Everyone wants to have an exemplary order and cleanliness in the house, and life was well-established and comfortable. But why do some women have the ability to keep a house in perfect condition (or at least try to achieve it), but others can not? There is no unequivocal answer, but we can say with certainty that in many respects these qualities are instilled in girls from their earliest childhood. On how to teach a child to restore order from a young age and is spoken of in the recommendations of teachers and psychologists.
As a mother usually rejoices at the sight of her own child, when it selflessly and most importantly - on its own initiative tears the carpet with a vacuum cleaner or puts its own shoes in a box for linen. "It's the same," thought the parents, "what a neat child is growing!" Without our reminder, order brings ... "They do not know that their daughter at this moment least thinks about the notorious order. It's just for the little one interested: how the vacuum cleaner "dines", swallowing rubbish, and how the shoes "go to bed" to rest before another trip to the kindergarten. For her, this is a game - nothing more. And this means that as soon as the girl gets bored with everything, she can not be forced to clean up things behind herself or follow the cleanliness around her any more. By that time she will have other, more interesting studies, most likely, far from economic activity and the desire to restore order. Therefore, regardless of whether you notice for your child a tendency to restore order or not, this quality must necessarily be brought up in it. Of course, such an event is not an easy one. After all, you have to patiently teach the child to switch from one active action to another, and this is usually given to pre-school children with great difficulty and causes them fierce resistance. But if you use our advice, then, most likely, pretty soon, make sure that "the process has gone."
MOTHER IN THE ROLE OF MANAGER
All in places!
The child will be much easier to learn how to clean the toys with him (it's necessary to start the training to order), if you sort them in advance by categories and take each of them to your place. For example, boxes with "Lego" will be placed on the bottom shelf of the bookcase, puzzles will lie on the middle, and for a plush zoo, take some box. The main thing is that all this is available for the child. At each place, glue a picture, indicating the kind of toys that are located there. It can be cut from logs of an image of a house from cubes, a cartoon beast or "animated" pencils with hands and feet. Such pictures will help the preschool pupil to orient more quickly, what things to put. But it is the inability of babies to figure out where the toy should lie, that this is considered order, and is the main obstacle to achieving this very order.
Warning Signals
A child of preschool age needs to be warned in advance about the need to change the occupation. In other words, tell him about five minutes that it's time to stop the game and clean it up. But only these five minutes do not stand at the child over the soul, give him the opportunity to smoothly move from the fantasy world into boring reality. By the way, the warning itself should not be put in the form of a primitive order. Do not tell him in a commanding tone and with a fierce expression on your face: "In five minutes ..." It's better to come up with some kind of conditional signal that will help you to attract the attention of the kid in a playful way. For example, before starting to put things in order, always light a table lamp or ring the bell. Usually this encourages children to take active action. It's good if the child also responds to you with some kind of pre-determined gesture, for example, with a raised five fingers. Particularly gifted parents can come up with a rhyme or a song that can be performed by a duet before the beginning of economic affairs.
Game of cleaning
When the kid is morally ready to put order around himself, communicate with him in a playful form. Let him put the toys under your account, which is pronounced in a funny voice. A note with the order to start cleaning the small mistress can be delivered by her favorite doll. Or try to invite the child to turn into a bulldozer to move the carpets to the corner of the building materials. All this will cool the toddler's tedious work, and it will not be fixed in his head as an inevitable evil.
IN THE MORNINGS AND EVENINGS
If you want to teach your child to order, you need to start with the development of disciplined behavior at the beginning and at the end of the day. That is, you need to direct your efforts first of all to ensure that the child clearly performs certain actions after awakening and before going to bed.
Useful Traditions
You will significantly help your child in this, if you set for this time some unshakable ritual. For example, agree that with the words: "Good morning, my sun!" Daughter gets up and begins to dress. You can also accompany brushing your teeth in the evenings with a quatrain from Moidodyr. It is not bad to teach a child to prepare clothes for tomorrow before going to bed and lay them out in a certain place. The fact is that familiar signals give preschoolers a feeling of comfort and safety, and this, in turn, allows them to behave independently and under the slogan "I can do it myself."
