Passivity in sex, to the great sorrow of the author of the "Kama Sutra", is a common occurrence for couples who have been together for several years, and it is understandable, since wriggling with a snake and proving that you are the best mistress in the district is no longer necessary, you repeatedly perform win-win games numbers that once delighted the male, and calmly go to bed, but a man, like any living person, does not like uniformity, and if you do not try, but support his initiative sluggishly, there is a great chance that your a joint game will end sooner or later rustnym draw.
Corrective labor
Are you sure you just picked up the "best program" for both of you? Or are you just not interested in trying something with this guy? Do not be afraid to admit to yourself that relationships and sex in particular no longer give you joy. an occasion to bury you as a couple, and a hint - it's time to reanimate the feelings, until they are finally hardened.
But more often the cause is banal fatigue. Agree to spend the evening without a TV, social networks and dolgivrazgovgorov about mindless colleagues - and the chances of completing it in the bedroom will grow many times. An old kind romantic dinner (preferably not with pasta in Navy, but with something more piquant) too does not hurt. At the same time there will be time to tell the elector about the beautiful underwear that is just on you, or about the crazy sex toys that you saw on the Internet. But be prepared for the fact that a man will offer to try everything at once, so if the toys, in your opinion, are really too much, it is better not to mention them at night.
You do not think about yourself
You wanted so much to impress him at the beginning of your novel, that you gave it all up. The man, of course, was impressed and since then he does not even want to hear your cowardly: "Let's just lie down." The ability to talk openly about one's desires in bed is worth a lot, but the habit of being interested in a partner's wishes is even more valuable. Your boyfriend does not even try to do it, and always ends before you? We remove your accusations from you, except for one thing: it seems that you contacted the wrong person, but what if you just do not give him the chance to pamper you, literally jumping out the coals for his pleasure? It's very pleasant to make love to your beloved, but getting your own orgasms is no less great.
Corrective labor
Constantly shuffling a boyfriend, showing all the new techniques of sex - it's a little naughty. At least, it looks like you are not sure of your desires or yourself. Do you constantly need confirmation that you are a good lover? Are you afraid that you will not be able to keep a man without demonstrating your passion? Believe me, the best in your sex for him will be the moment when he feels like a hero, because a man is flattered to be next to the one who delighted with his sexual abilities. You have exceeded the norm for a long time, so lie on your back and relax.
You're crazy about your ex
Do you compare all the new partners with the ex-idol, and counted in his favor? You were not as good with anyone as you were with him, and you even do not want a chance for newcomers to prove you the opposite? But let me say: life at this point does not even stand still, but moves with small steps.
You do not know how to relax
You do not think about the former, you do not think about the bad, you do not think of dressing up trauma, but you still think all the time! Whether the breasts are hanging, whether the stomach has not dissolved, whether you are moving rhythmically enough and how ridiculous you are during oral sex. Yes, you're paranoid, friend.
Correctional labor
Remember those poses, actions and touches that are pleasing to you most of all, and concentrate on them, so it will be easier to relax. And ask the men, at what times do you like him the most. Be ready for what he calls your most unloved pose. This is an excellent opportunity to work over the equipment together and ... to rub on each other even denser. Although you can work outside your bedroom. Yoga, Pilates, Spa - all this teaches you to relax and release your head from thoughts when necessary.
Corrective labor
First, take a time-out and stop rushing at people in the quest for an ideal. Be alone and think about why the former was so firmly entrenched in the head. Let's say he was your first. And what if you delayed a month or two, and your first was brown-eyed Misha from the sports club? If you think about it, they are not so bad, and it's even better to pull oneself up.
The case is more serious, if your former was the first, really loved the cohort. Such a feeling does not pass without a trace, but it happens that it does not pass at all. But still try to mock the past passion with hunger, except for the use of everything that hints at the past.
And a memorable candy wrapper, and a sapphire ring, given in honor of the name-day, - do not spare anything. And more often agree to the proposals and get involved in new adventures, to interrupt the stale aftertaste of the departed man. But do not throw yourself into the whirlpool of sex, which does not bring pleasure, but treat nerves and mend a broken heart. Psychologist, friends, meditation - each of which to choose from.
Just guilty
Everyone around, even your favorite magazine, just talk about sex: nice, fun and healthy. But you, unfortunately, can not share a common enthusiasm, because for you sex is more likely something tedious, awkward and causing a sense of guilt.
Correctional labor
It is difficult to forget that praiseworthy instructions, which in childhood were broadcast by class leaders or authoritarian parents. All these seemingly absurd attitudes about "debauchery" and "good girls" nevertheless make themselves felt in adult life.
But do you understand that my mother's words were just an unwise attempt to save you from mistakes? It is unlikely that now one of the relatives with a vivid mind will recommend you "stay away from the lustful men." All will be happy if you arrange your personal life. But to do this - it does not seem to connect with a decent-looking guy and quickly visit the registry office so that everyone "like" in people". Do not be shy to "touch" even from a small number of suitors in search of someone with whom it will be nice to treat your fear of sex.