The factors that cause you to remain in constant tension in the service, experts call psychotraumatic and advise them to adapt. As a result, you can completely get rid of some, others will learn to ignore, and in the third you will even be able to find some positive moments. Neutralizing the ill-fated psycho-traumatic factor, you will immediately feel easy in your relations with colleagues, raise your corporate spirit, and at the same time your own professional ambitions. In short, create the necessary conditions for building a career or at least for a comfortable stay in the workplace. What most often makes us worry at work?
Discontent Rating
Problem number 1 . "I can not tame the" obstinate "boss."
Most often with constant problems in the workplace complain about the leaders who behave in a boorish way: they shout, bang their fists on the table, allow themselves insulting statements. But this is only one of the options (which, by the way, is the easiest to manage). The boss may find himself grouchy, mumbling, curry favor with his superiors and disregard the staff. And if he is a soul-man, but can not clearly and clearly formulate production tasks, changing his orders five times a day? Or does it have clearly overstated claims to the timing and quality of the work performed? It is really difficult to find a common language with such a grief-leader.
We are looking for a positive moment. Recently, in job advertisements, employers have indicated an additional wish - stress resistance. And what is better that fosters morale and ability to withstand unpleasant surprises than work under the guidance of a useless boss?
Correcting the situation
In the triangle "you - work - chief" the main party should remain work. "Taming" chief begins with the fact that immediately determine how his shortcomings affect the results of your work and the state of permanent problems in the workplace. Do not hesitate to ask questions and clarify assignments, ask the irresponsible boss to give CC in writing, and overly stringent ones will give you clear criteria for evaluating the work. Well, do not forget: any boss can have a lot of reasons for "abnormal" behavior - from the catastrophic state of affairs at the firm to health problems. You personally do not have any relationship to these "thunder and lightning"! Learn to perceive the "explosive" boss as an inevitable natural cataclysm, and not a personal curse, and you will find it easier to put up with his existence and to function normally under his command. Instead of falling into ambition, sobbing or anger, just ignore his attacks or politely, but firmly ask him to keep himself in hand, saying that they are not used to discuss working moments in this tone.
Problem number 2 . "I can not find a common language with colleagues."
According to the polls, every sixth woman hates her job, because she could not fit into the collective or got into the ready "terrarium".
Looking for a positive moment
Consider that you are training in "human studies" and you are paid for this (salary)! Every day find the right approach to each member of the team, develop compromise solutions, resolve conflict situations, keep psychological defense and work in a bad team is an excellent school. The strength of character and communication skills developed in her will make you a strong personality and will certainly help in the future. For example, when you yourself become a leader.
We correct the situation. Trying to re-educate gossips, squabbling, naughty, lazy and nahalok is meaningless. It is better to try to occupy your psychologically comfortable niche in the team, which will allow you to work quietly, and not have permanent problems in the workplace, not getting involved in any intra-conflict conflicts and not fighting off every minute from someone's attacks. First, be competent so that you can not be faulted, secondly, take notice of other people's problems, offer your help and support. Most likely, the atmosphere in the office will not improve, but, at least, no one else will touch you. And think about something else. Are you sure that your colleagues are so bad, but are you a wonder how good (benevolent, diligent, professional ...)? Maybe you would also like to work on yourself?
Problem number 3 . "I do not understand what I'm doing and who needs it."
Career does not move at all. Worse, you are not responsible for anything, and your opinion is simply ignored. You could do more and better than you are trusted, but you have no chance to prove yourself and prove your professionalism in practice. And gradually you have a sense of senselessness of what is happening in the office ... We are looking for a positive moment. On the one who does not answer for anything, does not put the burden of responsibility. You can relax, automatically perform a working minimum and solve your problems in parallel: search for options for buying (selling) housing (cars, sheepskin coats) on the Internet, plan your upcoming vacation, do self-education ... If you perceive this period as transitional, this work will not cause so much rejection. Mindless labor does not require the insertion of a soul into it and the squandering of nerve cells. True, for a long time to sit out on such a place psychologists do not recommend - you can completely lose professionalism, efficiency and grasp.
