I'm not getting married!

All women, well, or almost all, want to marry as soon as possible. This thesis is so strongly rooted in the thinking of modern society that it became an axiom. Moreover, modern social trends, such as strengthening the position of women in relation to men in the economic sense, freedom of relations (meaning intimate relations between men and women without marriage), the appearance of numerous strip clubs for both men and women do not affect the desire of the latter to marry.


Public opinion

The first reason to get married, or rather get married as soon as possible, is the time-tested thesis: "You can not live in a society and be independent of it." Public opinion plays a key role in shaping a person's world outlook, setting life priorities.

Probably every girl is familiar with the question of her old friend at the meeting: "Well, has not married yet?". If only my friends, but also friends. And parents start to wonder when their beloved daughter will make her grandchildren happy. And another aunt from Zhytomyr called, asked: "When Olesya is married, and then for twenty-five years after all. Vaughn neighbors are all rasskazkivali, Tatiana gave birth to a daughter, and Mila - twins, and husbands-handsome. " In the place of Olesya were many girls, from this their desire to be in place of Tatiana or Mila increases exponentially, and sometimes comes to mania. What will others think about a young, unmarried woman? "Something is wrong with her, probably, bad character, that's why nobody takes marriage." And this at best, sometimes, the fantasy is played out in earnest.

Public opinion dictates to each individual member of society what is right and what is not. How to behave in different life situations. We love, when we are praised, set as an example. Do not get out of the patterned behavior - that's one of the goals of a woman who is striving for marriage.

Sensation of security

Every woman wants to feel security, both material and physical. The desire for security is more evident at the intuitive level, which is due to the historical factor of the formation of society. Without going deep into details, it can be stated that throughout the history of the existence of mankind, women have been in a dependent position relative to men, which has been deposited in deep levels of the subconscious. Getting married, a woman realizes the need for protection, sometimes very conditional, because women that are prosperous in an economic sense are able to protect themselves without the participation of a "husband".

Academic sociologists came to the conclusion that the image of the man for whom women are trying to get married is more like the image of a father who raised a woman. It is in this fact that a woman's subconscious need for guardianship appears on the part of a man. Since childhood, girls are getting used to the fact that they are guarded first by the father, in the future - by the husband. And it is in childhood that the worldview and the system of women's life priorities are formed, with superior psychological pressure from the environment of upbringing. In this environment, the child also receives the first fundamental psychological guidelines for unconditional marriage on reaching adulthood.

Sense of ownership

Another important reason for the woman's desire to get married is a sense of ownership. This is not about the property of a man, for whom they marry, selfish motives have nothing to do with this. It's about the man himself, no matter how vulgar it may sound. Many women believe that by marrying, they get their husband in the property. There is also another aspect - that from the moment of marriage, a man begins to belong only to his wife and no one else. A woman is worried that a man no longer gets to anyone, but only to her alone.

This fact is quite simple explanation: a sense of ownership helps a woman to muffle the feeling of fear of losing a beloved man. If you look a little deeper into the subconscious of a woman, marriage, in her opinion, is quite a serious decision that determines the course of future life, both men and women. Such decisions allow planning the joint family life for years ahead, which gives a feeling of confidence and stability in the future, in the implementation of social attitudes, vaccinated since childhood.

Whatever the reasons for the passionate desire of marriage for women, it is necessary to understand that people have a property very often to give out wishful thinking. A happy life with a loved one is possible without a marriage, the reverse is also true. Not all marriages are happy. And more than fifty percent fall apart in the first five years of family life. Family life involves hard work on yourself, both husband and wife, it is a struggle with your own ego and a constant search for compromises.