Three differences
In medical and psychological circles, the term "impotence" is practically not used. That situation. At which the man does not manage to commit sexual intercourse, nowadays it is usually called erectile dysfunction. Approximately every third man who complains about the occurrence of such difficulties, the doctor is not needed. They are practically healthy. The problem with potency is most often psychological. Dysfunction, developing according to this scenario, is most often sudden and is a reaction to some event in life. The difference is that true impotence is inherent in growing gradually and slowly enough.
Erectile dysfunction is a condition in which the night and morning erections persist, there is a corresponding reaction to viewing porn films or viewing photos of erotic content. If sexual problems are of an organic nature, an adequate response is not caused by pornography, nor by a rise in testosterone levels in the morning.
Passion to shreds
PROBLEM. Sexologists note that in recent years, representatives of the stronger sex have become more likely to overcome their doubts about their own sexual abilities ... because of the wrong perception and concept of an orgasm of a woman. Having been influenced by films in which the lady groans at the most culminating moment, sobs and climbs on the wall, the man waits for such a reaction and from his partner. But since such a manifestation of orgasm can not boast of every woman, a man is gnawing at the thought that he simply can not satisfy his partner. And now a sexually normal man now begins to avoid sexual intercourse or, on the contrary, "breaks", having started all the hard. But only as a result - an even greater sense of inferiority, because the head went head on and spontaneity was lost.
EXIT. If you feel that a man expects from you some unusual expression of emotions in bed, try to explain to him that cinema is an object of entertainment, a spectacle that does not always coincide with life. In reality a woman, if she is relaxed after the end of the sexual act, is satisfied, she is calm and quiet on the contrary. She experienced an orgasm, even if she did not express it in groans, screams and insane gestures. It will be better if the man will focus on the subtleties of your sensations and look for poses and actions that bring you the greatest pleasure. The benefits of this will be double: and you will experience new feelings, and the man will be distracted from his problem with erection. Couples who managed to learn that a woman can enjoy sex and without violent manifestations of orgasm, experience the joy of relief. A man does not need to pursue an illusory result, and a woman does not have to depict a passionate agony and hysteria.
Vulnerable all
PROBLEM. There is an opinion that only a woman after a quarrel with reproaches and mutual insult becomes not before making love. A man's rapid clarification of relations, on the contrary, will only excite. Perhaps, from time to time, in some individual cases, this is the case. That's just not at those moments when a partner in the heat of quarrel goes through his possibilities in bed. Sometimes a lady, in order to "bite" a man suspected of treason more painfully, asks: "Once you manage with your mistress, if you and one strength is not enough for me? If you are a loser and you do not get anything done in bed? "Or he throws up an irritated voice:" Someone is trying to tell you ... "Or, wanting to" provoke "a partner, he says:" Yes, where are you going with your data? " Hearing such criticism, a man is unlikely to recover his spirit and body. Here, erectile dysfunction and impotence arise by themselves. Most likely, he will begin to doubt the possibilities of his libido and, in time, may even drive himself to believe that he has become impotent.
EXIT. No matter how you take offense at your man, if you are going to live with him, never mark the most vulnerable place. If you made such a mistake, do everything to correct the situation: write him a love letter, say the most tender words that only you know. Give the man to understand that for you he is the most-most ...
Distracting maneuver
PROBLEM. Your candy-bouquet period is coming to an end, you are adults and you realize that you will soon be in bed. You both are waiting for this moment. And here is a muffled light in the bedroom, quiet music, hugs and ... nothing more. This often happens: a man so strongly wants to have sex with a woman, he is so focused on conquering it, that it becomes his obstacle on the way to the implementation of the plan. Frightened ("I'm impotent!"), He rushes away from his beloved.
EXIT. You need to try to keep him in bed. Try saying something like: "I'm a little tired (badly feeling) today, let's postpone it." Turn on the TV, look at the photos. Even if he can unravel your trick, it will not be worse. As soon as a man distracts from the need to be on top, everything can turn out the best way. Sexologists have such a treatment for impotence: a doctor for a month prohibits coitus. At the same time it is allowed to do everything else - to caress each other, to kiss. Usually after a week of all problems with an erection as there was.
Will he love a goat as well?
