Approximately every seventh to eighth child has signs of one or another variant of the disorder, the general name of which sounds like "attention deficit disorder." The diagnosis is often made from the mother's words about the unusual "mobility and nervousness" of the baby, that "it is impossible to cope with it, it is impossible to calm down. "Often this is a sign not so much of neurology as of pedagogical helplessness of parents.How is it correct to behave with an" overly active "or really hyperactive (for neurological status) child? He should never be kept under the hood, he must meet all the usual life situations, it is simply necessary for the child to at least sometimes train his weak ability to concentrate in conditions "close to the fighting." At the same time, in no case can he "let everything", referring to the presence of the syndrome. "Yes, he just can not sit still!" - says mom in the clinic, whose son runs along the corridor and knocks a toy on the walls, irritating others and preventing doctors from taking a reception. And why then is the same child sitting for two hours at the computer or watching cartoons all day long? Hyperactivity (even diagnosed by a specialist) is not a disease, but a state of the nervous system of a given child. Let's consider examples. Hyperactivity and attention deficit in children - the topic of the article.
We are waiting in line
To sit or stand still still is a test for any child. Always have ready-made prophylaxis of "hyperactivity attack".
♦ A set of small and light, but related to each other in the meaning of toys. For example, a doll with a set of clothes and a sleeping bag, a transformer, a set of seals and a piece of paper ...
♦ In the head of the parent there are several games available to the child by age and cute, in which you can play standing or sitting. For example: "What was loaded on the steamer?" "What you want, then take," yes "and" no "do not say ..." and so on.
♦ Bring a new (for the child) bright book that can be viewed and discussed.
♦ It is necessary to take care of the inevitable joint games in advance. For example, take two dolls or two cars to avoid quarrels, and discuss with the child the boundaries of the permissible: "There it will be possible to play, but only in the place indicated by me and quietly."
Cultural events
In the theater, hyperactive kids often can not even sit out even a children's play. This is not a reason to refuse the presentation. In advance, take care that your place is at the edge of the row and you can leave at any time. Perhaps, for a start, the child has only one action - he received his impressions. In the future, as a child grows up, consult with him: "There is an opportunity to go, it's interesting, how do you stand it, is it worth spending money and time?" Do not take responsibility off the child, let him try.In carnivals and holidays, hyperactive children are often overexcited, and then they become capricious and even roll up hysterics.Cross should not be overburdened with such tests, even if the holiday is very prestigious and bright.The kid should know that if he wants to continue, he will have to "keep himself in hand."
We go on a visit
In advance, in a calm atmosphere, discuss the conditions of the visit: "Aunt Zina does not like to take things from her sideboard. Be sure to ask. "" Jack's dog can not be ironed and squeezed. If the child still violated all the rules, immediately let him know how upset you are by his behavior, offended, how uncomfortable you are. He did not consider it necessary to observe clearly named boundaries - and here is the result. Next time, give your child a choice: a) you're not going to visit: b) you go on a visit, but you follow the rules: c) you do not observe the rules and you spoil your pleasure, parents and owners of the house. Reasonably brought up "hyperdynamics" sometimes explicitly refuse: "I better not go, but I can not hold it, break something, and Aunt Zina will be sulking again on us."
At the playground
He offends everyone or interferes with everything. Help the child: organize a game with several children, in which you will follow the rules yourself. Do not get tired of explaining and showing the rules of the "sandy hostel": "You must ask about someone else's toy", "If you want to be played with, follow the rules." The situation is still out of control? Quickly take the child off the site with the words: "This time there was no peaceful coexistence, now we are leaving." Tomorrow we'll try again. "Until it works out as it should."
In the shop
Let's say at once: no hyperactivity justifies children's shop hysteria, when only a roar is heard from the baby: "Ahhh! It's just the result of pedagogical mistakes of parents.It's best not to take small hyperactive children in stores, there are too many nonspecific incentives, too many distracting points, which are already lacking. entrance to the store) everything is specifically negotiated: "In the store we will buy something for tea at my choice and one candy to you - according to your choice." If you really said so, be prepared to buy one of the biggest or the most expensive candy. "We are going to buy a toy. One, and not more than fifty hryvnia. "When the child understands that your words indicate exactly what will happen in reality, there will be no traces of hysterics." To questions: "But this can not be bought? Is this this? " You have to be philosophical - consumer society, what do you want?