Most likely, that there will be some kind of character trait to irritate you and even if you have to communicate with this person for a short time, then during the whole day you will be haunted by a feeling of emptiness and discomfort. But you do not need to hide and hide from these people. It is necessary to curb your nervous system and react properly to them. Let's follow the rules of behavior that psychologists have built for you.
How to communicate with the employees of the office?
To temper the aggressor
It is not easy to be near a person who is full of anger. He waves his arms, screams, rushes around the room, breaks off and at the most inappropriate moment for you can "sting" with a sharp word.
What to do?
If you sit, and your "aggressor" seems to hang over you, then you need to stand up so that the person does not suppress you in this way. Look at him with a brief gaze and calmly say: "Of course, you are right, and you have reason to be angry with me." And your first words will stop the whole stream of anger, because he wanted to pour on you so much, but he was not given such an opportunity. When the aggression is reduced, it is necessary to continue: "You insult me when you speak to me in such a tone." These words will pacify such an unbridled person, he was set up to offend you, but he does not have the courage to admit it.
Exaggerate
There are people who are afraid of some changes in life, and then they panic. These people are rumored to be rumored and like to think things through. They wind up themselves and others, drawing unimaginable pictures in their imaginations. Having communicated with such a person, you feel impotence and anxiety. Those who try to break the negative imagination make a mistake, because the panic alarm only increases, and everything repeats again.
How to proceed?
Calmly ask this person what is bothering him. And although this is not easy, but you need to listen and ask the question: "Is there another plan of events? "If this does not calm the panic, ask the question:" What can you do to change the situation? ". It remains only to wait patiently for the outcome of the events. The person will find a suitable option, and the work will clear the alarm.
To talk?
Very tired people talking. The ability to speak and speak is amazing, and it does not matter what to talk about, just do not be silent. They seem to think aloud. Such a man by his tediousness will bring any person to white heat.
What do listeners do?
When the verbal flow begins, you need to look at the talker with a gaze in your eyes and call him by name. Let him formulate the most important thing and tell you in half a minute. If this verbal whirlwind tightens, then tell him to take a break, and give him 5 minutes to discuss. You can say that you are very busy and ask to express an idea in writing.
All around are enemies
It happens that a person hates you. He chuckles, snaps, grumbles. And this behavior will always hook.
Your actions
People in such a situation act on the principle - how they treat us, so we will do, but this only increases the hostility. Do not need to find out the relationship. Let's do the opposite. Ask the question: "What happened? "If everything remains as before, continue with a calm voice:" I know that I irritate you. How should I change my behavior so that you will treat me better? "The essence of the question and a calm tone will lead the opponent into embarrassment, because he is used to doing everything in secret. He is not ready for a frank and open conversation.
Complete indifference
People with a similar philosophy try not to get involved in their own affairs because they simply do not like to communicate. They do not care what happens around. They are cold, rational, indifferent. They do not know how to empathize and sympathize. It is much more pleasant for them to work with machine guns and machines than with people.
How to react?
Best of all. Such a person should be left alone. And if you want to talk, then ask him to help you understand some of your situation. Most likely, you will receive from him some valuable advice.
I am the most, the most
Such people are always in the spotlight. But their constant boasting simply annoys and tires.
Countermeasures
Heavy artillery is needed here. You have to agree with this person, otherwise you will not be heard. Then apply a sharp tone and tell him that everyone is already tired of listening to evidence that he is super-super. But such a person can not be deeply wounded by a word. In his head settles only that which is connected with praise.
It is known how to communicate correctly with office workers. Armed with these tips and take care of your nerves. You feel great and that there are as many good and good people around you as possible.