In the arsenal of psychology, there are firmly established such methods of raising children at risk, such as game and art therapy. These techniques are "shown" and alarming, and pugnacious, and hyperactive children with attention deficit disorder. Modeling, playing, dancing, drawing are often the most effective medicines, the most effective educational tools. Are not you a psychologist and do not own these methods? Your possibilities are much broader. You understand and feel your child much better than the most experienced specialists. That is why you will be able to cope with many problems if you learn to actively and purposefully play with your baby.
The Magic Case
The first thing to do is to prepare a set of toys needed for such "games with subtext." Do not be scared - there is nothing complicated in this. Although it is necessary, armed with a list, to spend time to collect "props" and all the characters. You will need:
• puppet family - son and daughter, mother, father, baby, grandmother, grandfather, and also uncle and aunt;
• Toy friends "daughter" or friend "son";
• characters with scary and evil faces who will act as a coarse neighbor who once frightened a crumb, or the role of a not very beloved teacher;
• dolls with kind and cheerful faces - for the role of a good teacher, a magician or a good sorceress, a princess or fairy fairy;
• a set of utensils;
• Hero figures: the brave prince (for girls), the Hulk, Spiderman (for boys);
• anti-heroes - a couple of evil monsters, robots, aliens;
• for boys - a set of soldiers, tanks, cars, a pair of pistols, daggers or sabers;
• for girls - funny little animals, which, if necessary, can perform any of the listed roles;
• cubes from which you can build a toy house and a castle;
• colored paper, plasticine, brushes, paints, markers, album for drawing.
However, even if the parents collected only half of all of the above, this will be enough for a start.
If children are naughty while eating
Quite often, nervous children from the risk group are capricious for any reason. Your little girl can not feed, does not help any persuasion? Well, let the child today be a pope - a cook or mother, who treats his family. We get a set of dolls from the magic suitcase. Reassemble all the dolls around the doll's table, put the right pot. Create an atmosphere of fun, celebration and pleasure. For this, voice the voice of what is happening, because the child himself does not know how. But you must try: "We'll put the dishes of the most elegant, we invite guests to our house, we prepare all the delicious, tasteless. As everyone likes cutlets, Dad asks for supplements! And brother, look, for both cheeks weave a buckwheat gruel! You will give him supplements and rejoice that everyone is very tasty! Does your grandmother want to give her a piece of chicken? Choose for her more appetizing. That's how she smiles, smacks! It's great to have a delicious meal! "
Next time, play with the baby in the preparation of dinner. While offering him to admire the bright carrots, tell me how to paint a piece of beet, let yourself wash a slice of meat. Give the puppet family and the baby to taste a juicy, ruddy apple. With this game you shape the child's wonderful mood, pleasant expectations. You'll see, soon his attitude towards food will change.
Remove aggression
Are you worried about the outbreak of aggression and irritation that regularly occur in children at risk? The child swings his fist at his grandmother, strives to push his neighbor along the sandbox, you hit right into the chest. And the teacher complains about him. You're shaming the fighter, explaining that you can not do this, but his behavior does not change. Apparently, the child has reasons for resentment and indignation, you just can not understand yet, in whom it or in what. And he still does not know how to express his feelings so that they are understandable, and do not cause harm to anyone. Here again, the main method of raising children (and not just a group of risk) - a game - can come to the rescue.
Did you notice how an angry youngster grabs a gun and shoots you because you refused something or even punished? Just do not take the weapon, do not tell me that you are imposing a ban on it, that people are not allowed to shoot. Much better in education will help not incomprehensible for the child a ban, but a simple phrase: "You are angry." Agree, this discharge and the output of emotions is much better than an attempt to hit or bite. Play with the child in the war, and give the initiative to the kid. In this case, a magical suitcase is useful. Get the soldiers. Let the child throw out his anger at the toy enemy: ironing it with tanks, shooting, dropping off the cliff, but just pulling his ears off just fine. Bombs pressed from old newspapers are also an excellent way to "lighten the soul."
The children of the risk group can get a lot of pleasure if you draw a nasty enemy, and then "destroy" it, densely and mercilessly painted with black paint. It will not be bad to make a monster out of plasticine, and then flatten, crumple, tear it into separate scraps. Itself voice in this game destroyed by the scarecrow - this is your chance to figure out what causes the child to be hostile. Let the beast beg for mercy, yell and ask why they punish him so. For being forced to obey and obey? Or are they always scolding and teaching, toys are being taken away? The child, after hearing the "correct version", will necessarily confirm it with words or express emotionally. And quickly calm down. Thus, you will not only teach your child to express his negative feelings in a safe form, but also be able to understand how to help him cope with difficulties.
The main rules for raising children at risk
In order for your joint games to help the child, parents must adhere to several rules:
- Be attentive and friendly to the inventions of crumbs, do not criticize his game.
- Actively fantasize yourself. Your enthusiasm and joy will be passed on to the child.
- Alternate the game, drawing, modeling - you'll see what kind of manifestation of feelings closest to your baby.
- Do not force the karapuza to play. If you see that he has lost interest or is dissatisfied with something, switch his attention to another activity.
Following simple techniques in raising children at risk, you can teach them to respond adequately to annoying situations and correctly express their emotions. If you approach the case consistently and use the methods of education regularly, after a few years you will forget that your child was at risk. He will certainly grow up to be a real person, respecting himself and others.