Honorary Duty
In order to overcome the stubbornness of your child, on the one hand, and get rid of the goat - on the other, assign certain duties to him and name them as much as possible. Let the six-year "lightman" be responsible for switching off all electrical appliances when leaving the house in the mornings during the dark season. "Meterworld" will be responsible for serving the table for breakfast, and "blanket commander" - for preparing the bed for bed. Thanks to this, the child will feel needed and at the same time begin to develop skills for a more adult life.
WAR WITH BUTTONS
The upbringing of good housewives is unthinkable without the acquisition of children and such skills as serving themselves without the help of adults.
Comfortable clothes
Buy only such clothes for a child that he can easily wear on his own (trousers and skirts not on belts, but on elastic bands, sweaters without fasteners, jackets with large buttons and zippers, etc.). Be sure to keep everything, without exception, the things of the child, which he wears in this period, in accessible places for him. If you encounter a problem called "And this I will not wear, even die!", Give the child the right to choose from two or three subjects. Just let him use this right not a minute before leaving home, when the situation is already tense, but in advance.
Step by step
To prevent a "dress war", divide the entire dressing process into several stages. First, discuss with the baby, in what order he wants to dress (that forward - shirt or socks, hat or scarf). Then take a sheet of paper, cut out pictures of the clothes from the magazines and paste them (with the active participation of the child) in this sequence. Let such a poster always hang over the child's bed, so that he always was before his eyes. At first, make sure that the baby observes the agreed priority, and in due course he will do it without your supervision.
NOT KNUT, AND THE SPEAKER
Try to fix out loud the successes of a small hard worker: "Very recently, I helped you to button up this button, and now you've grown up and already cope with it yourself!" Or "An hour ago along the corridor you could pass only on an ATV, and now there is not a single toy ! "This is an indispensable condition for proper education of the future hostess of an adult house. There are also additional techniques of encouragement, for example, asterisks or pictures. But they should be reserved for the most difficult cases, otherwise the child will get used to acting only for the reward. For example, if the daughter has cleaned her bed for the first time in her life, such an event can be marked with a big "five" carved from red paper. You can repeat this again ten. But on the eleventh, I must say: "You are now quite grown up, and you are so good at cleaning your bed that you no longer need evaluation."
Do not forget that pre-school children are very fond of being in business. And if you do not abuse obvious compulsion, you will not beat the child's desire to engage in socially useful work. And then already, having accustomed the child to put things in order, you yourself will receive as a reward the proud for your successes of the baby. And he will perceive his inevitable duties as a useful, and therefore enjoyable, occupation.
Tactics
1. Do not curry favor with the child, but talk with him in a confidential tone. You have a danger of undermining your credibility, if you hesitate to approach him with the words: "Maybe you will collect toys, eh?"
2. For children under five years, any work must be turned into a game.
3. In no case do not set strict rules that can not be violated under penalty of punishment. Let in small things he will have an alternative.
4. Divide any measure into segments and fix the attention of the child on the performance of each of them.
5. Do not say common phrases like: "A good girl." Be specific in praise.
What you need to say
1. "We will soon leave the house. I already packed my things. Have you prepared your backpack? You yourself must decide what you need to take to kindergarten. "
2. "Let's play basketball. Let dirty socks and T-shirts be balls, and a box for laundry - a basket. "
3. "What book will we read if you are ready to go to bed in ten minutes?"
4. "Good morning! Well, remember our plan. All right: remove the bed, brush your teeth, get dressed. I wonder how you can handle the first task? "
5. "I would never have believed that a five-year-old girl could remove so many cubes from the floor so quickly!"
What is the result
1. You inform the child about your expectations clearly and respectfully and at the same time give him some independence.
2. A boring occupation turns into fun and the next time will not cause the child to feel a protest.
3. This gives the child the feeling that he controls the situation, which means that he does not feel forced to do so.
4. A clear rhythm and repetition of actions strengthen obedience and develop independent skills.
5. Assessing the momentary achievements, you help him to realize his own importance and growing ability to act.