Who are they - these mysterious "soul mates"? It's not just those with whom it's nice to talk. You can chat with a friend, and with a long-time girlfriend. But sometimes you meet a person - and ...
A soul mate becomes not only after the third glass. In fact, for a craving and warmth for another person (often - sudden), several other processes respond. And it's good to know how this happens with you. And then the hour is not even, the clever and attentive person will take advantage ...
So, warned - then, armed.
People most often react to:
- External data. It is elusive like a relative, a childhood friend - and now we trust the person a priori, ready to tell our secrets, to tell about the most intimate. They can suddenly "play" from the shape of the eyebrows to the expression of the eyes.
- Manner to speak. Not for nothing NLP-ers pay so much attention to the construction of phrases and the ability to track how the interlocutor says. If you train for a long time, you can consciously control this process, and it is easier to become "your own in the board" for a person in a short time. And he will only be surprised and happy - they say, how nice to meet a soul mate!
- Listening skills. It's amazing, but not one person noticed: it's worth to catch a cold and lose your voice, as soon as you become a pleasant companion, and everyone is ready to meet in your person a soul mate. How this happens is understandable.
We all try to save time. Quickly we do cleaning, we cope with work and so on. But for "saving" is often responsible for reducing the number of parts that we perceive. So in conversation - trying to convey to the interlocutor of the idea, do not have time to properly listen to each other.
Silence or a polite nod of a colleague is often perceived as encouragement to talk, and now we are surprised how it turns out, it's nice to meet a soul mate. And the whole point is that we are focused on. - Something common. We are united not just by interests - but rather by similar views on the world, moral attitudes and values. If someone is willing to support, or even share your point of view - this is a direct application for "soul affinity".
- Understanding without words . Well, that happens. Just do not delude yourself on this matter. Most often sincere silence is the silence "each of his, but it seems that together we think." We tend to "guess" for another person, about what he thinks, based on his own understanding, perception, details. So, we inevitably "think up" for another. And polite people do it not as in a well-known anecdote about a grandmother, grandfather, spoon and "again you think of me nastiness!"
- Correct reaction / correct conclusion. Unfortunately, the phrase "How nice to meet a soul mate!" Hides a selfish desire to remake the world. And in conversation this is manifested as follows. A person finishes for you phrases, makes similar conclusions or comments. It seems that here it is - a soul, one who understands everything!
Who can become a "kindred spirit"?
It is very rare that a relative understands "from a half-word, from a half-glance." We have to put up with this. Understanding that blood ties - does not automatically mean "sincere", people have friends or just communicate more with friends.
A person can become a person in transport and at work, a neighbor who seemed to be superficially aware and did not expect anything new from her. A friend or childhood friend, on the contrary, being "all in their own interests", can push away with callousness and misunderstanding.
Caution for beginners and old men of the "spiritual" front
Given the previous points, try not to be deluded about your interlocutor. And if tomorrow he suddenly says disgusting - do not be discouraged. With the age of such seduction becomes less - experience affects. But related souls, which are so pleasant to meet by chance, are more sincere, and the relationship becomes deeper.