Sand story
Sand therapy helps not only young children cope with various kinds of psychological problems, but also for adult uncles and aunts. The essence of the technique is simple: before you is a therapeutic sandbox with clean sand, a little water to moisten the sand, and many small toys (figures of people, animals, trees and tiny houses). Dare! Do you think this is a waste of time? And you try to go through such a "trivial" session with an intelligent psychologist, and you will learn a lot about yourself.The psychologist will offer you just to "play," to blinden what you want, arrange toy characters in random order, and then ask you many questions. So, thanks to the sand therapy, a woman can face to face with her own internal fears and conflicts. Ask what to do with them then? Do not worry, the psychologist will help you not only to see them, but also to cope with them. After all, while fears are sitting inside of us, they are able to grow like leaps and bounds, direct our actions, subconsciously influence what we think about ourselves and the world around us. It seems to us that this is an objective reality, but in fact - we perceive everything through the prism of fears, resentments and complexes. It's worth pulling them out, realizing and seeing how ridiculous and insignificant they are, and their power over us ends. In addition, classes with sand - very soothing and relaxing, help get rid of negative energy. And over time, having mastered this tool, you can not only help yourself, but also adjust the state of your child when he becomes older.
I'll draw you!
Remember the children's saying: "What we need to build a house, draw - we will live!" And, of course, we will draw. And the house, and the people in it, and your mood, and your own joys and sorrows. Art therapy is another great way to face your inner self, regardless of whether you are able to draw or not, you will still cope with the task, because no one will evaluate your drawing technique, the important thing is colors that are you use symbols and images that represent the location of the details of the picture on paper.The psychologist asks suggestive questions ("What's in the picture?", "Who is drawn?", "What emotions do you have for him?"), and this will help you open up . Art therapy will come to the rescue and in case you are overcome by negative emotions - you are upset, offended, frightened ... Draw what you feel. Let it be dark "kaljaki-malyaki", it is not necessary to be frightened. After "byaka" will lay down on a sheet, you as though release a negative from itself. And then with the drawing you can do it at your own discretion. For example, dorisovat eyes and a smile, and the picture will cease to be terrible. Or, if you are uncomfortable looking at it, you can get rid of the picture: tear, burn, throw out. Everything, there is no it! You will immediately feel relief. Still, the "Byaka" is no longer inside you, you have got rid of it.
Are we going to mediate?
What is meditation, know, perhaps, everything. But how to use them during pregnancy with benefit for yourself and your baby? Yes, all the same. Meditation promotes relaxation and self-immersion, it gives the future mother the opportunity to tune in to her body, to feel it. This is a great way of not only self-correction, but ... a method of natural preparation for childbirth. How it works? Take a piece of paper, describe how you love your baby, how beautiful and healthy, how easily and naturally he will be born. Own essay can be recorded on the recorder, and meditate under the recording. Doubt that you can correctly choose the words? Contact your childbirth trainer. He will not only tell you how to correctly write a text (for example, not to use the particle "not", to write only positive statements), but also can offer you ready-made experiences.Measures can be thematic (correcting experiences, establishing contact with your baby, creating an image of light births), and simply relaxing.You include pleasant music or a disc with the sounds of nature, the baby's heartbeat, sit comfortably or lie down and slowly relax your body.First the legs and hands, then the trunk and head. You do not fly at this moment in your brain, you are calm and peaceful, and most importantly - absolutely happy .You feel your baby, and it's just as good for him at this moment as you. In this state it would be nice to talk with your child, imagine how he looks and even ... what name he would like to wear after birth.
Keep me, the talisman
The art of influencing a person with the help of precious and semiprecious stones is called lithotherapy. It's no secret that at all times people have used the properties of stones to satisfy their own needs. How it works? Each stone or crystal has vibrations, which, superimposed on human vibrations, stimulate certain energy flows in it. So, it is known that, for example, malachite helps with colds and allergies, pink quartz removes headaches, and topaz - strengthens nerves. Jasper is considered to be a stone that helps with conception, lazurite and amber help to maintain pregnancy, and garnet gives future mums strength, makes them energetic, and then cares about childbirth to be easy. Promotes peace of mind during pregnancy and mild birth and a diamond. Future mothers with stones need to be more careful, do not rush to apply the rules of lithotherapy themselves, it is desirable to still use the advice of professionals. The fact is that every stone, in addition to positive qualities, has its own contraindications, the rules of wearing and caring for them. And amateur performance is not the best way to achieve what you want. With mismanagement, you can get the opposite effect, and now you do not have the state to experiment with yourself. The expert will tell you which stones will suit you personally and in what cases they should be worn. Keep in mind that the constant wearing of the same stone gives a strong effect. And the expert will also tell you about it in detail.
