The main purpose of communication between different people is to achieve mutual understanding. However, to achieve this is not at all easy. Each person with someone to communicate easier, but with someone more difficult. With someone it is easier to establish mutual understanding, and with someone we constantly swear. Of course, it is much easier to establish good relations with the person with whom there are some "points of contact".
The most important rule: before removing all the differences that have arisen, it is necessary to find out the reasons for these disagreements. In communication, it is very important to be able to listen and understand your interlocutor. If you explain people your thoughts and intentions, you can avoid many conflicts, quarrels and just misunderstandings. Often, the only possible way out of a difficult conflict situation is honesty. However, the truth must be expressed not in order to humiliate his interlocutor, but in order to clarify the situation to him.
The reasons for the misunderstanding between different people can be very different: psychological characteristics, outlook, religious views, political. However, the main reason for misunderstanding is the inability to hear his interlocutor. After all, the most important component of communication is the ability to listen.
The one who listens attentively to the person with whom he talks, delves into the problem and helps a person formulate his thoughts. In addition, the process of communication is a rather complicated process, because the communication process is strongly influenced by whether a person is communicative or vice versa shy, as well as the circumstances and mood of both interlocutors. In addition, expressions, words, gestures, tone and manner of behavior should be chosen depending on what kind of communication you conduct - formal or informal.
During communication, we often make many mistakes. This can be both the use of offensive nicknames and expressions, and unnecessary abbreviations. To establish relations help signs of attention, which allow you to reassure and reassure your interlocutor.
If you do not know how to start a conversation, it is better to choose any topic interesting for your conversation and the time when the person you want to talk to is not engaged in anything. It is important to remember that another person is not exactly the same as you and you need to be able to look at the situation with his eyes. This is especially true in conflict situations.
It is important to always respect the point of view of another person, even if it does not coincide with yours at all. You will be able to cultivate in yourself a respectful attitude towards a person, if you learn to see in every person the features inherent only to him, that is, his personality.
Everyone deserves respect. When you respect another person, you respect yourself first. Even if you do not have a good relationship with someone, you can do your best to fix them. In conflict situations, psychologists advise not to forget about the interests of your interlocutor. Your interest will cause him enthusiasm and revitalization.
There are some rules that will help you conduct an honest and open dialogue with the so-called "inconvenient interlocutor." Use the "I-language". Starting the conversation with the words: "In my opinion ..." or "I see this situation as ...". Thus, you can soften the conversation and show your interlocutor that you express only your point of view and do not pretend to the truth in the last resort. Thus, you recognize the right of the interlocutor to have his point of view. And, most likely, you will be listened with more attention and more relaxed.
Try to talk about some specific behavior or case and do not go on all sorts of generalizations. For example, such generalizations as "There was not a single case that you would come home on time" will never be useful. After all, such a beginning of the conversation will provide an opportunity to escape from the problem that you will condemn. The person you accuse of this can begin to prove and remember that he did something in time all the same. Try, first of all, to show your interlocutor that his behavior does not prevent anyone else, but himself.