. For children from 5 years in the bookstores are sold special "sexual" encyclopedias written by child psychologists (preferably books of domestic authors). Periodically consider the book together, learn how to speak without frankness on frank topics. And if an adult growing up involuntarily becomes a witness to the intimate life of mom and dad, it will not be necessary to feign justification for excuses.
Often the cause of our problems in the head, and not in the absence of living conditions. If the fact of the presence of a child or parents (even if behind a wall) completely kills sexual desire, your couple needs the help of a person from: a family psychologist or sexologist.
Young expect that parents will be sympathetic to their personal lives. Why in response not show respect and not try, that during sex the amount of decibels is not off scale?