How to explain to the child that the mother will live with another person

Before explaining to the child that the mother will live with another person, it is necessary to find out how badly your child experiences conflict in the family. As far as we know, children are especially keenly experiencing the disruption of their parents.

They do not understand the reason for your separation. Before such a serious conversation it will be necessary to find out how stable the psychological state of the child is.

Parents who understand all responsibility should first of all think about their children, their welfare, but do not forget that they also have the right to happiness. Parents who divorced, will still have to communicate with each other, in order to know what is happening to their child. And it will not matter who the child is with (mom or dad). They are jointly responsible for the upbringing of the child, even if they are divorced

You can, when you come from a street or a store, start a conversation with a child in the form of a fairy tale or a game: There lived one family in the world (mother, father and their son). He was as old as you are now. And so Mom (Dad) says that he wants to tell one important news for him. And ask him to express their thoughts about what they want to say to him. Just listen carefully.

  1. The child can assume that you will go somewhere to travel abroad or go on a visit. What awaits him is a great pleasant surprise, which he is waiting for. If so, then his heart is calm and there is no cause for concern, you can safely start a conversation with him.
  2. If your child thinks about the fact that someone from loved ones has died or is seriously ill, then you need to ponder. Do not then rush to announce your decision. It is necessary to wait a little, so as not to harm and not cause a child a psychological trauma. The soul of the child is too vulnerable.

When you see that the child is ready for such a conversation, then there is no need to postpone the conversation in the long box, because if the kid will live in ignorance - even worse. Just be sure to say in the conversation that you broke up with your dad not because of him.

If the kid has not yet reached the age of three, then you can just tell him that you and your dad do not live together. That the pope will now live apart from you.

If the child is more than 6 years old, then you will have a more difficult conversation. And it is important to know how to explain to the child that the mother will live with another person without traumatizing it.

You will need to tell the child that you and Dad parted for one reason or another. That it often happens in life that people have to part, but that does not mean that the child is not loved by their parents. Try to keep this conversation in a relaxed atmosphere and there are no strangers with you. Explain to the child that they will also go somewhere with Dad as before, but he will not live with them. That Papa will always help in any difficult situation. Do not need to tune the child against his father and talk about him all sorts of nastiness. That everything will remain the same as now, only that you will live separately will change. And the most difficult thing is to tell the child that another person will live with you and with him now.

A child may be cautious about your choice. It is possible that the child can strongly resist the fact that in your life there was another person. Children over the age of seven respond very well to the condition of the mother. If you are calm, then the child will feel comfortable too. In any case, the child must feel that he is protected.

Before you are going to lead a new elected one, you do not have to ask the child if you can live with "this uncle". After all, by this question you shift all responsibility to the child. This should not be done in any case. Acquaintance should occur only when your relationship is already so serious and there is complete certainty that you want to connect your future destiny with this person. It is not worth the new elect to represent the child as his new father. After all, he already has his own father. He can make friends with him and become a good friend for him. In the future, your child may want to be in something similar. But at once do not expect this, because for a child he is a completely strange person. And it will be a difficult task for him to get used to a stranger. Therefore, if the child has a negative reaction to the fact that another person will live with his mother with understanding. The person with whom you want to start living should find an approach to your child. Try to become a good friend for him so that the child can trust him. Then you will not have problems in later life. But he must perfectly understand that he can not replace the child of his own father. Sometimes a child can try to reconcile mum and dad, because he would so like that mom and dad were together. And you must remember that you have a full-fledged right to privacy and happiness.

To the child felt that they love him, pay him more attention. Hug him, kiss him and tell him that he loves you. Always try to tell the child the truth, so that he knows that you trust him. Then in the future you will easily come to the decision of any problems and find a quick and correct solution in any situation. If a child is more than 10 years old, try to communicate with him on an equal footing, so he will better understand you in certain situations.

If you decide to enter a second marriage, you must protect your child always when there is a reason. So your child will know that he is protected. After all, you are now more important to him than an outsider.