How to make the child obey? - This topic worries most parents. How to avoid child disobedience? The old people argue that the child begins to be brought up, while still in the mother's womb. In this case, the assertion of contemporaries about the direct dependence of the characteristic features of the child in specific situations, on the characters of the adults who surround this child, have firm ground underfoot. Because the child is typical of almost all ages to copy their relatives and friends. Such copying can begin with a joke. Growing up, the child, regardless of whether he copied these features or acquired, they will own for life.
Child's obedience
To get a child to obey from an early age is not an easy task. Various scientific works on this subject and the analysis of child behavior at an early age prove that child disobedience is directly dependent on the public errors of their parents. We do not need to go far beyond the example, it happens everywhere when one parent permits, and another prohibits, worse, the grandmother begins to aunt her beloved but punished grandson. At first the child is confused, who to listen to, then he starts to choose what is beneficial for him. In the future, your child begins to lie and as the final chord - to force the child to obey can only his personal benefit and this with a favorable outcome. In the worst case, he already does not listen to anyone's instructions and is left to himself. The most negative variant - the child goes to the street with all the ensuing consequences.
Therefore, in relations with the child, one should not allow such a discord. You can not start a conversation with him on high tones. From the very beginning of the appearance of the child in the house, one must be made to obey any parental order given in a calm voice.
Understanding
An important factor in family relations is the personal relationship between all adult family members. If the child hears, worse, is a direct witness of parents' conversations in high-pitched tones, one should not expect something good in the future. Sooner or later such scenes will repeat, but only one of the main figurants will be your grown-up son or daughter.
Threats and physical punishments, you also do not achieve positive results. At a young age, he can believe in a threat, but with age, it all passes. In the end, the child begins to understand that, as such, there will be no punishment, and therefore there is nothing to fear.
Encouraging children's curiosity on the one hand and all kinds of prohibitions on the other hand, it's very difficult to understand all this at once to the child. Try to do it methodically, persistently and constantly. Then something should be realized, what is good and what is bad.
At the age of up to two years the child is mostly guided by desires, feelings and emotions, all of this in a complex is fed in the form of a powerful charge in the cerebral cortex, helping to perceive the surrounding world. Therefore, at this age, the main parental task is the formation of feelings, when the words "I want" and "need" as closely as possible and coincide in meaning.
To perceive your child's forbidden motives, you should give an idea of the appearance of possible experiences and impressions that can slow down unwanted actions. Finally, to counteract the inhibiting excitement, when a stronger emotion overcomes a weak emotion.
All prohibitions should be essentially simple and understandable, and most importantly, there should not be a great many of them. If you have something to instruct the child to do, you need to check the progress. Do not forget about the promotion, when your order is executed on time and qualitatively.
If your family has a spirit of mutual understanding and mutual respect, you have nothing to fear.