Often you can hear that opposites attract and it is these people who are the happiest in marriage. This is about novels, films and serials. But how is it going in real life? After all, everyone knows that different people are very difficult to get along with each other. In fact, the concept of attracting opposites can only be perceived in part. Next, you will understand what it is about.
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He is calm, laconic, restrained, emotionally constrained. She - talkative, laughable, not wanting to sit still, like a spark that lights everything up. Here is a typical example of people with opposite characters. Are they attracted? Yes, but not in all cases. Such people can and want to be together only if their differences are limited by characters. That is, in spite of everything, both have the same interests and desires, they want to achieve something in life, for example, like to travel and takadale. Then different characters balance them and help to reach the desired person faster. A calm and reserved man can stop a girl at the right moment, tell her what to think about, do not rush to make a decision and weigh everything. In turn, the girl will force him to make a more decisive step, pushed him to some new solutions and adventurous actions, which he, perhaps, himself would not have gone. Here about such pairs there is always a speech, when they say that the opposites are attracted.
If a woman and a man, in addition to different characters, also have different goals and desires, then the attraction can exist, but in the end, nothing will come of it. At best, they will try to adapt themselves to each other. But as you know, a man can not break himself for a long time, no matter how he would like to please his beloved. Gradually, attempts to understand each other and support in what you do not share, turn into practically slave labor. Such different people seem to like and like a friend, but every day it becomes heavier and heavier. Instead of balancing one's partner and giving him a few of those qualities that he does not have, people simply begin to alter each other. If this happens, the winner says disappointingly that the loved one is no longer the same as before, not the one he once or she loved. If the partner is too stubborn and does not want to change in any way, then gradually love turns into a mutual irritation, which in very serious cases can become even hatred. And people who once really loved each other, now simply can not watch our partner.
Principal
Another kind of attracting opposites, which are so fond of playing in films and books are people from different parts of the community. In fact, this happens quite often, but only in many cases, it is not about love and the creation of a family, but about self-interest. Women choose rich men to keep them. By the way, most of these ladies agree to the role of the woman who does not want to enter the highest society herself. Speaking of pairs that consist of rich and poor, it is necessary to determine what exactly is meant by the word "rich". If a person simply does not badly work, then he can hardly be called rich on a global scale. And if such people are considered to be opposites, then they can easily and easily attract. After all, not a good salary, usually such a man still continues to spend time with longtime friends in institutions that can afford all-average citizens. So, he completely has, where to get acquainted with the future lady of heart. Differences in the financial plan are also not too between them, at least at first glance. Therefore, speaking of opposites, they really can be called those who are at a great distance from each other, if viewed from the standpoint of social status. For example, a girl can be a simple poor student, and the guy is an heir to the oil enterprises who talk with ministers to the "you" and call the president's uncle. Theoretically, such people can get acquainted, but in fact, it will be very difficult for them together. If, of course, we are talking about love, not about self-interest. It's just that such a couple has nothing in common. Firstly, the girl will find it difficult to enter the circle with which the young man communicates. Even if she has very good manners, it is unlikely she will feel comfortable sitting next to Ambassador Guinea. In addition, the families of such people are really very skeptical and even negative about girls from the lower classes. The point of tuti in suspicion of self-interest, and that the people from such a "different" world always have their own plans for the future jinl of their sons. And yet, between this guy and the girl is unlikely to be a lot of mutual understanding, because they grew up in different conditions. They have completely different memories, the perception of the past and the present. Therefore, in theory, such pairs can exist, but in practice this is practically unrealistic.
What can not be
There are opposites sung in movies and literature, which in real life still can not attract. For example, if you recall the film "Pretty Woman", then it is still unreal. Especially if the man himself is still very honest rules. Such a guy may well be interested in the lady of not the most difficult behavior, because in some of these women there really is something special. It can even flare up a passion. But in the end, he will rethink everything and understand that he can not live peacefully, touching her, thinking about who she was and what she was doing. By the same, such ladies, unlike cine characters, do not change. They all tilt to the left and they can not resist. Therefore, "good" is never really attracted to the "bad." Yes, the moment of passion, of course, is present. Ideovochki, especially at a young age, just go crazy on the "bad" boys. But eventually everyone understands one fact: "bad" in life and "bad" on the screen are different. If in films such people suddenly radically change, then in life this never happens.