Many people recently pretend that there is no difference between men and women. And if an adult can decide for themselves what does not differ from the other sex, then with the children this approach is not only incorrect, it is harmful. Girls and boys are not alike at least physiologically. However, psychologically, children of different sexes also differ among themselves. This is a proven fact.
How to educate your daughter so as not to harm her?Psychological differences
The psychological needs and desires of children of different sexes are insignificant, but differ. For the girl it is important:- receive more care. If the boys prefer independence, the girls should receive affection and attention;
- learn to trust. Undoubtedly, for men this is no less important, but the woman at some point is completely dependent on her husband. We are talking about pregnancy and the subsequent birth of a child. If at this time it is constantly tormented by fear and distrust, nothing good will come of it. And you can only trust to trust in childhood;
- learn to be sincere in caring. A future mother (although this, of course, is not your daughter's only role, but very important) should be able to take care of others sincerely. In childhood, it is easiest to absorb such behavior patterns, especially if they are present in the family.
What should parents do?
When raising a girl, parents must adhere to the basic rules. However, they are relevant for parents of boys. Except for some that are easy to learn by specifics. Let's start from the beginning: Be an example for your child:- all models of behavior children absorb while watching their parents. This means that you need to show by your personal example how to behave. The mother must be feminine, self-confident, calm;
- the best advice and example will not be how you hide your shortcomings, on the contrary. Show the child that you accept the problems that are, and work with them.
- Attract the girl to homework and home improvement. Why should a woman do this? Men in many ways do not understand what "comfort" is. They can feel, but they can not create it. In a woman, on the contrary, there is a feeling of how to properly equip a house. Therefore, it is easiest to instill good habits in this area in childhood.
- personal care. If the majority of men can not pay special attention to their appearance and work successfully, then with women everything is completely different. A girl should look good, it's a society to impose on her. She can go against the system, but far-sighted will pre-form a good taste, teach her to dress beautifully, paint, style her hair. Flash drives with their favorite cartoon characters on "women's themes" can be great helpers in education. Online games about decorating and cleaning the house, cooking games, games for makeup artists and stylists and many others will help to form a young person the concept of economy and femininity.
- on the part of the father a girl must receive approval and love. Remember that it is from the model of communication with the father that the girl will make a start in choosing her future husband. Therefore, the pope is almost obliged to behave like a gentleman: to speak compliments, support, protect;
- if there is no father in the family, find another significant male figure. It can be a native or consolidated grandfather, your cousin or uncle, a close family friend. They should not replace the father, but should be an example of how a man should be. If such a person does not appear in the life of the child, problems in communicating with the opposite sex can not be avoided.
- emotions for a girl are quite normal. Quite often an emotional storm in response to punishment can be so strong that the child will not even understand what she was punished for. Therefore, do not rush to swear. First, explain what the problem is, what the girl did wrong. And if you think that the punishment itself should be, punish after the explanations.