We correct the situation. Loss of interest in what is happening at work is an alarming symptom. As a rule, such apathy sooner or later ends with constant irritation, whining and complaining to others. What to do? Go to work with the head backwards. Look into all the details, study the specifics of your activities with the help of specialized literature, ask the management for a clear job description. Become a symbol of professionalism and commitment in your office. Take the initiative: think about what duties you could take on yourself, what benefit for the cause and for yourself to learn from it personally. Think about a specific plan of action and interest them chief. Also, clearly define the timeframe during which your professional progress should be noticed. At the end of it, present the results of your efforts and ask for a new position or at least an increase in your salary. Well, in case of refusal, start looking for another job.
Problem number 4 . "I do not like the organization of work."
We have two major problems: endless work and an impassable routine. Stresses both that and another. We are looking for a positive moment. When in the office it is easier to mobilize and make work in one go. There is a lack of time, and colleagues are breathing into the back of the head. Routine is good because they give the opportunity to bring their own labor to automatism. And doing the work by inertia, you can mentally focus on an outsider, but for you actual. The hero of the film "In Love at Will", 8 hours a day sharpening on the machine tools, mentally engaged in auto-training and from some point began to succeed in this matter. What, ultimately, changed his personal and professional life for the better. We correct the situation. To avoid the hassle, evenly distribute the case within a week (month). Ask for time management courses, where you will be taught to correctly prioritize. If this is the policy of your leadership, then ask the "working unit" to help and / or pay extra for overtime.
Has bothered routine? Is it because you are doing something that "is completely uninteresting to you? Then you have to change work. If the routine has become a favorite thing, it is a sign of growth - you have reached your professional ceiling and you just need to move on. And not necessarily outside the gate of the home office. If you try, you can almost always find options for self-realization in your own company.
Problem number 5 . "I have too little salary."
It is good that the work is pleasant, and with colleagues excellent relations, and the boss is extremely sincere - in such conditions it is possible to turn mountains off. But the enthusiasm will be considerably reduced, if you get "nothing at all" on the day you receive your salary. We are looking for a positive moment. If you count your earnings against the background of income, say, Paris Hilton, then really, not for long and go crazy with grief. But if you approach the cause soberly and compare your own salary with the salary of a friend of the same age, it may well become clear that you receive twice a month more than she does. Monitor the labor market: if your income is comparable to the average salary in your industry, then hating the service for financial reasons is simply unfair.
We correct the situation. Before moving into a more profitable professional sphere, think about what you can still get out of today's work in a material sense. Perhaps, you could take on additional responsibilities and automatically receive more? Or should you go to the boss and talk seriously about the increase in salary or at least premium, if you really deserve it? After all, this is often a psychological problem. You would like to receive more, but you do not consider yourself right. Why?
"Because of the fear of sanctions: the loss of the location of the authorities, dismissal," said member of the Paris Psychoanalytical Association Ilana Reis-Schimmel, "If a person experiences a feeling of guilt when he asks for a raise in his salary, then the reason should be sought in mixing the images of the boss and father: the parent is felt as a threat. " In this case, you need to reconsider your attitude to the boss, to yourself and from this angle - to the size of the salary. Low self-esteem extinguishes ambition. If you are not ready to call the figure-how much you would like to receive a month in a bold, loud and clear manner, looking at the boss's eyes, you will not earn more than now. Neither on this job, nor on another. The desire for good earnings always begins with the growth of self-esteem - keep this in mind.
Do you strongly dislike the work and obviously does not meet your requirements? Well, look for a new one! In the meantime, try to adapt to the current one and try to make the most out of it. For example:
- equip your workplace with maximum comfort, because your stay here can drag on;
- establish business contacts, acquire useful contacts, stock up recommendations and positive feedback;
- increase your qualifications: attend seminars, courses, lectures - the knowledge gained will be useful to you in the future;
- do not work after the sleeves, you will get used, and in the future you will not be able to work otherwise, even in a new place;
- Do not miss the opportunity to arrange or adjust your personal, family life: when there will be another, exciting work, time and effort to build relationships with men and children you will have much less.