To change people go for completely different reasons. Sometimes these actions are rash and meaningless. It happens that a person decides to change, because he is angry with a loved one and wants revenge. That's only after the betrayal, many begin to feel guilty and already do not know what to do. For example, some women are wondering: what if I cheated on my husband and his friend? In such a situation, it is very important to make the right decision, which will be considered, balanced and prudent.
So, what to do if you cheated on your husband and his friend? First, it is necessary to understand why the woman did this. What became the reason and what exactly pushed her to change. There can be many options, and we will consider the main ones.
Passion
Sometimes it happens that for many years we have lived next to a person and treat him indifferently or in a friendly way, and then suddenly we start to see him completely from the other side and feel the attraction. Someone can overcome this desire, but someone rushes "into the pool with a head." And after the act is done, it comes to the realization that you have changed your loved one and become scared. How to act in this situation? If a woman feels that she has committed treason with a friend in stupidity and in fact she loves only her husband, then a similar story can be hidden. Of course, only if you are sure that a friend does not tell his husband. If this happens, then you will be in a worse situation. Therefore, you can keep silent about this only when you are confident in the second person.
If you decide to tell, be prepared for the fact that you can lose relationships with both your husband and his friend. A husband can simply abandon both of you, and a friend will blame you for breaking their relationship. Therefore, in this case, it's up to you to decide whether it's worth it to be honest or better to live on as if nothing happened. Of course, you can face your own conscience, but it's difficult to suggest anything, because everyone decides how best to act.
Revenge
If you went to cheating on your husband for revenge, then most likely you want him to know about it. In this situation, there is only one question: how to deal with his friend. After all, if a woman has changed with a man whom he has known for many years and who trusts, then, often, a man can not forgive his friend and break his relationship with him. Of course, your personal relationship with your husband, in theory, should not catch his friendship, but on the other hand it is worth considering how strong friendship is if a man calmly changed his friend with his wife. Therefore, if you decide to take revenge, then probably you need to still make this connection public, in order to get the desired satisfaction. Although it is still believed that revenge never leads to anything good. But here everyone has to decide for himself whether to agree with this statement or not.
Love
Well, the last, the most difficult option - a woman changed, because she fell in love. In this situation, it is always necessary to be honest with ourselves and with people who are not indifferent to us. If you feel that you have fallen in love with your husband's friend, and he reciprocates, you should not run away from your feelings and try to save your family. In this case, you simply make three people unhappy. Your husband will still always feel that between you no longer those feelings, and your secrets will start to torment him and sooner or later the relationship will still collapse. That's why it's better to honestly confess all at once. Of course, your husband will not be happy with this news, and, most likely, your relationship will deteriorate for a long time, and perhaps forever. However, you will still know that you did the right thing, and your husband will once understand that despite the fact that he is hurt, at least they acted honestly with him. Remember that love can never be built on a lie. So if you want to be happy - tell us about your treason.