I'm a girl of wide looks and a veteran of free life. But recently, I agreed to still become a wife and I will explain why I did not do this before. I was not less surprised than my engagement in December last year. I've known the bridegroom all my life: we went to school together, thirteen years ago we met a whole summer, but then everyone went their own way. When my friends find out that we spent all these years separately with Gosha, they begin to lament that they lived completely aimlessly. But personally, I think that these are my years - my wealth. Gosh, I'm sure, does not regret anything either ...
"The donkey is a foundation, a strong house, and what is understood with difficulty, then we are more valuable," as one blond sang. He knew what he was singing about: well done games require a degree of freedom. They also allow us to accumulate an experience of intrigues, which insures against attempts to cognize good and evil to the left of the family hearth. After analyzing my experience and the experience of a good dozen of my friends, I came to the conclusion that there must be 10 turning points in the life of every woman. And, just before she decides to say "yes" to the right man and then keep his word. These moments are the golden rules that will help in the life of each of us. How they helped me once.
1. BE SMOKE TO REFUSE AND AGREE.
My friend Anne is 28 years old, and she is a sensible woman. At the same time, she believes that walking through torments is a valuable experience in love. Five years ago, Anna met with a guy, to whom she was attracted in spite of the fact that his forehead flashed the inscription "there will be problems". One evening in the bar he proposed to her. And she agreed under the influence of alcohol and his piercing eyes. But two months before the wedding, she changed her mind and turned off the affair. Why? "Instead of a planned romantic trip with me, he waved to Peter for a bachelor party, which he notified me on the mail." Anna did not reply to the letter, as she did not take the trouble to return the ring she had received from the sham. On the trip, she went alone and gulled good money on the money received from the jewelry store. On the beach, she met Tolik, not at all an alcoholic and not at all a screech. A couple of months they signed - without excessive noise and diamond dust.
2. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO TRY NEW.
In the crowd of my friends Alice, 27, the most pedantic. Even jeans are dry-cleaned. And this fifa claims that her fiancé brought one of those benefits, where for each day of the year is recommended for acrobatic pose. The groom insisted on the "mill wheel" (the woman rests her hands on the floor, and the partner raises her legs). "I was not very happy to be so raskoryachivatsya before your beloved, who still has to make me an offer and to name his age. But curiosity prevailed. And I did not regret it! "The bridegroom also liked these exercises - and the offer did not wait, but Alisa is wasting time. It still seems to her that the marital bedroom is not so easy to turn into a tasting room. And the groom tries. Persuades.
3. HAVE TO RECOGNIZE WEAKNESS.
Oh, yes, this is truly a golden rule. A little less than a month ago, my boyfriend Gosh took me to the store to pick a desk. "I like that one, with a white horse," I said. "Although that leg is nicer ..." Gosh laughed: "In my opinion, you do not know how to make decisions at all." I even gasped with indignation, and he continued to smile until I got it - damn, he's right! This is the moment when you calmly and humbly admit to yourself and him that in some ways you are still weaker, and means that the slices of smalt have developed into a simple and beautiful pattern - a single whole. Recognizing yourself as something weak is not easy, but necessary. The pain of recognizing your own shortcomings lasts no longer than pain from depilation. But the joy of being confident that he knows you and understands you well, he heals your soul all your life.
4. LEARN TO PEACE.
My friend Sasha, 25, is sure that a fight with tears and abuse has turned her life around. It all started with the fact that Sasha's cute predecessor began to flirt at the bar with her former and now Sasha boyfriend. He got agitated, my friend - too. "I was furious! But I realized that if we do not explain, then we'll part forever. I had to admit that this scoundrel was more beautiful than me. But as we then reconciled! "Actually, here the situation was largely saved by the same ability to recognize its weakness. And the ability to compromise. And without this in the family life - just nowhere.
5. DO NOT GET TO SEND SOS SIGNAL.
We rarely show our weaknesses to men. And in vain, as my friend Evgenia found out. 26. "I once decided to hang the bookshelves on my own," recalls the former independent woman. - And it almost succeeded me - until the screw fell and the whole construction began to fall on me. I yelled, he ran and caught the regiment. And he said: "It's not the tsar's business, and certainly not the woman's. Did not want to ask? And I, by the way, am happy to fulfill any of your requests. " Moral: love - accept his help. And to hell with emancipation!
6. LEARN TO DETERMINE PRIORITIES.
Following this golden rule, the main thing is not to be late with conclusions. A couple of years ago an enviable boyfriend turned up to me: handsome, rich and thoroughbred - let me not bore you with his pedigree. But when we had to go somewhere, I felt uncomfortable. He was rude and hysterical in public about and without. At last he stopped calling me, and ... it made me feel better. Looking for a man according to the list of merits is a waste of time. In general, I, having crossed out the word "money", wrote "humor" from above. And life is smiling to me to this day.
7. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO GO TO THE MOUNTAIN.
They say that the best person is known on vacation. My friend Julia, 25, said that after a trip to Burma her two-year relationship with a certain Marik suddenly blossomed. One day the guide led them to a mountain where the foot of a Western man supposedly did not step. "We have never seriously engaged in tourism," says Yulia. - And the route was laid almost on steep rocks. The nerves are surrendered, and so as not to fall down, there is a great temptation to fall on the one who is near. However, this did not happen - Marik, not the most agile type in the world, proved to be hardy and selfless. And I realized: if with such a man I scrambled up the mountain and got off it alive and unharmed, then we need to run together with obstacles along the plain of living together. " Since then they are running: together and not unsuccessfully.
8. A HAPPY ENCOUNTER.
For years we have criticized our own figure, and there is no better therapy from this self-torture than someone who adores us all without a trace. My friend Ira, 30, tells us about her husband: "We have been together for a long time, but when I undress, he is still numb with happiness. Thanks to his enthusiasm, I am confident in my sexuality and in the strength of our relationship. " What can I add here ...
9. THE SMELL TO EXPERIENCE COOLING.
Spousal sex is monotonous. This is an axiom. But behind the intimate frosts there is sure to be a merry thaw and the heat that reigns - according to all the laws of the universe. What is important is another: the desire to know, in spite of everything, someone before the end of the days you have given up.
10. SMOOTH TO KEEP SECRETS.
Let only one, but I have one. Should I tell you? Figures. Then he and the secret, so as not to blurt out the details. Okay, I'll hint: it was in Cuba under the palm trees. These memories I carry in myself as a second heart, I hear the beating of which I lose my head. The presence of secrets indicates that life still did not pass by. And they are necessary, so that in 95 years in the rocking chair is still a mystery for someone who swayed alongside.
Of course, about 10 tipping points in the life of every woman can be a long time to argue. Someone has more or less - it's not so important. The main thing is to go through them before you make the most important choice for yourself. Go through the golden rules that will help in life. To be able to understand yourself. Accept yourself. And then everything will turn out, and it will be solved, and it will be put on the shelves, and it will not break against the wall of banal problems. Never.