And let all of the above sounds harsh, in fact, with most of the problems that babies have up to a year, one can cope with just the rightly organized care of a child, including breastfeeding, healthy children's sleep, outdoor walks, massage and infants gymnastics. The first 365 days of a child's life are not for nothing: pediatricians call the golden age, at this time the baby's organism is absolutely "gutta-percha" - thankfully responding to all the efforts made to improve his health and state of health.
Alien guest
The baby is born, and the young mother is waiting for the first surprise: he is not at all the same as she had expected. Despite the tenderness and happiness, one can not help but notice that the newborn does not look like an image of a pink-cheeked puppet from advertising. He has a large head, in comparison with the body, the skin can be wrinkled, red or even yellow (because of the original jaundice). The kid looks like a little alien or a stranger from far away countries. Do not be afraid. Give the child time to settle in our world. The jaundice will pass, the redness passes, the head will eventually become proportional to the body. Baby will begin to gain weight, smile, agukat, actively move and very soon it will just find the image of that fluffy angel from the magazine page. And help him in this, of course, you.
Love me as I love you!
Until the child speaks and learns to consciously pronounce words, syllables or simply show gestures that he needs, the only way to communicate with the world for him is crying. Thus, the baby lets her mother know that she needs something. But what exactly, can not be specified. First of all, a crumb can be hungry. Crying can cause physical discomfort: wet, uncomfortable, frighteningly noisy. Another reason to sob for babies is the absence of a mother nearby. And where to do it, it's unclear! So you need to call her-cry. Over time, you will learn to feel your child, understand what is missing in this moment. This is called bonding - the invisible link between mother and child, allowing her to understand him from a half-word and feel at a distance. No matter how well educated and high in social status you are, in the world of your child's child, you are as unarmed as that mother who has no education or positions. I will say more, sometimes all these "milestones of modernity" do not help, but, on the contrary, they prevent mother from attuning to her child.It has become accustomed to think rationally, it is difficult for her to "push" her mind away and go about her intuition. And you need just this. Forget about the "self-modern" and return to the primitive state.Our distant ancestors did not think whether to breastfeed children, whether to put the kids next to themselves to sleep, whether to carry it in their arms, not being afraid to dilute them.They just did it. the child generally perceives his mother as a part of himself.It is born that he will be breastfeeded and constantly carried in his arms.It is clear that this may contradict your interests.Not all want to breast-feed, not everyone can get a lactation, not to mention that each spouse does not tolerate in their own marriage bed, "third", even if it is his own heir. Nobody can forbid you to do as you see fit. Listen to your heart and do as it whispers. But know that the mood for naturalness (breastfeeding, sleeping together, wearing on your hands) will help you avoid many difficulties. No matter how we decorate a baby crib with ruffles and canopies, and next to Mommy the baby still sleeps more tightly and falls asleep more easily. And the explanation for this is very simple. Mom nearby, the smell of my mother's body, the knock of her heart - it's all very familiar to him, which means everything is all right, everything is in place, the baby is calm. In addition, after being hungry, he begins to groan in a dream and, upon hearing this, his mother immediately offers him to suck the milk, without waiting for him to cry. While separately sleeping crumb will have to thoroughly yell, so that my mother heard and came. When the mother is always there, and the baby is happy to make sure of her love at any moment, the process of adaptation to our world and the experience of the birth stress experienced by all newborn babies are easier. There is even a theory that the crying of a child, who is not yet a month and a half, is connected not so much with physiological causes as with fear of a new and unknown, what the world seems to be our world. A "nerves" affect everything, even the rate of development of the child and weight gain.
Miracle Massage
For 9 months, the child was in a tight space, and almost half of that time he "moved" there a little. "The immobility and weakness of the muscles leads to the fact that many babies suffer from hypertonic or hypotonic muscle." Hypertension of the arms and legs is, for example , when you can not open the baby's palm, it is constantly tightly clenched into the cam, and the arms and legs are half-bent.Hypotonus is also characterized by lethargic muscles.In addition, the child is born completely unadapted to life outside the mother's tummy, and in fact in the near he has a lot to learn and, above all, to own his body, at first the crumb will hold the head, then he will learn to sit, crawl, turn over from the back to the tummy, walk ... His muscles should get stronger, and they will be helped by massage and gymnastics, breast massage can work wonders.We have talked about increased or decreased muscle tone, and to this you can add problems such as hypoplasia of the hip joints (a fairly common situation among infants) and torticollis. A specially trained massage therapist should conduct the massage. When? Depends on the opinion of your pediatrician, who is familiar with the specifics of your child's development. As a rule, the first course of maternity massage is done when the child turns 1 month old. Then they can be repeated every 3 months. When you invite the masseuse for the first time, ask her to teach you simple manipulations that you will do with the child every day: stroking, light exercises for pens and legs, for example. If the baby was born with hypoplasia of the hip joints, do not waste time. The fact that in the first weeks after the birth of the child can be solved by exercises and massage, then it is eliminated in much less humane ways - by applying a tire fixing the legs of a crumb in a certain state.
Put the baby on the back and try to dilute his knees bent in the knees. If they do not "open" in parallel to the changing table, they do not open until the end, the masseuse surely will advise you to do the exercise "Frog" (circular movements of knees bent at the knees) or "Butterfly" when you try to gently knead and dilute the legs of crumbs (like wings butterfly), as far as it allows, and if you accompany the sessions of massage or gymnastics with merry rhymes, this will turn into a real developing activity.
Let's go swimming
As soon as you arrive with a crumb from the hospital, you will have the first exciting bathing. In the future, you will do this daily, more often - every night, before the last feeding and night sleep. And this is not only a hygienic procedure. As my grandmother used to say, "When you're swimming, the babies are growing." Unable to own his body, the baby experiences a real catharsis during the water procedures - his body relaxes, the skin (until the sweaty glands of the baby are completely formed, the skin assumes the function of the most active body separation) is cleared, and the mind calms down.The bath helps the little one tune in to sleep at night and switch from active games to a quiet pastime.He is pacified, ready to eat and go to the strong arms of Morpheus.
To walk!
Fresh air is as much a component of a healthy lifestyle as natural feeding and sound sleep. Walking in the fresh air in the first year of life crumbs you will be a lot and often. Everything starts from 10-15 minutes for the first time. Gradually the length of the walk increases, reaching a couple of hours 1-2 times a day. Some mothers do not want to go out with newborns. And then no one will condemn you. Do as you think is right and as it will be more comfortable for you and your baby. Often, the rejection of absenteeism at first is due to the fact that the mother's body needs to recover from childbirth, she feels not good enough or just not quite confident in her new role as mother, and a brief reclusion helps her recover both physically and psychologically. But even then, do not refuse to put the baby carriage on the balcony. No matter how carefully you clean the apartment, the fresh air is still "healthier" - not as dusty and dry as it often is in our homes .If, of course, do not walk along the slopes. The younger the kid, the walk should be closer to home , or try to organize it as comfortably as possible.On the first time lactation is only set, the child can ask for breast every half hour or even more.Therefore, he should be provided with permanent access to the chest.If you do not want to walk around the house, every time you "kick" the baby going home, get the slime God. Thanks to him, the crumb will be constantly next to you, which means there is no cause for concern. And besides, you can at any time attach the baby to your chest, covered with a sling. The baby will grow by leaps and bounds. And it will become less and less sleep on a walk, and more and more interested in the world around him. So a walk from a wellness event will eventually turn into a developmental activity or a reason for fun entertainment. There are so many interesting things on the street! And up to a year we have so much time!