PROBLEM. You notice that your beloved wants you less and less. What happened? In this situation, it's easiest to pay attention to yourself. Maybe you are fat, you stopped visiting a beauty salon, go around the house in a stretched T-shirt? Do not forget that a man likes to love with his eyes, and swollen mascara on tired cheeks or fatty strands of not scrubbed and not washed hair - the most effective means of scaring away.
EXIT. Try to look critically at yourself in the mirror. You did not forget how you kept in shape, dressed when you wanted to win this man. So, what is the difference between you and the present, today? Look at the pictures where you are at the beginning of the relationship. Bring yourself into full combat readiness and do not dissolve any more.
Crashed about life ...
PROBLEM. You have been making love for many years on certain days of the week, at the same hour, you know where your husband will kiss first, where he will stroke later. You answer him with the same learned movements. In principle, both of you are already tired of what is called "fulfilling a matrimonial duty" - callousness, with no emotions, without unexpected manifestations of desire and tenderness. But it seems to you that it is necessary for your husband, he is used to thinking that sex is necessary for you. And if the intimate relationship disappears from your life, first you both feel a sense of relief. But one day a desire arises, the husband makes an attempt to make love, and ... he just can not do it. You are both alarmed: "What would that mean?"
EXIT. Boredom, monotony in sex leads to the extinction of desires. It is not necessary to bring the situation to a critical point. There is nothing more exciting than unpredictability, spontaneity. Change the entourage, in which you make love, lighting, put on erotic underwear, in any case do not appear in front of the partner in protruding in all directions curlers. Change the scene (not a bedroom, but, for example, a carpet on the floor in the living room), time, poses. Give in your life a place and sex "in a hurry," and "slow, gourmet." If a man does not completely die in your partner, he will quickly recover from "impotence."
Sex for a workaholic
PROBLEM. Erectile dysfunction can occur in a man when he is constantly experiencing long-term fatigue, chronically nedosypaet, lives in a strong psychological stress, is experiencing many problems at work. According to experts, there is such a thing as "manager's syndrome" - with it the sexual function is violated in the first and is restored in the last place. At first, there are just a few small problems with erection, with anything coming to mind, just not thinking about sex. Over time, it becomes increasingly difficult to achieve readiness for intercourse. If a man can not have sex more than six months, the body can go into "waiting mode". The process of removing it from this state is very long and time consuming.
EXIT. During such a load at work, the spouses sometimes come to a decision to sleep separately from each other. Do not do this ever! If a man and a woman stay at night in the same bed, sex occurs even when they do not "plan" it. Yes, your husband gets tired, he does not have sex, but from a mild relaxing massage he probably will not give up. And then the matter of technology. You can say: "I understand that you are very tired. Do you mind if I help myself? "Start caressing yourself. Most likely, he will join.
Sailor's syndrome
PROBLEM. The sailor's syndrome affects men, whose work involves a long absence of a home. When a person keeps faithfulness to his wife all the time, his body is forced to inhibit the production of the sex hormone. In this regard, a man has signs of erectile dysfunction on his return to his beloved wife.
EXIT. Try to remind yourself about yourself at the first opportunity. Call the man when he is not near, say how you love him and how miss you. Tell me how you expect him to return, how you long for him, how you dream of being close to him. Spend a "sex on the phone" session with him. Pleasant feelings associated with your voice, will be fixed in his subconscious and immediately give an exit as soon as you find yourself together.
Fear of a woman
PROBLEM. The woman tells the partner in detail how hard she gave birth, what problems she had with her menstruation, what a spiral she had in her uterus. So, for example, you warn a man that he was as cautious as possible, because you do not accept contraceptives (you can get fat!), You are afraid of abortions, but do not want to give birth yet. Then you wonder why a man keeps away from you. Many members of the stronger sex are terribly afraid of everything related to gynecology and women's health issues. They are subconsciously (and consciously) afraid of harming a woman. This fear kills any desire to make love to her. It's time for erectile dysfunction and impotence, in which there is no difference in this case. The result is equally pitiable. Some men, by the way, just fear that this very spiral will not hurt and hurt his manhood.
EXIT. It is not necessary to discuss physiological details with a man. Let the doctor do this. Try, on the contrary, to emphasize that man and woman are created for each other and sex is useful to both parties.