Really, do children need freedom? Freedom, unlimited, not having any framework, no, it is not needed. It does not provide an opportunity to master culture and become a Man - the very one that is with a capital letter. Freedom, which allows and helps to master norms of behavior among people, yes, it is necessary. But are the rules available to kids? For the benefit of the child and his loved ones, it is necessary to identify the boundaries of what is permitted. Gradually, those behaviors that are condemned by close adults will become unacceptable for the baby, especially if the parents set the limits tactfully and clearly. For crumbs, a world without borders is chaos, and chaos is alarming, giving rise to a sense of danger. Trying to get rid of the anxious feeling, the kid begins to look for the boundaries that the adults did not show him. In this search, he seems to "check" the parents.
In 18 months the baby began to make frequent hysterics. Why is this happening? There are many reasons for emotional outbursts. For example, most children do not tolerate forced inaction and waiting - in these cases, hysterics can provoke the most insignificant reason. In addition, bad behavior can be caused by the desire of a little to attract the attention of adults, a lack of understanding that not every desire can be fulfilled. Whatever the reason, most often the baby during hysteria is really not able to cope with himself. Ensure that your child is always quite rested and not hungry, because capricious behavior at an early age is often provoked by physiological causes. In the daily routine must include moving, active games and walks, helping to "release steam," to throw out energy. Feeling that the crumb begins to scandal, find out what the kid wants and how he can be helped, explain that it's impossible to understand a screaming person. Take the child to a safe place, such as a crib, make sure that the raging baby can not do any harm to himself. Stay close to the little rebel and let him know that you can play with him only when he calms down. How to deal with the spreading of food by the child? Why is this happening? Children perceive food as another toy. In addition, they like to experiment with objects, check their power over them, manage. At the table there must be a serious situation. Give small portions and put the additive only when the plate is empty. Pay attention to what the baby is showing more interest and in what portions he needs. If a crumb began to scatter food, it is a signal that he is already full.
How to control a baby's interest in dangerous subjects? The one-year-olds have a very low level of self-control and great curiosity, so it is so difficult for them to limit the field of their interests to only safe items. Calmly take into consideration the attempts of the child to learn more and more space: the more emotionally you react, the more attractive becomes for a small object, which caused a violent reaction of an adult. It is necessary not only to create conditions under which a child can safely explore the world, but also teach the child that there are unsafe things. When the baby is drawn to something that should not be touched, say calmly, but firmly: "No! There you can not! "- and move it away from this place. You can give your child experience of interacting with a dangerous object in a lightweight way: touch the prongs of the fork to the baby's finger, while saying: "Acute. Dangerous!"
The younger son beats and bites his older brother. How can I stop this? Usually, children use the method of aggression, when they can not express their emotions in words. Some may be predisposed to aggression due to increased excitability of the nervous system. Aggression reacts to the kids and to the constant criticism of adults, too many prohibitions. WHAT TO DO? Mom's task is to inspire that to fight and bite is unacceptable behavior using simple phrases: "You can not bite!", "We do not fight!", "Do not do it! It hurts me! "We must physically stop the baby, hold up the hand that is swinging at the other person. It is important to say: "I understand that you are now angry, but I can not allow you to offend another." At the heart of aggression lies the emotion - anger, rage. In communication with the child, do not put a ban on emotion, do not say: "Stop being angry!" - this is beyond the strength of the child; clearly and clearly prohibit only aggressive actions. You can not beat the baby in response, so that he himself feels how it hurts: "evil gives rise to evil." Instead, caress the "sacrifice". It is in this case that the crumb realizes that such behavior hurts, and "offended" needs empathy. Tell me how to solve the conflict. It is important to distinguish the aggressive behavior of children from contact games, childish fuss, in which children and pushes, and grab, and kick each other. Intervene is only if one of the children asks about this or you see that one of the children is hurt.
When a kid is naughty, scandals or arranges a hysterics in a public place, it is unnecessary:
- shout;
- go for the child and fulfill his demands;
- to be afraid of rough emotions of the kid;
- compare the baby with other children who "never do anything like that";
Say sacramental parental "You are all watched !!!" - the presence of spectators often only exacerbates bad behavior.
You can, and sometimes you need:
- to take or take the baby from the scene;
- switch attention;
- praising a baby when he behaves well is an incentive for him;
- react to bad behavior with a clear "no" and a serious facial expression.
Even if the baby does not understand the words, your facial expression will give him all the information. At the same time for some children the word "impossible" is a rag on the bull. They, even if they are very small, are more suited phrase "So do not need, because ...". It should be explained - without long notations (the younger the child, the less words) and only when the baby calms down, that you were uncomfortable with the behavior of the baby and how you should behave; search for your own methods of disciplining, taking into account the individuality, both yours and acts like your kid's red.