Statistics are ruthless towards single women after 30. She claims that the "Balzac" lady has a better chance of becoming a victim of a maniac than getting married. This grieves and does not inspire in any way the search for a solution to the problem of loneliness at a blooming age. Parents, acquaintances and employees finish off this sacramental question: "Well, when is it already?" And I want to answer them all with the phrase from an anecdote: "I prefer to go to a funeral, and not to weddings. They do not ask: "When are you?"
The family of a close environment, where all relatives, friends and girlfriends in pairs, causes a feeling of embarrassment from the fact that "not everything is like people's." Visits to family events result in disappointment from the unsettledness of one's own life, the absence of a couple of children, a big house and a good dog. By the age of 30, most women are supposed to have all these family attributes. But here the calendar of life throws 31, 32, 33 or 35, but nothing changes. What is the cause of loneliness and how to get married when it's over 30?Causes of loneliness after 30 years
- High exactingness to men. With each new year of her life, a woman becomes more experienced, more demanding of herself and the world around her. She knows her own worth and, accordingly, is not ready to give beauty, experience, wisdom at the cost of "consumer goods", which a few men who can imagine themselves can not afford. But the more demanding a woman, the less chances she has in a love market. Of course, no one calls to grab any muzhikku in an armful. It is worthwhile to use your life experience to find out among the flow of men the one who has the potential. And, as the famous movie heroine said: "With a good woman and a man can become a man."
- Low self-esteem. Sometimes it happens that a woman in the fight against children's complexes has lost time to create a family, proving to herself and the whole world that she is worth something: a high office, a big apartment, a prestigious car. Or she already has the experience of a failed family life, where she was instilled with complexes that destroy self-esteem. Insecurity, even if disguised as an impeccable reputation or an impressive state, prevents a woman from allowing herself an unworthy husband and family.
- The view of the huntress. Women who set a goal to marry at any price, men are afraid at a subconscious level, feeling with the spinal cord which of them is a "hunter". And it's no accident! At such sight, a gait, behavior of the predator, left on "hunting". Men very subtly feel its fluids and non-verbal signals, which their brain decodes as a potential danger. Representatives of the strong half of mankind are mostly not ready to give up the prerogative of the hunter laid down at the genetic level. They themselves prefer to catch a cunning and twisted "booty", which others have not been able to catch in their love networks.
- Contradiction of the senses. Often for single adult women, discovery is what is hidden under the true motives of their loneliness. Many of them, having reached the age of thirty, how accustomed to live without obligations, cares and responsibilities, are not ready to part with this priceless baggage even for the sake of the prince. They understand that it's high time to get married, but freedom, which seemed to be loneliness, is more expensive. This internal contradiction and uncertainty close the way to marriage.
Benefits of marriage after 30 years
- Rich life experience. The 30-year-olds already have the necessary life skills. They learned how to profitably use their innate and acquired virtues, learn from mistakes and be loyal to the masculine nature.
- Big potential. The woman managed to know herself in many spheres of life, and to improve the qualities that are required for the successful realization of her female potential. She has what to give, not just to take.
- Orientation to the family. The adult woman fully used her youth to walk up, put stacks of men at her feet and satisfy her feminine self-esteem. She is ripe for the family.
- Sexual experience. At this age is the peak of female sexuality, which the woman managed to learn and learned to use this immense power. A man will get the cream of her sexuality and love experience.
- Maternal instinct. Women who give birth to children in adulthood become more responsible, wise and intelligent mothers. Maternity after 30 has a higher degree of awareness.
How to get married after 30 years?
- Finding the true motives. An honest answer to the question of the need for marriage will be the key to his happiness. If the desire for marriage is dictated by personal values, and not by the pressure of society, it's really time to get married.
- Determination of selection criteria. By the age of 30, almost every woman knows what qualities her future husband must have, and with the absence of any she will be able to reconcile. These qualities, from external data to the way of thinking, should be reviewed and "declared" on a sheet of paper.
- Self improvement. A woman should like herself first of all. To do this, you need to love yourself, invest time, knowledge and resources in your development. An educated, well-groomed and charismatic woman will find herself a worthy husband at any age.
- The publication. Unfortunately, potential husbands do not materialize in the comfort zone. It is necessary for the sake of that unique to replace a habitual way of life, to leave cozy apartment and to become habitue of a society in which there are men from dream.