Husband, coming home, begins to notice the mess in the apartment and not too well-groomed husband - without make-up, nervous, in worn and washed clothes. However, a woman after the wedding often feels less loved. Of course, flowers and sweets are now given to her on the eighth of March and on her birthday, if one does not forget about it. About the concerts in the Philharmonic and the theaters, the husband also rarely recalls: "So tired!" And replaces cultural entertainment with a simple set: television, football, beer.
Spouses start to think that love ... is over. And terribly suffer from the thought that now all my life I'll have to live with the unloved. Of course, they are connected so much: a common apartment, a common car, common children. As a rule, unhappy common children. After all, they - lazy parents, and not suspecting that the good relationship of the couple consists of very many reasons and very large work. And right after the wedding, many do not really understand how family life will be built. However, in relation to the spouses after the wedding, it is easy to understand whether this marriage will be happy. For example, there are couples who are diligently struggling for their family happiness. They relate to each other with patience and understanding, and if it's not easy to get along with each other - go to a psychoanalyst. The specialist will give advice that suits a particular difficult situation in a particular family. However, there are general principles that should be followed.
- Try to understand the language of one who is near you. And if something is not clear - specify . For example, you terribly want to discover a new pretty sports suit just about your size, which you recently saw in a nearby shop. You decided to use a diplomatic trick, and they said: "Darling, you know, I seem to have recovered a little ..." This hysterical hint may be mixed with this ambiguous hint. For example, put a Christmas tree card in the fitness center. And not because he thinks you are complete, but because you are upset by your extra centimeters.
- Think about how your marriage will be built before the wedding . Many spouses do not think how they will live together. Of course, when in love - everything is seen in pink. You do not even think about it, but what it's like - family life. The wedding seems to be the limit of dreams. And it turns out that there is life after the wedding. And the couple have to work hard to ensure that this life is happy and harmonious.
- Do not confuse love with love . At first you thought that with this man you are ready to live your whole life. That he is clever and handsome, and hard-working, and very smart. And the next morning after the wedding, the veil of love fell asleep and you found that you were awakened next to a bald, paunchy, elderly half-educated person - he, from the vocational school, was still in the first year expelled for drunkenness. And no he is not hard-working - he sits beer in the evenings, instead of adjusting family life. Was it worth the happiness of the money invested in the wedding, the time and nerves that you have yet to spend on divorce.
- Be careful with the children . Children should live in harmony. Therefore, pregnancy in itself, without deep and proven feelings - is not at all an occasion for a wedding. Maybe it's more honest to agree that the child's father recognizes him after birth and will take care and pay alimony? And then the misfortune of the spouse forcibly tied to the family hearth will reflect not only on your faithful, but also on you, and on your child. A child, then, in fact, nothing is to blame. It's the same in marriage. Are you sure that you are happy with each other, love each other? Excellent. Remember that children should live in love, in a happy and full-fledged family.