Matrix: Full Reload
Sometimes it happens that it does not really matter who actually comes from the pair of spouses of the initiator of "temporary rest from each other". Whatever it was, but sometimes it happens that both partners perceive this idea with great ease. And the thing is that sometimes the relationship begins to "get rid of yourself": frequent quarrels over trifles, which recently acquired status and after a heated discussion, they tend to expand to the level of global problems, "pathological fatigue" from each other , loss of sexual interest and much more.
So, having weighed all the pros and cons, the two contracting parties consider the only way out in changing the current situation is parting. But not parting forever, and the so-called love time-out. So what? You are already accustomed to each other, you have (they all still have, but just slightly annoyed) feelings and it's hard for you to imagine that this person will not be around. There is a suitable consensus, which should be built on the following fundamental issues:
- Total time-out period. Will you call or visit each other during this period? And also at this moment "do not arise" and "do not loom" ...
- To be honest - do not start novels on the side of the scooter and do not "resuscitate" all the alternatives.
- Live in complete solitude and "as far as possible, mellow your relationships with outsiders".
Having found a compromise in these matters, you can safely, by making a quiet sigh, parting "along the different banks", expecting a breakthrough "fresh wind" in your already tired relationship.
When all the same it will be to brake the brakes
As a rule, the very first thought of making a love break arises in the head after half a year of living together, when the all-euphoria from passion has disappeared, and all of the habits of the beginning that have shown themselves become annoying. In this situation, the time-out usually leads to a full break: the emotional ties are already very weak and it seems that it is much easier to find a new favorite than to reconcile or tolerate all the obvious shortcomings of the old one.
On the second place on the frequency of time-outs is the birth of the child. Representatives of the stronger sex often at this very moment begin to feel that in life there was a real "coup d'état", and rightfully belonging to only the man "throne" was taken by a constantly screaming kid. The crisis of a full revaluation of all values requires complete rest and considerable time. Here, just in this situation, the other half often very reluctantly lets the man ponder in proud solitude ...
Another no less suitable moment for starting a love-timeout is considered to be the middle of a "life game". Already, as a rule, by the age of 35-38, men are beginning to be deeply concerned with the ever-trembling mind of the question of finding the meaning of life. Constantly thinking about what has already been done and what has not been done, the man re-decides for himself, but needed him: this work, profession, and this wife. By the time he runs away from himself, he runs away from his beloved. Here it is time to give him the full right and the opportunity to do it. By the way, it is worth repealing the fact that the easier a man can get a full "access to himself," the more likely the possibility that everything will be able to return to its own place.
Basic inalienable rules of breaks
- First of all, it should be said that indefinite-time-outs in relations on the topic a-la "Until we both can not fully feel that ..." still does not exist! In the opinion of psychologists, a person simply is not capable of sustaining such stress to the best of his ability. The most optimal period for a love pause is considered to be a period of one week to a month.
- We all remember the words of the once popular song: "Do not cry, do not be afraid, do not ask!". So, at such a moment, there is no need like a fountain, spray your emotions in different directions, or, even worse, in all possible and impossible ways, try to keep a loved one next to you, even if the offer to make a time out of the relations caught you off guard.
- It is not necessary to include a wide circle of the public in the discussion of this scrupulous topic. And with the narrow, by the way, you should be more careful. Here you need to think with your head and work with your own convolutions!
- There is no need for an exchange of "prisoners of war"! It is not necessary to return all the donated things, demonstratively and enthusiastically born actresses to tear postcards and letters and cut the sofa in half. Here it is very important to do quite the opposite, with all the strength you try to emphasize the incompleteness of this situation with two "fat strips".
- The final rule is that you should drive away all thoughts. In other words, you should always remember that whatever kind of result is the love-time-out, never mentally return to it!
And at the end of this topic I want to quote Oscar Wilde, who once said that: "Smart spouses tend to sleep absolutely different rooms, have dinner at different times, leave to spend vroz.Odnim word, do everything that can save their happy marriage ! "So think about these words and let the situation go by itself. Only in this case, everything can change, and your relationship will be able to acquire a new meaning, because sometimes it is so useful to rest from each other!