How to respond to the first sexual experience of a teenage daughter?

Probably every parents dream that their child always remains small, but children grow up and sometimes not every parents catch the moment when their daughter turns into a woman. I want to control my child, because I do not want him to make serious mistakes, and then suffer. And then you accidentally or not learned that your daughter's treasure recently received her first sexual experience. You must understand that the daughter behaves, as you raised her.

There is a question what to do? It all depends on the age of the child, because if he is 12-13 years old this is one thing, but if he is 17, that's another thing.

As they say calmness, only peace.

The most important thing is not:

• Get upset
• Shout
• Shame
• Lock the house
  

This has already happened, you have to reconcile and accept everything calmly. If you have a trusting relationship with your daughter, you must help her with your support, love, advice, become an experienced friend for her. It will be very good if the mother as an experienced friend can tell her daughter about her first sexual experience. In this case, you can not go into all the details and be prepared for the fact that the daughter can ask questions. Scandals and tantrums can provoke the daughter's departure from home. The best option is to become the best friend for your daughter, understanding, accepting, helping and loving, and you should not forbid you to meet a girl with her boyfriend (even if you do not like her choice at all).

Parents should know with whom and where their daughter meets, otherwise their relationship with their daughter can come to a standstill. If you do not let your daughter out of the house and lock her home after school, this can provoke a prolonged depression, which can result in suicide. Having learned about the first sexual experience, it is necessary to reconcile with him and try to establish a trusting relationship with her daughter, she must be sure that in any life situation she can turn to the mother, to an experienced woman who will not only give good advice, but also will support.

Explain to your daughter that if her young man really loves her, then he will not insist on sex, that you need to learn to say no. Just need a daughter to explain all the consequences of sex before marriage. The child must set for himself internal conditional boundaries, which he will not transgress for-for the sake of his successful future.

Some practical recommendations:

1. After learning about the first sexual experience of your daughter, start the conversation in a calm manner, as if talking on an ordinary topic.
2. The conversation should be without long instructive moralizing, the child is difficult for a long time to be attentive.
3. In your conversation, explain to your daughter all the pros and cons of early sex. Pay attention to biological facts, call things by their own names.
4. There can not be much talk about a person's sexual life, because large volumes of information quickly disappear from the child's memory.
5. In no case should the child be intimidated by telling him about sexually transmitted diseases.
6. If your daughter asks a question, but you do not know the answer to it, do not be afraid to tell her about it. Try to find with her answers to all her questions.
7. After the conversation, you need to check whether the child has correctly mastered the basic information. A good indicator is that the child after the conversation, there are still questions.

If the first sexual experience of a teenage daughter happened without your knowledge, this is not the end of the world. Further, your main goal is to help your child understand all the intricacies of physical intimacy between a man and a woman and become an experienced friend who will always support and help.