In philosophical categories, happiness is defined as a psychological state in which a person feels an inner satisfaction with the conditions of his being, fullness of life and self-realization. Harmony is most simply defined as an internal state of harmony and agreement with oneself. But how to achieve this inner state, how to feel yourself a harmonious person? There is no universal prescription here. Everyone for himself must determine the components of happiness and harmony.
But not for nothing in the philosophical definition of the fullness of life and self-realization. Try to step back from everyday life and look at yourself not even from the side, but a little from above. You will see a big world, in it your country and your city, and on one of the streets of the city - your house, in which you live. Imagine that you looked in your window. What will you see? A cozy apartment in which there lives a loving and beloved woman surrounded by a family? Or a luxurious nest in which two lovers hide themselves? Or a beautiful home for a lonely careerist? How do you look inside your home? You are in a familiar situation, do not control yourself - what is your expression: gloomy and focused, relaxed and calm or cheerful, joyful? This small exercise reveals your inner state and degree of satisfaction with life. The main thing is not to be cunning. Do not imagine what a stranger will see by looking in your window - in front of outsiders we often wear masks, and in this exercise sincerity is important.
Seeing yourself from above, assess your place in the world. Are you satisfied with it? Are you satisfied with the social role? If at least one of the sides of life embarrasses you - you can not achieve harmony. Calmly and detachedly weigh all the facts. Decide whether you are proud of how your career, your personal life develops, whether your usual daily routine gives you pleasure. Select the area you want to work on. If in general you are satisfied with everything, but still "something is wrong", try to dig deeper. Often, happiness consists of small things, and to achieve harmony, there are not enough small parts - such as a cup of hot chocolate in the morning. It is very likely that on closer examination you will find some unpleasant little things that are easy to get rid of, or, on the contrary, remember something that pleases you, which you have not done for a long time.
However, most often the reason for feeling unhappy is not in external details, but in yourself. The famous dictum of Kozma Prutkov perfectly demonstrates the direct dependence of happiness on a person's inner state: "If you want to be happy, be him." Many psychologists say that fortunately you need to get used to, coaching this feeling, and achieving inner harmony is everyday work.
First and foremost, when you answer the question of who you are, you need to learn to accept yourself as you are, or to draw up a plan of concrete actions aimed at change. Very often it is the inner dissatisfaction with self and samoyedstvo that cause the feeling of being unhappy. It is very important to love yourself, then others will look at you with your own eyes. Try to look sensibly at what seems to you a flaw and poisons your existence - is it really scary or maybe, on the contrary, gives you piquancy?
Very often in our minds there is the thought that happiness is simply not given to one's hands and everything must be paid for, and you, with your terrible shortcomings, especially are not worthy of happiness. But is it really so? Happiness is always around us, the main thing is to notice and enjoy it without creating obstacles for ourselves where they do not exist and can not be. Do not say to yourself: "Now I will overcome this, and then I will enjoy happiness and harmony." This is not true, if you can not feel happy now - it is unlikely you can later. A small personal happiness is always and at all. It is necessary only to accustom yourself to notice around something pleasant that makes you happy and fills with the feeling of harmony of being.
Of course, this does not mean that you need to give up self-improvement - no, you need to continue working on yourself, but do not expect that happiness will fall on you after its completion, but learn to find happiness and harmony here and now. Dreaming of the future, do not forget to live in the present!
Fill your life with interesting events: organize small holidays, meetings of friends, forays into nature, start a new hobby - all these little things are formed in a lifetime full of joy and happiness.
Waking up in the morning, start your day with a smile, prepare yourself for the fact that the day will be successful and happy. During the day, accustom your brain to fix all the pleasant incidents and do not focus on small failures. In the evening before going to bed remember all the good things that happened during the day. Fall asleep on a positive thought, so that the day begins with it.
Finding inner harmony, harmony with oneself is daily work, working on yourself, teaching yourself to think about happiness. Strange as it sounds, but many of us just do not allow ourselves to be happy, unconsciously fixing only failures. How often, when a friend says "happy you", we answer her "yah, what are you, what there is happiness there." Do not drive from yourself happiness, admit to yourself that you are a harmonious person, allow yourself to be happy - and happiness will certainly come to your house, because it is always where it is expected, where it is happy. How to find happiness and inner harmony? It's up to you!