Indeed, why does no one condemn a 40-year-old man with a 20-year-old mistress, but a hail of reproaches falls on a woman who spins an affair with her younger self in age a man? Or is the policy of double standards ruling the ball further?
Fashion for younger men were introduced by Hollywood stars. The most striking examples are the sensational marriages between actress and writer Joan Collins and Perse Gibson (32-year-old difference), actors Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell (six years of difference and three common children), actress Susan Sarandon and director Tim Robbins (12 years of difference, three children), actress Juliana Moore and director Bart Freundlich (nine years of difference, three common children), actress Raquel Welch and owner of the restaurant business Richard Palmer (20 years of difference), actress Demi Moore and actor Ashton Kutcher (15 years of difference). People who believe that only young and beautiful girls worthy of true love of men, we recommend to recall the biographies of Josephine Bogarne, Cleopatra, Madame de Pompadour, Carla Bruni Sarkozy - these classical women of Balzac's age, and not the most beautiful, were adored by their men. Weakness to older women was fed by English King Henry VIII, Julius Caesar and Benjamin Franklin.
The reasons why young men are attracted to older women are many. It can be like real deep feelings, and a prosaic desire to rise at someone else's expense. However, a similar situation is observed in the relationship of adult men and young girls. So, we will not judge strictly, but let's get to the point. Namely, to the place of acquaintance.
So, where and how does a mature woman get acquainted with a young guy?
Judging by the recommendations of online forums, the best place for such acquaintances is various sites. The pros are obvious - the opportunity to get to know each other in the correspondence and a minimum of obligations. By the way, so you know, ladies, many young men from 18 and older just burn with the desire to make happy with the heat of their hot soul and body of women 30-40 years of age. In most cases such acquaintances mean, however, exclusively sex, but what the hell is not joking. It is possible that over time, a passionate sexual relationship will grow into a deep and serious attachment. In addition to dating sites, we should not forget about places of mass gathering of representatives of the opposite sex - stadiums, various clubs (night, sports, etc.), beaches, etc. In general, the question is - how a mature woman to get acquainted with a young guy , should not particularly bother you. Acquaintance with a handsome man is possible even at work or an occasional business meeting, but the relationship between fellow lovers in the event of a further break and other incidents threatens the heat of passion, the awkwardness of the situation and other inconveniences. So it's better to follow the unspoken rule of business etiquette - there are no novels at work. Of course, many men are fond of football, often attending matches and sports games, except that their gaze during a match or duel is aimed more at the battlefield than on the woman sitting next to them. But it does not matter. All the same, they have different breaks, time-outs, they should be used by them. You can ask the young man who interested you to help open the juice or some kind of box, exchange courtesies (men like compliments, although they deny this immutable fact), express their enthusiasm with the game of the player, the last one you will definitely win his disposition as a close person in spirit !!
In general, to turn to men for help is necessary and useful. So you can kill two birds with one stone at a time - and make an acquaintance, and get help. So, include your imagination and come up with some kind of "rescue" pretext, for as the classic about women said: "Our strength is in weakness, but our weakness is unlimited."
And further already, as the card will lie down. When a man becomes interested in a woman and starts to take the initiative himself, it is much easier to develop an acquaintance, otherwise all female tricks will have to be used. Here, most importantly, do not overdo it, so as not to frighten away the game ahead of time. In most cases, in relationships with older women, men are primarily attuned to sexual experience. So, for less disappointment and emotional stress, a woman needs to be ready for such a development of events. However, in adulthood, a woman is less dramatic in relation to the rupture of relations, and in general to the relations themselves. Although the individual characteristics of the female psyche, social attitudes, education and outlook on life also should not be thrown aside.
By the way, unlike couples where the older man, as a rule, keeps everything under control and leads the family, in pairs with the older woman usually develop more democratic relations, with a better balance of interests and distribution of responsibilities. Moreover, the results of a sociological survey found that in most cases, a young man not only initiates a relationship, but also makes some personal sacrifices for the sake of union with a woman older than himself. Under the influence of the elder friend, a young man often becomes "on the right path": he chooses a "normal" profession, studies and makes a career.
According to psychologist Frank Pittman, a real man needs a woman of any age - if she loves him, he is good with her, and she excites him. And if life is so ordered that someone in the pair was born later, and someone earlier, but people are pleased to be in each other's society, is it worth paying attention to long-standing stereotypes and vicious, and often envious gossip around?