Many parents think that "child crises" are prejudices, and that this will not affect their child. But believe me, this is about you, and this is not just happening to you. You probably noticed for yourself that you are making notes to your child not because you are not comfortable with his behavior, but because the surrounding people look disapproving and think that your child is ill-mannered.
How to help a child survive a 3-year crisis
Each child is unique in its own way. Someone's child at the age of 3 years becomes simply unrecognizable, it's as if "replaced", and one of the parents in the behavior of the child does not see anything special. This is a transition period, when a new stage begins in the life of the child and for his parents who need to reconsider their attitude towards the child.
During pregnancy, the child is completely dependent on the mother, he receives from his mother everything he needs for life, food, breathing. After 9 months, he is born into the light and separated from his mother, the child becomes an individual being. But the child can not do without the mother yet.
Gradually develops the child's independence and once the child's desire for independence and his misunderstanding by parents turn into an acute conflict. Sometimes it is more convenient for mom to do something for a child, for example, to feed, dress, and so on, so quickly. But the child wants to do everything himself. And if the child does not feel that his desires and opinion are respected, what is considered with him, he begins to protest against previous relations. Relationships with the child on the part of the parents should be based on patience and respect.
Characteristic of the crisis of 3 years
Negativism
A child responds to a request or an adult's request. He does the opposite, and the opposite of what the child said.
Obstinacy
The child insists on something just because he wants to be considered with his opinion. A stubborn child can insist on his own, on that, then he longed to become sick or did not want to or does not really want.
Stiffness
The child is dissatisfied with everything, others do and offer and insist on their desires. The most common reaction in these cases is "Oh yeah!". During the crisis, increased autonomy leads to self-will, which further causes conflicts with adults. Conflicts of children with their parents become regular, they seem to be at war. The child begins to exercise power over others, he dictates whether the mother can leave home, that he will eat or not.
Depreciation
3-year-old child can break or throw away a favorite toy, which he was offered not in time, begins to swear, then the rules of conduct are devalued. In the eyes of a child, the value that previously was expensive, interesting and familiar to him depreciates.
The more the child will have independent actions, the more mistakes and successes he will make, the faster the crisis will take place and he will learn how to interact with people. The child will sooner or later take his, and that he received less in due time, he will fill up at a later age. In the power of parents not to stretch this crisis for many years and in time to understand the needs of the child.
From how you will behave with him during the crisis, it will depend on whether the child will continue to strive for independence, whether he will keep his activity, whether your child will persist in achieving the goal, or he will simply break down and become an addicted person with lowered self-esteem, weak-willed and submissively obedient.
The child should learn to communicate with peers, and if at this age he does not go to a kindergarten, you need to think where he will communicate with his peers. The kindergarten can be replaced by early development groups and children's clubs. The main thing now will be peers, with whom the child needs to learn how to communicate and be friends.