Knowing some of the characteristics of human relationships, the psychology of communication will always give a recipe for how to please guys who are in very bad relations.
To begin with, you need to understand why you were in a bad relationship with a guy. Sometimes it's not your fault, but the fault of some common friends, relatives. Someone said something, and now the guy is already thinking that you are not at all what you really are. A certain amount of patience is all that is needed to correct this situation.
It's another matter if you yourself are to blame for such relations: if you behaved badly, or made some mistake. But do not despair at once, many mistakes can be corrected. Just take into account that some guys are very principled, and to win their favor, it will take a lot of time and effort. But if you really like it, maybe it's true, it's worth it. Moreover, even if you do not succeed, you will eventually gain valuable experience. And experience will then help build relationships with other people.
Friendly and nice people like everyone. If you are with someone in a bad relationship, do not try to demonstrate it. If you respond badly about this guy, or express a grudge that he is doing something wrong, he himself is badly about you, then it's unlikely that you will like this guy. On the contrary, one should try not to pay attention to bad things. If someone tries to talk about it badly in your presence, it's better to translate the conversation into another topic, skip over these words or say that all people have shortcomings. Look at the situation. Sometimes such conversations are set up specially to provoke even greater dislike. For some people this is beneficial.
Try to respond well about the guy in the presence of people with whom he is familiar, and who can tell him about your words. But this does not mean that now you need to extol it. It is better and more natural if you pay attention to some real virtues. Maybe he does something well, or wisely acted in a situation.
When you meet this guy, try to be friendly, smile, even if he does not talk to you. If you pretend that nothing special is happening, you will only win. After all, the rules of politeness, among other things, require that people do not show each other open hostility. You can imagine that you just met this guy.
Try to find out the reason why you ended up in a very bad relationship with this guy. If he made a bad opinion about you according to the words of other people, then you need to try to talk to him and say that it's better for him to judge you.
If you have already made a mistake, and now the guy is simply angry with you, you can tell him that people are able to change over time, and you understand your guilt and repent of what was done. Better, of course, if you can confirm your words with deeds.
If the guy avoids you, you can try to visit more often in the places where he goes. To make the meetings really turn out to be random. If you find yourself together in a campaign where there are people who treat well and to you and him, they will help smooth tension in the relationship.
Sometimes you can ask a third person to help you and arrange a meeting with a guy or talk to him.
Another important point. There are girls who like to suffer. Of course, you'll never admit it to yourself. But if you can not do anything, or if you just have a relationship with a guy, and then again, as if purposely making a mistake, then it is, you do not need a happy relationship. The reason for this behavior can be psychological problems, usually girls who were raised without a father, do not know how to choose the right guy. In this case it is better to consult a psychologist.
You do not have to let it hurt. Try to treat everything as a game. If you do not show that you really want to please this guy, then it will be easier for you to get his location. A big mistake would be to constantly think about what people will say on this or that occasion, and even this guy.
Do not let a guy be rude to you, boor. Sometimes guys try to get rid of a girl like that. First, you need to learn to control the situation and take leadership in the relationship. Then you can influence his opinion of you. Secondly, like a guy who clearly demonstrates his dislike towards you, is almost impossible. You must first transfer your relationship to another channel. We have already talked about how you should communicate as people who seem to have recently met. That is, politely, maybe a little cold, but not aggressive.
Rude behavior, in general, is not typical of normal guys (unless you are 10 years old and try to pull you by the pigtail). It is worth thinking about, but do you really need such a guy? After all, attractive appearance does not always mean a good character. Simply, many make a mistake, and they think that the external corresponds to the inner one. Psychologists still have a term such as "the effect of positive staining." It means that we make our impression of other people by some first act or sign, the first one that caught our eye. We believe that a good man, if he at the first meeting behaved as we liked. There is also an "effect of negative staining." Against him, you just have to fight to establish order in the relationship.
In principle, there is no guarantee that you will meet as a guy and a girl, and not just as friends or acquaintances, even when you can establish relationships with a guy. In any case, try, and you will have one less enemy.