Communicate with your baby
There are a lot of ways to communicate with your child before his birth. First of all, this is a conversation. Communicate more often with your baby. Tell him about what you see and feel, your emotions and experiences. Do you think you will not hear the answer? If the little one likes the conversation, he will certainly respond to her with a stir. But unpleasant, negative experiences and thoughts lead to the fact that the baby calms down in the tummy, waiting for the "storm to subside." Communication with the baby can help you even in such a matter as a toxicosis. Before you sit down for a meal, ask the child Imagine what you are going to eat (soup plate, lettuce, cutlet, apple) and listen to the reaction of the child.Look in response to the image of a cutlet with fried potatoes? Discard the dish, the benefit of it Presented a vegetable soup and felt Sing the baby's crumbs? Feel free to start eating. Sing your baby lullabies, listen to music, dance! Music-ripia is one of those ways that you can apply yourself to your taste. Just be prepared for the fact that the child can have his own , which does not coincide with yours, the opinion about your favorite music.So, Bach, causing your admiration, can be negatively perceived by the child (he will not only move, but also desperately beat his leg into the stomach, demanding a change in the background music). Well, you have to obey. Experiment and deliver joy to yourself and your baby. A good way to communicate with the child before his birth is to write him a letter. Send it, of course, will not succeed, but rest assured, baby will hear every word! In the letter, you can describe your feelings, tell the crumb, how to wait for it and love, as you can imagine, what are his eyes and forehead, hands and feet. And keep these letters in the family archive!
Do you trust me?
9 months of waiting for the baby are a kind of test of the relationship between future parents for strength. A man and a woman, as if they are learning each other again and trying to understand again, but how my other half treats me. And, considering that in the near future young mother will have to rely entirely on her husband in matters of providing the whole family, then trust to each other should be maximized. Otherwise, without mutual claims can not do. How can you verify whether you trust one another? With the help of exercises. For example, "Cradle". The man sits on the floor, the woman with her back to him, between her legs. You need to close your eyes, relax and fully trust your partner, who will embrace you and shake from side to side. If the future mother does not trust her partner, then she can not completely relax in his hands. By the way, this is not just a matter of trust. Sometimes the inability to relax and trust the partner is characteristic of active, seeking to control the women themselves. Having got used to thinking that "he can not do anything right", the future mother will be annoyed and tense in the embrace of the spouse.Other good way to improve the microclimate of the family is to sit opposite each other and try to look at the partner with "other" eyes. Imagine, as if you only met, try silently to look at each other for a minute and then describe what new you saw in the person of your loved one.Can probably have new wrinkles.You thought that the color of the eyes of your second half is brown, but suddenly you find those that are iridescent with small red patches.Why is this necessary? Over time, the sharpness of perception of each other is erased, it seems to you that you already know everything about each other and you will not be surprised at anything, but it is not so.The opportunity to look at the partner with new eyes , helps to refresh relations, make them more vivid, we will achieve the same effect with the help of the exercise "Guess what I want." You sit down again, facing each other, close your eyes and try to imagine what touch your partner needs at the moment. Thanks to this exercise, the spouses are tuned to the perception of each other without words. It improves relations, harmonizes them. If you are going to give birth with your husband, then such activities will help in this. Having learned to feel your wife, your partner will not behave inadequately to what you expect, in the maternity ward. His help and support, massage touches for relaxation and anesthesia will be timely and necessary.
Help yourself
Of course, specialists will always meet their future parents. Doctors of the women's consultation will conduct necessary examinations of the pregnant woman, psychologists will help to cope with anxiety conditions, instructors of preparation for childbirth will teach breathing techniques and methods of natural anesthesia. But remember that the main "work" still falls on you. It depends on you, whether you smile at your reflection in the mirror in the morning, prepare a romantic dinner for your husband instead of .. a fine potato with cutlets, eat an apple instead of a candy, take a walk in the park .You can think that these are all trivia, but from such trifles sometimes the mood and quality of life develops and only you answer for it.No one can spoil you the impression of the day if you do not want it yourself. Learn to switch from unpleasant thoughts to positive things, and ... all the same on the beautiful, think about the beautiful. Take the steps you need to prepare for childbirth, enroll in a school of conscious parenting, master the methods of anesthesia and self-help in childbirth, then you will not have a feeling that you do not understand what happens to your body all 9 months and during childbirth. And if there is knowledge and skills, there is no place for fears of uncertainty, and even a prepared body will pass through birth more easily.