The girl with pleasure swaddles a doll, feeds her from a spoon, crouchs in a wheelchair and teaches the rules of good behavior. Thus, each of the children is preparing for an adult life. And it is very important that the children feel themselves in this game successful and confident. Games for girls, mother's daughters - the topic of publication.
From imitation to improvisation
The game in the mother's daughter often starts from the moment of the introduction of complementary foods: ..Lady porridge mishutka, spoon - Ole. "These simple actions, the kid then repeats himself. Actually, the concept of" care "- the main thing for playing in the daughter-mother, . As soon as the crumb takes care of the pups, a big-eared hare, or a doll (no matter how much he can only carry a toy with him and rock it), one can say that one more step has been taken to grow up.
• The first stage of the game (1,5-2 years) is an imitation of the simplest everyday situations: a crumb feeds a doll, lulls, bathes.
• In the second stage (from 3 years), the kid no longer simply copies the actions of adults, but he also plays the scenes himself. A doll or a bear can already turn away from a spoon with porridge, be capricious, afraid or laugh. The little cow coaxes, cheers, punishes them.
• A child of 4-6 years old who plays in his mother's daughters, and older children already need peers. The game becomes a story-role. It manifests the ability of the child to reincarnate, copying the behavior of others. In the daughter-mother sometimes play and the boys, however, the role assigned to them will not be central. The game dad goes to work, goes on a business trip or goes to war. In general, some boys enjoy playing with dolls, but this hobby is usually short-lived. But for girls 4-6 years old, the daughter-mother is the main and favorite game that will disappear from the game "repertoire" to the first or at the latest - to the fifth class.
A caring father
If a boy plays with dolls ... It's perfectly normal! At the age of 2-3 years, boys, like their peers, can enthusiastically "educate" the baby, feeding him with a spoon and even walking with a stroller.This game with a doll helps the child to develop emotionally.He gets new experience, trying on different social roles: father in the game, the daughter-mother, the doctor, if the children play in the hospital .The conditional nature of the actions (everything happens for fun) makes the imagination work more actively. With the help of puppets and pups, boys, just like girls, learn to understand and interact with the world. opportunity for go yourself from the outside and at the same time to understand the other, eliminates psychological strain, by "acting out" conflicts.
Buy a doll
The first doll should be given to the crumb not earlier than one and a half years. Until that time, the child will treat her like with any other toy, trying to understand what she is like. So soon the expensive doll will be disassembled in parts. Later the kid, watching his surroundings, discovers that with this toy you can produce many other equally interesting activities. Bathing, changing clothes - such manipulations the child will repeat every day. So at this stage of cognition of the world, the most suitable are not so beautiful, but as practical toys. For example, rag dolls, soft and pleasant to the touch. Or toys made of flexible plastic that are well washed. A girl over 2 years old should already buy a doll with long hair, which can be washed, combed and braided in pigtails. When choosing a toy, consider that it will become not only a conductor of emotions, fantasies of the baby, but also will leave a mark on its character. The confusion of images of women and children, characteristic of modern dolls, disorients the crumb: either take care of the doll, or try to become like her. Many children's psychologists recommend to abandon dolls depicting adult women altogether. After all, such Masha, Barbie or Katya do not need maternal care. Accordingly, the traditional game in the daughter-mother with them will not work. At first glance, it's okay. However, it is in childhood that the model of the future mother's behavior is laid. One more rule: the doll does not need to have sex. The kid himself decides who she will become during the game.
Walking with a stroller
After 2-3 years the game is gradually becoming more complicated, there is a need for new subjects. For example, with the help of toy utensils you can arrange tea drinking. This is not just fun, but also a useful lesson. Develops a small motor skills, a child gets an idea of the volume: he learns to pour liquid, stopping in time. Another thing that is used in the game from about the same age is a stroller. Walking with a toy stroller improves the child's large motor skills, develops dexterity, because the baby has to make turns, go down and go up.
We look at both!
For parents, the game in the daughter-mother can become a real storehouse of useful information. Unobtrusive observation of the game of the daughter (son) with the doll will allow you to better know your own child. It is important not to interfere in the action and not to comment on what is happening. In the game with the doll, the child performs two roles - daughters and mothers. Speaking for the doll, the crumb voices its wishes ("I do not want to go to kindergarten!"), Fears ("I'm afraid of the dark"), resentment ("You promised to go with me to the zoo!"). But even more attention deserves the role of mom. she talks with the child? Does she remain calm or quickly out of herself? Does she pay attention to the baby or just take care of him? Does the mother often praise? It is very useful and a joint game in the mother's daughters.When playing for the doll, the kid will answer questions, which you care about (you can ask the doll what she does not like, how she feels). For example, if a toddler throws a tantrum in the store, the next day, ask him to play the role of a parent.It can be exaggerated by depicting a capricious, but it is not worthwhile to draw a parallel with actual events - a small obstinate man will guess himself.
What in the game should alert?
• Strong aggression. A crash hits or breaks a doll. This is an occasion to ponder, perhaps you have chosen a too rigid line of conduct with the baby, severely punishing him for the slightest misconduct.
• Duplicate stories. The child loses the same situation. For example, the daughter repeats the doll over and over again: "You are a bad girl, you need to ask for a pot!" Most likely, in their desire to accustom the baby to the pot, parents have overstrained the stick.The obsessive plot causes a stressful situation. The game shows up a fight, a quarrel, an accident in the street, playing these moments will help the child erase frightening memories.
• Sexual motives. If there are "bed scenes" in the game, you do not need to be touched by the little know-it-all, but to turn to a child psychologist.Such knowledge gained before time could injure the psyche.