But times are passing and morals are changing, now the woman is independent, has the same rights and duties as men, and is not silent when they are violated, and also can and is able to defend her opinion. But still, at the gene level, a man often extols himself over a woman, which he manifests in his actions and words. Hence, there are situations when disputes take almost that global character, and in this battle the woman must yield, simply because to prove to her husband that he is wrong seems unreal. In such cases, neither screams, nor reproaches, or requests are helpful, in any case the result is one - he is right, and the point is.
Why?
Of course, after several such skirmishes, the first thing that comes to every woman in the head is the eternal question "why?". In this way, they usually try to find an answer, or at least the slightest explanation, the reason why one can determine the actions of the husband, and his conviction of their correctness. And the closer we get into the details, the more often we scroll through the same situation in the head, the more we understand that we were right, but at the same time our rightness was rejected, which is doubly unpleasant.
This behavior can be explained in several ways. The first is character. Whatever one may say, character makes a person what he is. And if the nature of inherent stubbornness, clarifying the relationship with such a person requires effort. But there is also a positive side, the character can always be corrected. This requires patience, approach and desire of the owner of this most stubborn character. Without desire, it is easier to reconcile, and will adapt to such a life.
The second option for such behavior may be copying the life charter of his family. If he is in the house, the father always had the last word, and the mother was more subordinate to his will and considered it the norm - then why are you surprised. Looking at our parents, we subconsciously copy the manner of behavior, which in the future is reflected in our family life. Therefore, in that case, you have a chance to achieve your goals by talking, or take the position of his mother.
And the third reason, requires reflection and effort on yourself. After all, you probably never imagined, such an option in which the correctness of the husband was true, and not just the fruit of his imagination. In this case, instead of proving to the husband that he is not right, it is better to listen to his point of view, add his own, and find a compromise.
You to me, and I to you.
Among most women there is another myth that can be described figuratively as "you to me, and I to you". The essence of it is that if a wife once succumbs to her husband in something, then for some unknown reason, she is confident that the next time he is simply obliged to give in to her. From the point of view of men, such concessions are not a great feat and do not bear any debt. And you do not intend to hang on to yourself the obligation to give up against your will. An exceptional case when a man of his own volition or simply unwillingness to enter into a dispute will agree with his wife. And the reason for this will be only his own desire, or some kind of spiritual impulse, well, in extreme cases, laziness, but not the fact that you once opposed yourself to his side.
Will learn to hear.
In situations where the obstinacy of one, can not cause the loyalty of the other, and stumbles upon the same stubbornness, in any case a victim, or common sense, is required. This means that if the husband is firmly on the fact that he is right, and does not want to hear anything else, the wife should turn to his female wisdom. You can find an approach to any person, there simply are cases when it is difficult to do, but possible. First, learn to hear your husband. No, it's clear that with hearing you are doing well, and expressing your opinion, your husband, well, surely does not whisper to himself on the nose. Here the concept of hearing is more used, like the ability to understand the essence of what has been said, the ability to understand a person and to sensibly assess what has been heard. Usually, in practice, it causes a lot of difficulties first, because when you really start to delve into the whole text, it turns out that much has not been said yet. This happens especially if a person does not express his thoughts well and often has to guess the interlocutor. As a consequence, guesses are built on their own opinions, but "how many people, so many opinions". So it turns out that one nedoskazal, the second misunderstood, each is on its own, and as a result - a scandal.
Learn to speak.
Our language is multifaceted and diverse, which allows us to express our thoughts differently and describe the same actions. This makes ordinary speech less dry, adding verbal colors to it. But in this phenomenon there is also a negative side. Such opportunities allow two people to talk about one thing and not to understand what is at stake. If you have learned to hear your husband, and want to hear you - learn to speak correctly. Express your thoughts confidently, and so that you can not be understood ambiguously. The hard and confident tone of the pronunciation will make the interlocutor silent and listen. In time, you will also be listened to, and then the question of how to prove to your husband that he is somewhere wrong is gone.
Of course, there are cases when all methods are ineffective and people can not be reached. The reason for this may be: self-containedness, too obstinacy, a banal reluctance to hear anything else, and the same 100% certainty of one's rightness. If you have such a case, then you know that the problem lies much deeper, and sometimes it requires even professional help. You can only try softly, influence the person, admit your wrong, and have patience. Sometimes this situation makes women think about whether they will be able to live a life in which their "I" will have to be pushed aside for the second plan or all the time to prove to the husband that he is not right. What to choose is up to you.