Since a young man has dared you to "lookout", then your relationship claims to be a "serious" one. For men, this is a very responsible step and believe me, not every girl gets such an honor. Surely, you have often discussed your families, how you were brought up by parents, the characters of mom and dad. So all this information must be remembered and skillfully used. Everything will come in handy, starting from the one they graduated from and where they like to rest, ending with a complete list of relatives.
Customize yourself that acquaintance in any case is inevitable, if you plan to link your destiny with this person. Initially, provide the opportunity to choose the date and time of meeting the parents of the guy. Thus, you show respect for their opinion even before personal acquaintance.
Be preoccupied in advance about a small presentation. At the first acquaintance it is not necessary to give something unnecessarily expensive. Traditional cake or pastries are quite suitable. If you cook well, it's time to show your abilities. Do not forget to clarify the culinary preferences of the parents of your half. After all, cakes with a favorite filling of a potential mother-in-law will surely like much more than a roll with condensed milk, for which it has an allergy.
Also, as a gift it will be appropriate to present a thing related to the hobbies of the parents. But be careful in choosing and be sure to consult with your loved one before buying - he knows best what is dear to his family.
Before you get ready for a meeting, think over your appearance. If your favorite is not a rocker with long hair, to the style of which the family has long been accustomed, then it is worthwhile to dress not too provocatively and unusually. Keep a balance, if in life you prefer bright clothes and a lot of accessories, and get acquainted will come in the "grandmother's" dress, it will be a kind of deceit. Just pick up more tranquil jewelry and replace the mini-skirt with trousers. So you will remain yourself, but you will not shock your already worried parents.
Most often the meeting takes place in the home of the parents of a man, less often in a neutral territory, for example, in a cafe. Here you are already on the threshold, your beloved introduced you and you go to the table. It is not known how you will be received, so be prepared for anything. The first impression is not in vain considered the most important and correct, try not to spoil it.
Be sure to offer your help in serving the table, but do not be obtrusive. Regardless of your culinary preferences, try cooked meals. It is not necessary to abuse alcohol. Well, what parents might like is that the chosen one of their son quietly drinks a bottle of wine and does not even get drunk. Leave your alcoholic records for parties with friends. It's better if you do not drink or drink champagne at all.
Parents of your half probably want to know where you are studying or working. It would be appropriate to tell you how you met their son. It's good when your partner supports the conversation, but does not keep silent on the sidelines. There are questions they would like to know about your opinion - about presenting your future life, and not only joint, but in general. How much would you like to have children, where would you like to live, in the house or in the apartment.
Try not to pay attention to evaluative views, and they will in any case, because parents always take their passions carefully, and this is absolutely natural. Your main task is not so much how to please the parents of the half (the first acquaintance), but to get to know them closer and try to tie good relationships, and sympathy for you may appear later.
Many parents will also be excited by your opinion about them. This is often experienced by the mothers of the chosen ones, and the popes in most cases behave calmly or on the contrary provoke a conversation or discharge the situation, in which case.
Neutral themes about cinema, theater, weather in the end will fit for communication. Ask to show you family albums - parents will probably want to show off their son's photos in infancy. Find out in advance what will be broadcast on TV at the time of the meeting, maybe watching the concert of the future future mother-in-law together will lift you in her eyes.
Lose too categorical statements and sharp topics. Leave discussions on policy issues only if your interlocutors do not have a direct relationship to it and your opinion is important to them.
Talk about your family only positively, otherwise you risk initially to set people against themselves. All family troubles should not become public.
Pay attention to the relationship between the parents of the beloved, how they communicate with each other, who is the main person in the family, because most likely he will build a family in the likeness of his.
Remember that you look in their eyes an unknown girl who wants to marry their beloved son and wait for the outstretched embrace silly. Although it is possible that you will immediately find a common language, which means that you are very fortunate with the husband's family, and he is with you.
Is it worth reminding of good manners? Words of gratitude for a delicious lunch or dinner, please share a recipe (only if you like to cook, otherwise you will have to justify the expectations of the future mother-in-law), all this, of course, should sound. Do not sit out a long time, even if you really do not want to leave. In the end, suggest a return visit.
Remember that all of us were brought up in different families, we have different characters and views on many life positions, but if desired, a common language can be found with everyone, in particular with the parents of a loved one, which we wish you.