From time immemorial it was believed that a real man - stern, silent, always calm and unruffled. Remember how in the old movie depicted love? Exceptionally looking.
Only sometimes the hero was allowed to conclude the object of passion in a steel embrace with an impulsive movement. At this point, the audience understood: this is very serious and, of course, forever ... And what between the lovers was further, each thought out himself.
Of course, today on the screens we are more accustomed to Hollywood serial handsome men, flooding their ladies with streams of sweet speeches. That's only in real life, the recognition of them for some reason is often heard by representatives of the same sex with them ...
By the way, psychologists confirm this observation: men are excessively eloquent, the so-called demonstratively-hysteroid type. Nature has created them in such a way that bread does not feed - let me show off and paint. The rest of the level of "talkativeness" depends on two reasons: self-confidence and partner and upbringing ...
Not by word, but by deed
First of all, it is worth to understand what you want: confessions of love to a loved one or beautiful words? It is possible to wait until the second coming. But with an expression of feelings - much easier. After all, for men it's "two big differences".
A loving woman, as a rule, expresses her feelings loudly and openly, a man goes the other way. Namely - by actions. Make a repair for your loved one in the apartment, screw in the burned light bulb, hammer a nail into the wall or pour oil into the machine. The mountains will turn into a proof of their feelings. But - silently. Only with a proud smile: look, they say, for what I'm ready for you!
The main thing is to learn to appreciate and understand the language of men: if he does not spare you strength or time, his attitude towards your person is very serious ...
Not sure, be silent
Most of the men are sure: those of them who are screaming about their feelings to the right and left are chatterboxes and windbags. There is one more important point: while testosterone is playing, it's hard for men to figure out how serious they are about their girlfriend. Passions should subside or enter the familiar, so to speak, rut - then he will decide how long he wants to stay with you: until the end of his days or until the end of the week ...
Here is attached!
It also happens that the woman herself becomes the cause of the man's laconicity in the confessions of love to a loved one. For example, immediately after the first recognition, she begins to consider the man as her property: offended that she preferred meeting with friends, and not going to the movies with her, limiting her usual freedom, demanding endless signs of attention, compliments, words of love, waiting for advice and approval about the updates. Is it any wonder that now from the frightened by such pressure of a beloved repetition of cherished words one does not have to wait ...
Body - for sex
Gentle and affectionate - not only in words, but also in everyday communication - there are rarely men for whom physical contact is solely a prelude to sex. Any touch for them has an "applied" meaning. It's quite easy to learn such things: they will never hug, they will not pet, they will not kiss "just like that." And they usually do not like themselves when they are "touched in vain." In bed, these gentlemen are boring and inattentive, although they pretend to be tough macho.
If, nevertheless, fate brought you with such "touchy", try to share in his perception of sexual and bodily contact. Do a light massage, be sure to kiss him gently at the meeting and farewell, embracing, look at your favorite TV show - of course, all this in an environment that does not have an intimacy. Gradually, your boyfriend wanders and understands how many joys are brought by these "veal tenderness" ...
Years later
How many years you have lived together, words about love will never lose their charm. And do not think that to hear gentle epithets and assurances of feelings is pleasing only to a woman. Men also know how to love with their ears! In addition, three magic words can be brought out with the sauce on the steak, which you served for dinner. Of course, sometimes it happens: you wait for tenderness and love, and HE forgets even about the anniversary of the wedding! By the way, do not forget about the peculiarities of male psychology - they do not remember important dates! In order not to be in a similar situation, remind him of the upcoming holiday.
Or emphasize something sexual and intimate, as only you know the two. After such a reminder without a gift, you definitely will not stay!
Talk about it
Make a rule - explain your actions to a man, because he does not understand why you are doing this or that action. Always explain to him that you are offended, why you are offended - otherwise he will never know the cause of your resentment and will remain in perplexity for a long time. You do not have enough attention - explain what you would like, want to discuss your new hairstyle - tell him about it, feel misunderstanding - talk to him about the problem.
Set the tone in the conversation. Begin the first, as if from afar, with abstract and neutral questions and gradually bring to the right place: buying the necessary thing, a joint trip on vacation, hiking on your birthday to your relatives, a visit to your mother or an upcoming business trip. And one more important point - with men you always need to speak clearly and simply - the more clearly the question or request is asked, the more concrete the result will be.
The Maths of Love
As polls show, 70% of men believe in a happy marriage, despite the popular belief that they are afraid to marry ...
In 87% of cases, the priority of the first recognition in love belongs to a man, although more than half of the women claim that it does not matter who makes that very first step ...
Only 4% of men want to be a hero-lover, and 52% want to become a real father and a faithful husband who cares about the family ...
The influence of women on the relationship in the pair is -70%, and the men-30%, so the hope that everything is in our hands, will never die ...
About 60% of women reproach their beloved ones for not being able to show tenderness ...
45% of women are happy with non-verbal signs of attention, perceiving them as a manifestation of love ...
Despite the failure, 88% of newly married women retain strong faith in adultery ...
40% of men who first married, do not seek sexual relations on the side ...