How to teach a man to elementary order?

Almost every woman sooner or later faces such a problem as male inaccuracy and unaccustomed to order. It does not matter at all whether you live with a plumber, a programmer or a successful businessman - the result is one: tensions because of what once seemed a trifle and even looked funny.


Is not it true, to keep house, when your nobleman arranges ashtrays with cigarette butts, mugs with withered remains of tea, where the soul desires, his socks can be found in the most unexpected place, clean shirts exist mixed and washed and ironed out incredibly difficult. Even more annoying questions are men: "Darling, do you remember where I put my black golf yesterday and do I have clean socks and panties?" If you approach the situation with humor, you remember an anecdote in which the husband, when preparing a presentation, can not find his suit and rummages in a box with linens in search of the treasure. To which the wife reasonably wondered why he was wearing panties and that such is the way to present the faithful. Of course, from the outside it looks funny, but here's to live surrounded by ever-lost socks, crumbs in bed and gorgryaznoy dishes, few will find it a pleasure.

Why does this happen?

You can joke on this subject as many as you like, but let's figure out why this happens.

If we take into account the fact that we all originated from animals, it becomes clear that any things, whether computer, room, own car or apartment, the representative of the strong half of humanity evaluates as their property. If we recall that in nature, males, in a certain way, label their territory and draw an analogy, it becomes clear that the socks left behind under the sofa, the unwashed cup near the laptop and other things are nothing more than an attempt to mark its territory and show the enemy who is the master of the situation.

But women, not having understood the situation properly, think that a man is spreading his things, because he does not appreciate the comfort and cleanliness that the second half is following closely.

In many women's forums where this problem is discussed, the participants of the discussion half-jokingly and semi-seriously recommend to stop cleaning in the house, not to wash the dishes, to collect socks on the floor and other less well-adapted for this places, unwashed dishes to be moved to its half of the dining table. The crooked advice can be attributed to the recommendation to throw out things that are not on their own, straight to the window.

Are you ready to listen to these crazy tips? It is not recommended, because a man can not appreciate your creative initiatives, will be offended, or even stop talking to you at all.

How to solve the problem?

The first thing to remember is that your man does not have magical and telepathic abilities, and this means that in order for him to understand what specifically does not suit you, you need to tell him directly about it. Know that even the most intelligent man can not guess why you are talking to him in such a tone. An excellent option in this case may be the following decision: show your favorite circle, at the bottom of which you can see the dried up remains of tea and ask if it's a pleasure to see this disgrace. If there is no desire to drink tea from the same circle, he does not arise again, ask him to wash the dishes and place it in the pomes. The man, slightly grumbling, fulfilled your request? Do not forget to praise your faithful for the right thing.

It is even easier to solve the problem of separating clean laundry. For the last it is necessary to allocate a separate basket or box, in which you can send dirty socks, T-shirts, sweaters. Ask your man to send all clothes that need washing, straight to the allotted area. Explain to him that in another way you will not be able to determine if there are still clean socks left and whether he will be able to put on a fresh shirt tomorrow.

Often women complain that they can not find a second one from each pair. In this case, there is a simple, but not less ingenious solution: allocate a certain amount and buy 15-20 parod black socks on it. This collection can be diluted with 2-3 pairs of socks of a different color, for example, gray. Imagine how much easier it will be to "scorch" the socks - now you do not even have to figure out which one was on the right, and which one - on the left leg. But in order that a man every morning does not ask where to look for socks, allocate a separate dump for them in the chest of drawers.

As for dirty T-shirts, T-shirts, panties, it is necessary to teach a man at the end of each day to put dirty clothes on the spot for this purpose and after showering to put on fresh things. The same applies to shirts and sweaters. In order that they do not have to be washed every day, teach your loved one to wear a sweater, a turtleneck or a shirt to a thin Maika.

But that there were no quarrels on domestic soil, traditional household duties should be divided between a man and a woman. For example, her husband can be charged with washing dishes, taking out the garbage and working with a vacuum cleaner. In order for the house to be in perfect order, you can plan a joint cleaning for one of the weekends. In addition, that your housing will shine, vyeshche and get closer to your faithful, because joint work, as you know, except for the field brings some satisfaction.

If your husband is ready to follow these simple, but effective rules, and you still do not like something, remember that there are only a few ideal people in the world. Do you belong to them and your man never had to forgive you a small defect of yours is not an angelic character? Respect each other, and then love will forever settle in your home.