With the famous writer Tatyana Ustinova, with the "first among the best" we met at the opening of "Read the city" - a bookstore-club, where she represented a new novel "At one go!". But she managed to talk not only about the books: Tatyana Ustinova told how to learn how to be happy, to celebrate the 8th of March and what real men should be like.
- Famous writer Tatyana Ustinova not know. You look amazing! We became a blonde, we lost a lot of weight. Share the secret of transformation. - With weight loss history is very simple: to lose weight, you need ... not to eat. Especially considering my phenomenal laziness - I do not want to go to the gym, swing the press there. I realized that in order to build, you need to change the power supply system. The desire to lose weight should first of all ponder: to understand what size you want to lose weight, because I, for example, will never become the owner of model parameters, even if at all I stop eating. And then to translate plans into reality. For example, I can not eat after six in the evening: I return from work after nine in the evening and the only thing I can think of, only that I want to eat. Now, not tomorrow. So if it's spaghetti, then always with shrimp and never with meat, if it's a chicken, then without any side dish. And the weight gradually begins to return to normal. My, for example, was simply beyond the reach, but in three years I dropped 90 kilograms.
- But do you agree that for such transformations it is very important to love yourself? How to do it? - As my sister says, with which we often talk about life: unhappy is much easier than happy. Being unhappy is worthless, and being happy is a kind of work. The situation when "no one understands me" is much more acceptable for a woman who does not want to do anything. But in any situation you can find a positive moment. Here we sit, we drink coffee, listen to music, and around such beauty. Here you can sit half a day and have fun. And it is possible - suffering, from the fact that you, say, are not perfect, and the husband of some kind of beast.
- Well-known writer , tell me, did the writing of the first books differ from the writing of the latter? - They are all different from each other. One is written easily, in one breath, the other is long and hard. I can not say that earlier I wrote quickly and with pleasure, but now it's the other way around. It all depends on the circumstances. If I feel bad, if I have nothing to say, if nothing touches me, but I'm still sitting and writing, because it must be some unfinished piece for a mechanical piano.
- In one of the interviews you mentioned that you started working on a new book a few hours after the birth of your second son ... - Yes, it's true. There was nothing to do, I was very bored. Fortunately, I had a pen and a notebook, so I lay and wrote "Big evil and petty dirty tricks".
- How does Tatiana Ustinova have a more traditional working day? - If you do not need, say, somewhere to fly or go to TV, then it is always the same. I never get up early, I can not brag about it, then I drink coffee and a computer.
-And if you feel that you do not feel like writing today? Forcing yourself to write? - Forcing, I force, but ... These "forcing" is often ineffectual. I can sit all day at the computer, look out the window, and in the evening discover that I wrote two paragraphs that are worthless. If such a situation drags on, and this can be a day, two, or a week, it must be "broken down": somewhere to go, get new impressions, switch to something else.
- Is there any kind of empty, unnecessary work in your profession? - I, perhaps, do not like stupid zakazuhu. "Tanya, write a review of Vasi Pupkin's new novel." - "I do not want!" - "No, it is necessary, Pupkin just started writing, he must be supported, otherwise he will suddenly die as the author." But this all must first be read. And Pupkin, for example, writes about vampires. And I, for example, do not like vampires. But I'm reading. True, sometimes I manage to throw it on my sister, who will read Pupkin and briefly describe it to me in her own words. But I still have to write a review.
- And you can ask the famous writer Tatyana Ustinova how she treats her mistakes? Are you scolding yourself? - I curse a long time, then I stick to my sister: we grew up together and it's easier for us to divide the problem for two. I told her that, they say, I did not understand everything that way, but she always manages to put me on a "handbrake": everything has suffered and is enough.
- How do you make yourself happy? - Shopping. Right now, for example, I'll go buy that scarf, gray with brushes. Jeans really love. I can go somewhere by car. And then come to some nice place: in the house to a friend, where the fireplace burns, to my mother. I have one more "joy": niece Sasha, who suddenly became an adult for me, sends me witty messages on the mobile. I laugh, I save them, I re-read them.
"Carry the car?" - No. I'm afraid that none of this will come of it, because I am always distracted, what interests me around the road is much more than what is on the road, and this is traumatic.
"But this is a certain freedom ..." "I understand." I tell my relatives: here I will learn how to drive a car, I will become independent. I myself will go shopping to buy another scarf, shoes or glasses.
Tatyana Ustinova with experience has changed the attitude to love, to men? - I realized that the main thing in a man is generosity. It is this that distinguishes a man from a mere creature, dressed in trousers, is the impossibility of never asserting itself at the expense of a woman. On the contrary, forgive weakness, support. A man should understand when we need to regret. To men, I have changed attitude in the sense that now I know: one person can not do everything. He can not be a good husband, a good father, a respectful son, a banker, an athlete and handsome in one person. If he is an exemplary husband who comes home at six o'clock and bathes a baby in a bath, it means that he is either a boring person or a non-ambitious person. And if he pours money from morning till night, he will not bathe a baby in a bath. I learned to respect with respect to men's studies. "I need to leave. - Perfectly. "Gather me!" "This minute." "I'll be there in a week." "All right, just call." It's at such a moment to groan that "And I wanted you to take me to the theater" is impossible.
It was with age that I learned to distinguish between men who are men by definition, and harem characters, designed to provide gallant services. They will handle the handle, carry the purse, and no longer need to expect anything from them. Actions need to be expected from one, from another, which is strange, in some unpresentable jeans with outlandish ideas in your head.
photographer V.Grigoryev, St.Petersburg