The number of prohibitions, according to psychologists, should be equal to the age of the baby. If the child is two years old, strict prohibitions should not be more than two. It is this amount that he is able to remember and execute. Children do not take the word "impossible" for a year at all. At this age the child should be protected from dangerous objects or simply distracted from them. Closer to the first year, you can deny any one of its actions, which is strictly forbidden. This prohibition should be carried out by all members of the family. It should not be such that mom said "can not", and my grandmother gave good. In this case, the word of prohibition should be spoken only about the chosen action or object.
The space that surrounds your baby should be as safe as possible. It is necessary to remove all sharp, beating, pricking, cutting objects. All the rest must be allowed to study, if necessary, then chew. You can let him make out something (a shelf with toys, a wardrobe with clothes). There will be time for you, while he is busy, to do his own business without worrying about his safety. Then you put everything in its place together, and your child will be happy to help you.
Children do not necessarily have to constantly say the word "impossible" and the like. There is a more subtle psychological reception. Try to shift your child's attention to something else, if he is engaged in a business that is not suitable for him. In a year or two, the simplest techniques are: "Look, the machine has gone, the butterfly has flown, etc.". When the child is two years old, you can add a second "impossible", for example, run out onto the road or something else. Naturally, the child is still forbidden, but these prohibitions must be expressed differently. For example, if the crumb begins to tear the magazine, instead of "impossible", you need to make it clear that the magazine hurts. Another important rule, if you are strongly asked to do something with your child, then make sure that it is done. The child should understand that what you said is important.
Try to give the child the right to choose between several options, not including the one that is undesirable. For example, a child wants to play in a wet sandbox, and you are not thrilled with his desire. Tell us that we will play in it when it dries, but for now, play hide and seek or feed the birds. The child should feel that you are not against the sandbox, but you will do it another time. In this case, the kid feels more independent, because the right of choice remains for him.
At the time of the crisis of independence, or a crisis of three years, it is easiest for parents to say "not" for each occasion. Better give the child the opportunity to show independence. Limitations and prohibitions at this age only three, and all the rest "can not", this is your invention and the ability to bypass obstacles in education.
When a child is already four years old, he already understands that there are actions that he is forbidden to do now. But, reaching a certain age, it will become possible. For example, when he goes to school, he himself will cross the road. And now you can teach him how to make salads, sandwiches, so that he feels himself independent. At this age, there must be restrictions at certain times. For example, you only need to eat ice cream, watch TV for 1 hour, etc. You should not succumb to persuasion, because if you allow it once, you will always have to give in.
Many parents complain that his child is happy with hysteria if he does not give what he wants. In this case it is possible to extract in this case, without succumbing to its whims. If you decide to wean him from hysterics, despite his cries and tears, try not to react to it, even if it happened in some crowded place. Do not raise your hand. You need to let him know that until he stops, you're not going to talk to him. And the most important thing is that any "impossible" should be supported by all members of the family. Speaking to children the word "impossible", let them feel at the same time that they are loved and desired. Let in your family love reigns.