Type Mrs. Know-it-all
This mother knows the exact answers to all the questions. Her opinion is unshakable, she is the ultimate truth. She knows exactly what system to develop a child in, what garden to write down and how to cure a cough. She will tell you about all the mistakes that you make, and how to avoid them. You will receive criticism in your address in any case - it is often important for it to express knowledge opposite to yours.
How to behave with it?
With such a mother it is useless to argue, do not waste energy. Her opinion can be heard (suddenly it will be useful?), But, in any case, do not justify it and do not despair because of criticism. The opinion of such a mother is no more important than your own. That she chose another object for her teachings, tell her that you trust only specialists in certain areas, and not dilettantes.
Type of perfection
Being a mother is her vocation. Her baby is always perfectly and neatly dressed, and the apartment is sterile clean. She clearly adheres to the regime of the day, and for dinner she always has four dishes prepared according to the book "Healthy Nutrition of the Child". In children's things is always order, and in the morning - charging. She does not understand how you do not have time to iron the diapers and wipe the toys every day.
How to behave with it?
The successes of such a mother deserve only praise. But they can cause you to self-criticize: "I'm a bad mother, I do not care about a child". Do not go crazy because of this! First, you have virtues that even "Self Perfection" can envy. Secondly, attention to detail may mean that this mother, unlike you, has nothing else to do.
Type anxious
She may already have a second child, but she will for every occasion call her friends to consult. She is extremely susceptible to the opinion of various specialists in child affairs. And often falls from the extreme to the extreme. It seems to her that she is doing everything wrong and that she is a bad mother. She can transfer the child from the kindergarten to the kindergarten, and in connection with every pimple run to the dermatologist. She wonders how you can safely sleep if your child has a red-cheeked second day.
How to behave with it?
First, try not to succumb to her panic. If this mother is your close friend, then you must fulfill the role of psychologist and try to explain to her that unnecessary excitement is not constructive. They make the situation in the family nervous, which does not lead to anything good. In addition, in this state it is impossible to make weighted decisions. If this is an "outside" mom, decide for yourself whether you want to spend your time on free consultations, which will be required more day by day.
Types are rarely found in pure form. You did not find yourself in these descriptions? This is not surprising. But surely they saw certain features of their character or behavior in different combinations? There is over, than to reflect ...
Type competing mum
For this mother, it is vital that her baby develops earlier and better than others. She loves to compare: "Your 9 months already and it's not worth it? My by this time already went! ". Plus this mummy: she deals with the baby. But on the other hand, while satisfying their vanity, such mothers often impose high demands on the baby.
How to behave with it?
Usually people behave this way when their opinion of themselves depends on the opinions of others. Your enthusiasm feeds her self-esteem, which is not bad, if you did not feel disappointed. It is self-asserted at your expense, and it's up to you to decide if you want to play by its rules. Psychologists advise to avoid the relationship of "eternal competition". If you have to communicate, tell her one day that you are just sure that the future Lomonosov or Pele is in front of you (her child). Catching in your tone of irony, she will cease to boast daily. And do not tell her about the achievements of your baby, better find someone who is really happy for you.
Type of mother-daughter
It seems that you need to attach one more mother to them with the baby. She is late everywhere and can easily not feed the baby lunch, because she was carried away by more interesting things. She forgets to take a medical card to the doctor and constantly asks friends or neighbors to help her manage her affairs.
How to behave with it?
God forbid you take on the role of her mother or elder friend. You will take her to the kindergarten of her baby, perform a bunch of other requests. This mother, like a child, is looking for a way to escape from any affairs and it does not matter what she is already 30. And it's up to you, whether to indulge her "whims" or not.
Special type
This mother requires the surrounding people to have a special relationship with their child. He needs to sit in the front row, they need to be passed without waiting ... It requires special attention of the doctors of the polyclinic and the personnel of the kindergarten. Her baby has the right to use any toys regardless of the opinion of their owners. It requires special privileges for itself without any reason.
How to behave with it?
If you notice such traits in any of the moms with whom you communicate, it is better to stop this behavior immediately. If you start refusing it only when "patience" bursts, a scandal will break out. After all, how is it better than you? Firmly and confidently defend your rights. And it makes sense to agree with her about the order of "privileges".
Type democrat
She believes that the child has the same right to vote as an adult. She is so supportive of democracy, which can, with your child, state that he is right, not you, than seriously undermine your authority. Her democratism can relate to the clothes and hairstyle of the child, his freedom in choosing toys and ways of spending time. Children are very fond of going to visit such mothers and making them their own example.
How to behave with it?
Democracy is great. However, explain to this mother that you prefer to bring up the child as you see fit. And you also have the right to do so. Tell her that parenting techniques are a private matter for every family. Ask her not to undermine your authority with the child, and make your own observations face to face. In a word, arm yourself with her arguments.
Type of prevention
Her child can watch cartoons for hours and play computer games. Children love to visit her: they allow them, eat sweets before meals and drink as much soda as they please. Often such a mother "hovers in the clouds" and is focused on their affairs. She sincerely believes that everything that is done is done for the better and that you do not need to be warned that her baby has a runny nose and yours can get infected.
How to behave with it?
No matter how you communicate with her, it does not really matter to her. She will find herself any excuse, and she will blame you for being too obsessive, even if your concern has a good reason. If your children are friends, take the situation under your control - to make claims to it is useless, such is her style.
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